My STB Ex-Husband left me almost 2 months ago for another girl, who is now CLAIMING to be pregnant with his kid, but 2 weeks prior it was her ex's kid. big mess, lots of stupid drama.
anyway, obviously i've never been so hurt in my entire life. my world was completely turned upside down 2 short months ago.
The thoughts of everything crowd my mind way more that it should, though it's getting much better every day. however, i haven't been able to picture my future with anyone else except my STB Ex-Husband. that is until yesterday. i even dreamed of it last night --- a new handsome husband, new baby, and a fairytale family life. it was the ultimate dream life, and in these pictures i'm soooo happy!
why do i not like what i see? why does this "happy picture" bother me sooo much? i dont want my husband back at all, yet it seems so difficult to move on. is this normal?
2007-06-26 02:25:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
before i choose a best answer ... for anyone who *MAY* out of the blue look back at this question .. i just want to inform everyone, that i have made a big leap in my life: i registered at a local college yesterday, and i plan to start this August to be an X-Ray Technician. going from an office assistant to this is HUGE for me, but it's something i always wanted to do, and i decided no time is better than the present. :)
thanks to everyone that responded!
2007-06-27 15:39:06 · update #1
It takes time darling. Whether you were married for 20 minutes or 20 years it's hard to accept that you're now STB Exes.
And right now, when you're awake, your life is all upside down and you hurt. But when you're asleep, the dream of ideal bliss creeps in. That's scary. It's as far from reality as your reality is from your dreams.
Will you ever be happy again? Of course you will. You, yourself, said that it's getting much better every day. Still, things are way out of balance right now.
Think of it this way - if you fell and broke your arm, you wouldn't be "yourself" again for months and months. The break has to be set, then the bones have to mend and finally there are months of physical therapy to go through before your arm is back up to par - and there will always be some "scar" or reminder of the injury...
Give yourself some time - at least a year - maybe more - to get back to normal.
Oh, and if your stinking STB EX tries to crawl back into your life - squash him like the bug he is. Cockroach!
2007-06-26 03:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal to not see in your future what you want or to not see all that you want. When you get hurt everything is cloudy and does not look like it should. Give it some time. When someone leaves you and goes straight to another one it adds more hurt than you already feel. Then when the person they went too is pregant it makes the hurt even more. You start to doubt yourself and why you are here and if it was your fault. Then you blame this and that. My guess is if you stay kind of to yourself for alittle while and give yourself some time to get over the hurt your picture well get clearer. After awhile start to date. You need some time to yourself so you can sort through some feelings and some pain!
2007-06-26 02:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by Karen S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are all human at the end of the day, and we dont like change. Sometimes a sudden change can affect our lives in different ways and we experience emotions that do not make sense. You should pick yourself up, you have your whole life ahead of you. There is someone out there who will be right for you. And remember, what goes around comes around, so be patient. This happy picture that you see, maybe its your heart leading you to the right path, but you are having problems letting go. Try to take things slowly.
2007-06-26 02:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very normal. I am going through an unexpected divorce. Currently, I am detaching emotionally from my STB ex-wife (who is cheating), but I can't imagine finding anyone I would want to spend the rest of my life with. I hope with time I will be able to figure this all out.
2007-06-26 02:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by Scott O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal. Don't move on to quickly, but don't let it bother you too much. He's obviously an Ex for a reason. If he's getting girls who's just slept with her ex and then slept with him, then you were right to leave him. Find yourself someone who will care about you and not dump you for someone who seems to sleep with everyone. I'm sure you deserve so much better. Find your fairytale.
2007-06-26 02:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by j_rose083 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal. Takes time to work through all the emotions and all the issues that this brings up. Soon enough you will be ready for that happy picture and look back and wonder why it took you so long. good luck
2007-06-26 02:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal. You had engrained in your mind spending the rest of your life with the person you married, which seems like a silly idea to many married people on here. It's just taking time to adjust to your new life. Seems like you've accepted it, and are ready to move on.
2007-06-26 02:31:27 · answer #7 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely normal, unless u were n a relationship were u both hate each other, i think its normal, don't worry you will move on, what i recommend is that you go out shopping with friends, Always cheers ppl up,
Chears m8
--GB--
2007-06-26 02:30:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HB,
I feel for you - sorry to see you have to continue in this jungle of an affair. It is obvious your mind is "crowded", is there any way you can start to imagine your life with just you, your daughter, and financial support from this jerko?
2007-06-27 14:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have kids if not you need to get out and find a new love . They are out there waiting for your love!
2007-06-26 02:32:22 · answer #10 · answered by wishingstar5555 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋