What should I do...she gags herself...?

Question

Okay my cuzin is home for a week staying with me. She told me that she gags herself because this one guy called her fat. She said she gets sick after she eats, but the problem is shes the skinnyest thing ive ever seen. She made me promise not to tell anyone cause her mom would kill her. I don't want her to get mad at me but i don't know what to do. Please help

Thanks all

I am afraid that she won't ever talk to me agian if i do tell, and i promised not to tell.

Answer 1

If she is gagging herself to throw up and there by "purging" herself of the food she ate, then that's called bulimia and she needs to get help for it. Hopefully it was caught early and can be treated with some counseling. You need to let her mom or yours know. That's a horrible thing to do to yourself and she could cause major health problems if it continues.

Answer 2

You are helping her by asking this question. The disease she has is called bolemia and it is a eating disorder. Have you ever seen the pictures of Mary Kate and Ashely when they were skin and bones. There are sites you can look at for more pictures of people with this disorder. Maybe if you had her go on the sites with you and look at and read about what she is doing to her body and the long term effects could be she may stop if it has not gotten tooo far. If this has been going on for a long time she will need adult help and the best thing you could do for her is to tell the nearest most understanding adult close to her. She definately knows she needs help or she would not have let you see her do that or told you about it.

Answer 3

If in her head she thinks she's fat you can talk to her until you're blue in the face but it won't do you or her any good. Chances are you cousin has an eating disorder and you are not helping her at all by staying quiet. Tell her parents or your parents. She might get mad a you for a while but she'll get over it.

Answer 4

well, I used to do drugs and I hated I mean hated when my boyfriend spilled the beans on me. But looking back its really the only way to expose the situation and it will also make it harder on her to do. When people know I mean. So you really should and she may not like you for awhile but adventaully it will work, it will. Its a long hard process to go thru and she has to be willing before anything ever will work, but telling and putting it out there will get the ball rolling, again she wont like it at first but its really the only way to get it going. It kinda like as long as its easy for her she'll keep doing it, and after people become aware of it that are around her and will give her a hard time it will get harder and harder and she'll get tired. Also it takes a lot of getting tired before they quit so better now then later. Good luck KIm

Answer 5

Does she make herself vomit? She is bulimic, which can be a life threatening condition. She may never be able to have babies if she keeps this up. She needs help, professional help. Maybe try to help her and keep talking to her. Encourage her to get help at school or talk to her parents about it. Tell her that you think she looks unhealthy and is too skinny and you're really concerned about her. I would tell her that you feel like you need to tell her parents, but you'll give her 3 weeks to tell them herself. Tell her you're doing it because you care about her and she's worth more than wasting herself away. Maybe talk to another adult about it and let them tell her parents. Maybe they all can make sure she never knows that you told. The parents can make it out like they've discovered it on their own weeks later... Make sure whomever you tell knows that you're not going to say anything unless your name isn't attached to what you tell them. You don't want her to hate you. Trust me though, if she knows, later on she will thank you a million times!!! She probably told you because she wants help, but is too afraid to go get help. :) Good luck. Please do the right thing and get the girl some help!

Answer 6

Promises are only meant to be kept when you are keeping them with someone's best interests at heart. In this instance, you absolutely need to tell someone who is close to her. Yes, she will be mad at you. I'll let you in on a secret: her anger is going to come from having to face her problem and no longer being able to deny it. However, she is probably going to direct that anger at you. She will get over it.
One more thing, if this is a full blown eating disorder, she will learn how to deal with it (if she wants help) but you never reach a "fully recovered" stage. Good luck and I'll keep her in my prayers. :)

Answer 7

She might get mad at you now, but in the long run she'll thank you for saving her life. Unfortantly, if she gags herself to much she'll lose to much weight to survive and eventually pass away. I know that you don't want that for her. Help her, even if it means her getting mad.

Answer 8

Your cousin is suffering from bulemia and needs professional help to deal with it. If you don't feel comfortable telling her mom, tell yours, or a grandma, or an aunt, or even another cousin if you think it'll help. If not, go on-line. There are articles about people with bulemia, specifically several celebrities who were convinced they were fat (can you say Olson Twin?). Maybe if she reads something about them, she'll see herself. But don't count on it. The people we lie to best our ourselves.

Answer 9

The best thing that you can do for her is tell her parents. She will be totally furious with you at first but soon enough she will realize that you were just trying to help and protect her. Don't hide this one from her family. That's not healthy.

Answer 10

Look this up on the net. People die every day from eating disorders. Would rather have her mad at you or dead because of your inaction. Tell your mother at least and let her decide how to handle it, at least do that much.