he wants and the pay is not great,we make the mortgage and barley eke by with the bills,i know i need to go work,i worked for years till my father passed away 3 years ago and my husband says i need to go work full time,i dont want to do full time cause i feel that hes the man and im not going to be out there working my butt of while hes getting off early watching t.v,. and farting around and this is a big argument in our household,things are pretty strapped here but im stubborn!this government jobs made him a bit lazy!but he gets paid for all the time off so he says i should have no problem with it,am i wrong?
2007-06-26 04:28:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're lazy and spoiled. The fact is he works and you don't! What's your contribution to the household expenses? Get out there and start pulling your weight! You're completely wrong and need to adjust your attitude.
2007-06-26 05:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by ((♫♥♪♫♥♪♫ Shivers ♫♥♪♫♥♪)) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are strapped and you are going to argue about how many hours each one of you works. I dont know what government your husband is working for but no job I know in government service (state and federal) allows anyone to take off early whenever they want and have every friday off. So get off your ***, get a job, pay your bills just like almost every other person in this country does and shut up about it. And one other thing, the government job didnt make him lazy, he did.
2007-06-26 04:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by dave n 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's always an employee that sluffs off on the job
government or otherwise. With industry it makes our
prices go up, with the government it makes our taxes
go up . It's called work ethic, I was taught an HONEST
days work for an honest days pay.
(old school -- we've never been well to do, but my wife
worked outside the home for two very short periods. We
had agreed before we married that she would be a homemaker
and there for the kids. -- it was our way and I'd do it
again, but maybe not in todays world --married 42 yrs)
2007-06-26 04:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What if he drops dead, will you look for someone else to be the man of the house or step up to the plate and pay for your own way?
My thoughts are: If you find a job and work full-time, you will feel better about yourself and won't look at your husband in a negative way as you will be too busy and won't have as much time on your hands to look for his faults and/or flaws. None of us are perfect and quite frankly, you can only change yourself and how you respond or think, you can't change him. Why keep arguing when the simplest solution is you go to work? Perhaps when you are calling him lazy you are really talking to yourself?
2007-06-26 04:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be working.. It is 2007.. Even with Children there is no reason you should not be working.. My boss is a working wife and mother of 2 little ones.. There are Daycare services that will provide for your child while you are at work.. It is their job to take care of your child while working.. Get off your butt and show him you can do just as much as he does...
I work for a government agency as well and we do have vacation time but we don't just get off every Friday. Government is Mon-Friday. No ifs ands or buts about it.
2007-06-26 04:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by movu101779 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should go to work and pull your share not for you but for your family, for your relationship. You have been off for 3 years now and the stress of carring all the financial burdens of the relationship will soon weigh on your husband and you will start fighting more and more and eventually your relationship will seriously deterioate quickly because of a simple job and an arguement of whose job is more difficult. Its not worth risking your relationship over. Find a job, do your share for the relationship and take some of the burden off of your husband.
2007-06-26 04:38:29 · answer #6 · answered by Bboitano 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, if you're not mature enough to get married, DON'T.
Second, young lady, there is absolutely no reason you should not get your butt out there and get a job. Seems like you just want to be maintained so YOU can sit on your lazy butt.
Third, you wouldn't "barely be getting by" if you had a job also.
Jesus, woman, what are you going to do when he gets tired of YOU and leaves? It really peeves me off when a capable woman can't take care of herself.
2007-06-26 04:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously you believe that someone has promised fairness or that even such a thing exists. If you are strapped for cash you should both be doing whatever it takes unless you are happy to be in that condition. Neither of you should be waiting for the other to fix the problem, nor should either of you be saying the other should do more. You should both be doing your best.
2007-06-26 05:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok, well i honestly think you are being lazy, i think that a marriage is based on being equal you are living in 2007 and woman work not just the men, whether he gets off early or not, you still need to work full time, dont you want to live a comfortable life and not scraping by on your payments, thats a sad way to live.........go to work
2007-06-26 04:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by jelly_bean_19_69 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a job. You're a grown woman, not a child. Stop acting like one. No one said life is fair.
2007-06-26 04:34:37 · answer #10 · answered by Courtney 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋