I have heard some married people say that it's okay to "take" it. Some say that this is actually rape--and obviously illegal. Where is the line drawn? Does it depend on the mood of the other spouse?
2007-06-26 01:41:31 · 30 answers · asked by dantiuspalaptine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Common sense is always the best policy....
2007-06-27 08:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by happy4u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my case, my husband doesn't mind if I start, and I don't mind if he starts. But it should not be a forced thing. My ex was one who wanted when he said, where he said and the way he said to do it. This is frustrating because the real feeling and meaning gets lost. My now husband of 10 years is realy nice, and we make each time memorable. If there is a day or a moment that I want to hold off or he wants to hold off, we understand each other because time out once in a while is good and more is the desire late for the next time. If the spouse forces, this can be rape because he/she is going against your desires, your feelings and wishes. If he/she wants to do it forced that's not real love at all. Each has to remember that the other is not an object but a real human with feelings. And forced sex without the consent of the other is illegal in many places. It is rape.
2007-06-26 08:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex, like the decision to get married in the first place needs to be a mutual decision.
It also should be mutually enjoyable for both parties. Don't just plan to "get your rocks off" and roll over. Also, don't plan on staying out all night and then coming home and "getting some." Love making is an all day long affair.... "You look great this morning sweetheart", "how was your day", give her a little back rub... get her in the mood.
What you have to remember is that your spouse is not your property, but another living, feeling, human being. Appreciate her for everything that she is, show her how much you appreciate her, and she will in turn do the same for you.
If you simply wanted sex, you should not have gotten married, you should have simply found yourself a hooker. (There is a statement that is totally loaded)
2007-06-26 08:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by lonnyl_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use common sense, if you have to "take it" as you put it, then it is not willing on your spouse's part; therefore, you are forcing it (aka: rape). If your romance has died since the wedding or if you think that it should be more than it is, maybe you should sit down and talk with your spouse about your needs. I am sure that they would be willing to meet you halfway. Intimacy should be a mutual desire on both of your parts, and if it isnt but some action is being forced, then that is where you draw the line.
2007-06-26 08:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by shera24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex without a consent of the opposite spouse or a stranger is a crime in legal terms though no spouse ever object in India. But before having it , one should get to know about the feelings of the partner. If they r not mutually agreed, it will be of no use having it. ur partner will not enjoy and u can feel that when he or she is not cooperating.So mutual agreement is neccessary to enjoy or else it will seem a burden on ur partner as if something is being forced upon him/her
2007-06-26 09:08:33 · answer #5 · answered by ak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because people are married that doesn't give either one of them any right to be disrespectful to the other one.
If you were nice and polite and all that when you were dating, why would you suddenly think it's ok to not be that way? How can people think like this?
You should treat each other with respect....period. If you want/need sex....ask.....maybe she's not in the mood, maybe she doesn't feel well.....don't be a dick......be polite.
2007-06-26 08:54:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rape is when the person says NO and then the partner forces them to have sex or do a sexual act!
In a marriage relationship if a partner is not in the mood but says "okay whatever" and then just lays there and lets the other have sex with them, then NO that is not rape. Both partners do not have to enjoy or want to have sex for it to be consenting. You can consent without wanting to do it or enjoying it!
2007-06-26 08:47:52 · answer #7 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can be charged with raping a spouse. Besides what fun is taking it? I would much rather my partner be a willing participant and enjoying herself. I think you both may need some counseling.
2007-06-26 08:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by old man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that you are not saying that you are thinking of doing this. I is just so shameful, why that be ok. YES it is illegal and rape!! It also makes you look worse cause you promised before a judge or priest that you would protect her. And you're asking if it's ok. I hope it was just a stupid question cause that's not right.
2007-06-26 08:49:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married or not it IS illegal to just "take" is. just because a woman is your wife doesn't mean she's still not a person capeable of deciding weather they want to have sex or not. How would you like it if she forced you to bend over the bed and did you in the butt with a strap on...no wait....you'd probably like that wouldn;t you kiddo.
2007-06-26 08:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely can be charged with rape. If you love someone why would you just "take it" without the consent of your spouse?
2007-06-26 08:47:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋