Am I wrong or right?

Question

My husband has a pretty little 22 yr old blonde that works in construction f4 him and she sends him txt msg's at all hours. I say, "She is not ur friend, she works for you, period"! Last night @ 1:00am she is calling needing a ride to the airport 3 hours away. I said "H_ll no! Let her call on her friends or bf's. You've got no business going out in the middle of the night to go get her and take her all that way; you're a married man who finally spent a moment with ur family". He got all mad and we got into yet another big fight. I don't think they are sleeping together, but the principal. No I don't trust him to have female friends, because the last 2 "friends". Both before we were married, but were together - about 4 yrs ago.
So in all opinions am I right or am I, as he seems to think, a nagging *****?
Plz help with real answers

Answer 1

You are right!! He has no business taking a girl to the airport at that hour!! Even if they are just friends it does not look right!! How would he feel if the situation was reversed? Would he let you go? No he wouldn't!! He would be pissed and accusing you of cheating!! Married men have no business hanging out with single women!!

Answer 2

Hell no you are not a nagging *****. (Well, maybe you are, but not about this !)
Long time, old family friends are one thing. This 22 year old gal is after your man, what I would be worried about is that he doesn't seem to be disuading her from persuing him. Im sure he is flattered by the attention and the obvious crush she has on him. He needs to cut the after hours communication off completely if he doesn't want it to end up ruining your marrage.

TO SUM IT UP >

- he needs to point blank, put an end to the (friendship) / WORK ONLY.

- lets say he is not interested in her - he needs to tell her he is flattered, but he is not interested in her or anyone except for you ! (his wife)

- If, god forbid, he is incouraging this behavior from her, you need to decide how to handle this touchy situation. You can get pissed and get mad all the time about it (or) you could try spicing up your relationship, show him confidence and nicely tell him how you feel about the whole thing, and how much you love him, and ask how he would feel if the tables were turned. (he could incourage the behavior just because it makes him feel wanted or sexy or whatever - maybe you could try and make him feel that way again)

- (?) have you talked to her (?)
Maybe try talking to her instead of him.
(this idea might piss off the old man)

MOST IMPORTANT -
(give your man some of the best sex he's ever had in the next fex day's. Let him know what he's got at home is pretty da__ good, and he needs not go anywhere else. !!!)

Answer 3

Wow. My mom has this same problem with my dad.

He has a pretty, much younger friend that calls him daily, invites him places, etc. My dad says that she's just a "friend" and can't seem understand why my mom has a problem with her. He says that his friend is too young for him to be interested in her, and that he would never cheat on my mom.

However, my dad's friend is the same age I am, and my boyfriend is around my dad's age. We were "friends" at first. Until we started talking on the phone everyday and inviting each other places. Now, we're in love.

It's only natural for two people, when they're spending a lot of time together, to develop an attraction. That's what you're concerned about with your husband and that's what my mom is concerned about with my dad. So, my mom, like you, has had frequent talks with my dad and he doesn't call his friend as much, but I know my mom would prefer it if he would break off ties with her completely.

No, you're not a naggin *****. In my opinion, your feelings are justified. That woman had no right calling your house at 1:00 am to talk to YOUR husband. That is the ultimate in disrespect. How would your husband like it, if you had an attractive friend calling you all hours of the day and night and trying to spend time with you? ...bottom line, he wouldn't

Answer 4

You are 100% right. You should be his priority - not this 22 year old bimbo who thinks it is ok to go after someone else's husband. He is no better - he needs to tell her to stop or she will lose her job. He has some nerve. How would he like it if you got text messages in the middle of the nite from other men. Maybe he needs a dose of his own medicine. If he was with other women before you got married and you still married him - you let him get away with it. Once they do get away with it - they never stop. You really need to think this out. He should be treating you much better. You are his wife and he needs to respect your feelings. And you are NOT a nagging b*****. You are fighting for what is right and if he can't understand that then that is too bad for him. Don't take anymore crap from him.

Answer 5

You are right to be taking a stand on this. Maybe it is just an innocent thing between them. However, it is completely inappropriate for them to be acting so friendly with each other. He would never be getting a call at 1:00 like that from some other employee named "Pete" who was fat and hairy. He needs a wake up call of another kind. To show him that he is acting like a 15 year old. It is natural for a man to be flattered by the attention of a young attractive girl, but come on, he is a married man now. Keep up the nagging until he comes around.

Answer 6

I think you have the right to be upset. No one should just call their boss up in the middle of the night. I wouldn't trust him very much at all either. He may not be cheating just yet, but if he keeps hanging around a 22 year old blonde girl, I'm sure temptation will start to get to him.

You should try asking him why he likes her. Does he like being around her because she looks good, or is he truly looking for a friendship? That will probably make him think a little bit of why he wants to be around her. Maybe he'll realize he is being a little lustful and stop wanting to be around her so much.

This girl seems like trouble, and I'd try and end whatever they have going now before it gets too far and he does something he ends up regretting.

Answer 7

My dearest you are in the unenviable position of regrets;
I have an analogy for where you find yourself now, so please be patient and allow me to indulge your answer to you.

A marriage is just like an F-14 Tom Cat Naval Air Craft, it seats two and each aviator has a specific responsibility to the air craft while its in flight; this air craft is the same one used in the movie TOP GUN.

If the Pilot or the RIO is unable to fly correctly, both are in danger, so once you see either not performing up to their best abiliites, the Air Craft must be landed and the aviator who is malfunctioning must go see the doc, in this case a MSW or MFCC, should you dare to go back up in the Air with that same aviator and you find that they are a triator and they intend to sell your Air Craft to the Enemy aka a inmature 22 year old blonde, then you must ensure the enemy does not get that Air Craft, in that event you must EJECT! EJECT! EJECT! and make sure the craft is destroyed and leave that traitor SOB to be picked up by enemy forces as for you, your family and friends will pick you up and then give you a medal for your bravery in the face of the enemy.

It looks bad for your hubby, he should never ever , turn aside from you for anyone , its made even more suspect that the person of concern is female, shame on him, you becareful, keep your eyes open, check to see if insurance policies have been opened on you, always let a family member know where you are and what is going on in your house for awhile, I am not trying to scare you, I am trying to prepare you for anything,,, when a man start to act the way your hubby is acting, I think if you had to choose between a broken heart or loss of life, I think you would rather cry a river, atleast you will be allive to do so, you watch the news just like I do, the scenario you are painting looks all too familiar,, becareful and be ready to bounce and never go back, file your divorce , stay with your big brother or hire a body guard until such time as the divorce is final, that is if it gets that bad.

But I urge you to stop taking this lightly, this is serious stuff, infact she should be let go from the employment, although at this stage if she is comfortable calling your house at that hour and not even saying to you, "I am sorry for calling so late" their relationship already out strips yours. protect your self and save the ship if you can, but keep your hand on the eject button...

Answer 8

WOW Cant blame you at all . Talk about taking care of business . I'm single and have a pretty little brunette working for me and if she called in the middle of the knight looking for a ride well i would give her a ride . But if i was married there would be no way i would even think about it and ask her if she has a mental problem calling and hire as old woman just to keep my marriage. If your a nag you have good reason to be.

Answer 9

I think you are totally right to have these feelings. I would think there is something else going on if she is txt msg's to him, and needing a ride to the airport. That is not a normal co-worker realationship. Maybe you should have offered to take the little girl to the airport, she may have not needed a ride to badly than. Honostly, why would he get mad about not taking her to the airport! It makes me think he really wanted to take her?? If someone called my husband in the middle of the night for that he'd tell them h*ll no!!!
Good Luck

Answer 10

You are correct. Why does this little blonde think she CAN call him at 1am for a 6 hour round trip? What is he saying to her to make her even think it's ok to text him AT ALL? I think you should drop the arguement, wait a week, then pop into his work. See what's really happening there. And make sure you leave the kids with a sitter.

His first responsibilty is to you, not an employee who needs a ride to the airport at 1am. Who books a trip for 1am without having a ride to the airport??? It was a lie.