I think it must have been one persons idea to leave the children. ( Gerrry). If I was Kate, I would be too bitter and full of resentment to stay with him.
I think at the moment they are showing solidarity, but when it all goes quiet in the future, what then?
What do you think?
2007-06-26 02:40:24 · 32 answers · asked by babyshambles 5 in News & Events ➔ Current Events
Yourmuda I can be interested without giving a ****. Which I dont.
2007-06-26 02:45:32 · update #1
Abejundio - spelling it correctly would have been a start?! Switch to full sodium salt please, thats it use alot.
2007-06-26 02:46:42 · update #2
Madgal did I say I KNEW it was Gerry? He is the more strong character. Thats why I think it. Of course no one is claiming to know, we are entitled to an opinion. Thanks for your contribution.
2007-06-26 03:05:10 · update #3
Saturnfive I have given Lexy best answer before, even when she disagreed with me actually. Is this not true Lexy? I give best answer to the best answer.
2007-06-26 04:18:25 · update #4
i don't think so
he is far too controlling, she is keeping shtum, there is only so much a person can take, they both know more then they are letting on - Kate is the 'camels back' in all this e.g. she holds the key, when she starts to discuss her feelings and the true events of that night, then i think the relationship will crumble.
he is in control at the moment but everyone has their braking point.
the way she sometimes looks at him it appears she is really angry with him but has to appear 'calm'.
like other high profile cases i.e. Denise Bulger/Furgus and ex husband and Sara Payne the relationship can only take so much
edit Lexy
i would have answered sooner but just finished work
i recon Gerry is in control as the very first press interview they gave he orchestrated the whole thing, he gave permission for reporters to talk, told them how many questions they could ask, he even gave permission for Kate to answer, pretty impressive for someone who, in my mind would have found it difficult to speak given the circumstances
he decides what next steps to take, he decides their next plan of action.
he is a man of stature, he is a highly rated professional, a man of power in his profession - come on - do you really think he not making all the decisions, why does Kate never come home, why is it always him, he is in control of all this.
im interested to know how you think he is not?
2007-06-26 03:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by michelle l 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think if that woman had any sense she'd high-tail it out of there as fast as she could. I wouldn't trust that man as far as I could throw him, and this actually has nothing to do with his leaving Madeleine or showing no emotion etc, it has nothing to do with the case at all, there is just something about him that I don't like in general. Anyone who knows me in the "real world" for want of a better description, would tell you that if I dislike someone, then there is something about that person to dislike. I brooke no fools and I am one hell of a good judge of character, and I do not like his at all.
I also think they are sticking together now because to do otherwise would show the severity of the problem neither of them are willing to admit exists. I think Kate will stay with him because she left Madeleine too, even if it was his idea, she could have said no. I have said before that I think he is controlling and manipulative and that she is scared of him. I think if we could get them alone, we would hear a whole different side to this story. I know he came back to England alone a while back, but that was at the beginning, now I think it would be a whole different ballgame.
2007-06-27 02:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good point! It all depends on how strong their marriage was before and if there is any more guilt on one side rather than the other. Tragedy can get people closer or pull them apart. I think they will have to do much soul searching and be prepared to listen as well as talk. So often one person in the marriage will deal with tragedy quite differently to the other. I'm not particularly a fan of these people but I do hope it works for the sake of the other little ones, they've lost a sister and for they're parents to split up as well would be devastating for them at such a young age!
2007-06-26 03:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by clara 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think strong marriages have crumbled before now in the face of this kind of trauma; the issue you speculate about is just that - speculation. Speculating about the state of their marriage at all is just prurient.
As for your suggestion that it would have been Gerry who suggested leaving the kids - you acknowledge that you don't know them so why bother speculating?
You are not seeing them as they were at the time - you are not seeing anything other than the face they are presenting to the public in the midst of their worst nightmare. Before anyone jumps on that, I only mean the kind of face that we all present that protects our inner selves from uncomfortable scrutiny, nothing more.
It would be tragedy heaped on tragedy if their marriage was to fail after this. In the spirit of compassion, I sincerely hope that it does not.
2007-06-27 01:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly, maybe not to be honest i could not put up with Gerry McCain for five minutes. Usually in cases were there is an incident involving a child one or both blames the other person, but in this case the two were equally to blame. I reckon they will stay together, seen as though they think they did nothing wrong, they wont end up fighting over what happened.
2007-06-26 08:04:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
That is the first thing that occurred to me when I heard they left the children alone. I think I'm right in saying that most marriages of couples where something terrible like this happens don't survive. I hope for their sake that it was exactly 50/50 blame as if one (yes presumably Gerry but who knows) cajoled the other into the neglect then they won't survive in the long term whatever happens, it will just eat away at the other parent.
2007-06-26 02:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by Chris S 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I guess it would depend how their relationship was before this happened and then even then there is no guarantee either way.
Even the strongest, most loving relationships can collapse after something like this.
Lots of people stay together in relationships through horrific circumstances and come out the otherside although they're not necessarily happy.
Time will tell with the McCanns.
I guess people make their wedding vows in good faith at the time, but I think alot of people make them, assuming nothing bad is going to happen.
A friend of mine was seriously brain damaged in an accident. His wife left him as she said she couldn't stand him anymore and did not want to have to care for him as it wasn't the life they had planned!!
2007-06-26 05:06:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It wouldn't surprise me if the marriage didn't survive. It would n't be the first time that a tragedy has broken a marriage: James Bulger's parents broke up and so did Sarah Payne's.
Stress does not always seem to bring people closer, particularly if there is possible cause for blame or resentment.
2007-06-26 05:31:12 · answer #8 · answered by Beau Brummell 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
And you know it was Gerrys idea to leave the children... How? And you think Kate is full of bitterness and resentment... What makes you think that?
I wish them luck with their marriage, I, like no one else on here have any idea whether it will survive the trauma of losing a child.
2007-06-26 03:00:57 · answer #9 · answered by madgal 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
The statistics are not in their favour. I really did think Sarah and Michael Payne were so together that their marriage would survive, and I was quite sad when I learned they had also broken up. So the McCanns perceived 'togetherness' is probably a front, I'm sure given time they will start holding each other accountable, but I also agree, they are welcome to each other, and them staying together prevents two other people having to live with them
2007-06-26 02:59:29 · answer #10 · answered by Eden* 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋