i'm a 29 yr old woman. i got pregnant when i was 19 and was in for a break-up with my boyfriend. i never told him that i was pregnant at the time. i've been a single mother since. i completed my education and am very stable financially and can afford the best for my son. but recently i met my ex again totally by coincidence. he is one of the clients of our company and i'm to handle the deal. we were quite cordial. it would be a long story if i were to write about it but he met my son...again a big coincidence... he just asked me one question,"he's mine isn't it?" i didn't know what to say... i can never forget the look in his eyes when he said that. he just walked away after this...that way yesterday and i am set for a meeting with him tomorrow morning...what do i do? i really don't know how to face him and how i am to answer his questions. what do i do? please help me......i'm in a mess....
2007-06-26 01:34:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ouch!
I don't believe in coincidence. All of this has happened for a reason. After the meeting, ask this man (in private) if he would like to meet after work to talk about things. Suggest meeting in a nearby park so you will be in a public place but can still have a private conversation.
Then just tell him.
2007-06-26 01:38:58 · answer #1 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say why you didn't tell him 10 yrs ago. My suggestion is after the meeting tell him that you would like to talk privately and go to a park or something and open up to him. Tell him why, apologize if it is appropriate and go from there. If he has grown to a decent man would he be good for your son, is he interested in being in your son's life.
I have a 16 yr old daughter who has never met her father, he chose to not be in her life and if he was to change his mind now, I wouldn't allow it. She is a great kid and in this case it is too late. But if it was 5 or 10 yrs ago and he had grown up I might have allowed it.
You need to put your son first and do what is best for him.
Go to your meeting and do a great job. Then address this issue. See what happens and if he is going to make your work life miserable then go to you boss and fill them in.
Good luck!
2007-06-26 01:43:59 · answer #2 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably has a feeling that the child is his ESPECIALLY when you didn't come right out and say NO!
Now you need to tell him as you have nothing to be afraid of. Actually you should be very thankful as the load you have been carrying will be lifted from your shoulders. And your son will at least have the opportunity of knowing his father.
I wish you the best!
2007-06-26 01:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. He should know he has a son. Your son need to know who is his real father. The mess won't be a mess if you are telling to truth. He will know eventually one day. You need to face it. You just need to deal with him like a father of your son. If you feel that your life is a mess, maybe you are still in love with him. If not, just act normal and tell him the truth.
2007-06-26 01:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by Penny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was wrong you should have told him what if he wanted to be part of his life and now he missed everything. what if your son now hates his father for some mistake you did. but hopefully he understands and tomorrow goes great. Just be honest with him. make your mistake into a good thing and see him tomorrow. you never know what would happen.
2007-06-26 01:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by $martA$$.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmmmmm
make sure that deal goes through at work
then invite him for dinner, and clarify that it (he ) is really his
maybe he would be very have to have a ten year old son, maybe not
see what his reaction is, if he is happy, then maybe let him visit his son sometimes, especially if he helps financially
2007-06-26 01:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth, he is your son's father, they have the right to know each other, let him see your son, let them talk.
but make clear one thing to him , if u choose to abort that child from the start, he aint got nothing at all, so tell him don't try to fight for him.he should be glad and pleasure that he actually got a son.
2007-06-26 01:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by moonrider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need 2 tell him its his son . He may need 2 know this information
2007-06-26 01:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋