How can you be married and so LONELY?

Answer 1

That happens when your spouse isn't satisfying your emotional and physical needs.

Time to open up and tell him how you are feeling and what will fix it.

Answer 2

Are you lonely for a man/woman or just in life? If you are lonely in life friends are the best remedy. You CAN be married and have friends. When you get back from a few hours without your spouse and your laughing with your friends your marriage will be a little more interesting to you when you get home. If you are lonely for a man/woman then tell your spouse your lonely maybe you can work on it together. Maybe their lonely too.

Answer 3

I'm not (lonely that is) - but that doesn't mean I haven't had my lonely moments. Communication with your spouse is the key.
My hubby has always been a work-a-holic. Not much of a problem when the girls were little & needed me, but as they got older (high school), I did have a few lonely moments from time to time. Not so much anymore - mainly because I have talked to my husband about working so much and now we spend more time together because he has cut back on the number of DJ shows he does and the amount of OT he puts in at his regular job. His priorities were out of balance, and now they aren't...

Talk to your spouse - treat each other the way you used to when you started dating. Wake up each day with an attitude of "what can I do to bless my spouse today" - then DO it! It doesn't have to be anything big and doesn't have to involve money. It's all about attitude.

There really isn't enough information in your question for me to provide a sufficient answer to your question, but maybe you & your hubby need to spend more quality time together.

Answer 4

Being married to someone doesn't guarantee that you will interact with each other and become close. Some folks just do their own thing and come home and do their own thing. When you have a spouse who is not available emotionally and/or is gone a lot, it is very easy to feel lonely.

Try spending more time with friends or family and also try to tell your husband that you would like to spend more time with him talking. Try walking together. Play a board game. Think of things you two can do that will allow you to interact and talk to each other.

Answer 5

I'm sorry dear. I felt the same way the last 3 years (or so) of my marriage. She was not really in the marriage and I was trying to do all the work of making the marriage good. It was the lonliest time of my life. Now, even when I'm alone I don't feel lonely. Go see an objective counselor that can help you. You may want to include your husband as well. But start with you. God bless!

Answer 6

Well, if your spouse is the only one talking/complaining and when you try to say anything you are either ignored or insulted that would make you want to isolate yourself.

I love conversation, but my wife only wants to talk about certain topics and if I dare to talk about someting else she starts picking on me. I mean she will ignore what I'm saying and literally attack the way I speak, the words I use, the tone in my voice. If you are in a marriage like this and only deal with you spouse you would be very lonely.

Answer 7

Ok, I see what you are saying. My husband has to work long hours, so I get lonely sometimes too. The trick is to busy yourself, the lonely feeling wont go away, but it will be preoccupied. When you are with him just cherish the time you do have. Hope that helped.

Answer 8

Because you are responsible for your own happiness, your spouse isn't responsible for your happiness. He/She cares about it, of course, but if you're not happy, you probably should look inthe mirror for the reason why, in most cases.

Also, some people when they get married think that they should be joined at the hip with their spouse, and stop hanging out with their other friends. A good marriage is when both partners have a good mix of interests, and friends. You should never depend on your spouse to fulfill every emotional need you have. If you're doing that, you need to find other places for filling those needs. I'm not talking about cheating on your spouse, I'm talking about not having 1 person be EVERYTHING to you.

Answer 9

Being "empty,lonely" may be a sign of depression. If you suffer from depression you could be in a crowd of friends with all the attention on you and you';d still be lonely.

Answer 10

honestly the best advice i have is to base your relationship off of jesus christ. most marriages go wrong about 6-8 years in maybe less because the man has a belief system, the woman has a belief system. two peoples systems may be very close, but then what do you do on the major issues that there are disagreements? all you can do is compromise. to me that's not acceptable on a major issue. but if both people are christians, they base all there beliefs off the bible. (at least there supposed to and its a shame when they dont!) then if there's a disagreement on a belief, they can just pray about it and search for an answer in the bible. there is always an answer in the bible if you look hard enough. always, its just a matter of how hard you're lookin' and prayin'. it resolves lots of conflicts. it also tells husbands how they should treat their wives, and wives to husbands. and if both sides can just suck up all the pride, and do what they're asked, marriages go pretty smoothly...there's always going to be rough patches. no matter what...just something to consider if you're not already a christian. if you are, no offense, but i think yall both need to just get down together and pray. then search for an answer in the bible.

Answer 11

Marriage is a very tricky affair. If you and your partner agree in all matters or atleast in 60 % cases then life is heavenly. But if you disagree in everything then it will be hell. And if your spouse is trouble, it is better to be silent and then you will be lonely and is further aggravated when people side with your spouse and blame you.