i got admission to the most prestigious institute but if i join my bf will leave me he is a pucca scorpion as due to some prob he cant join now he has to wait
he thinks during his weak time im leaving him
he emotionally made me weak sayin he loves me ,, cannot bear me leavin him or him loosin me
i tried my best but he fails to understand
please advise me i think im in a big mess
i have time till tom to decide..
what do i do in life?
2007-06-25 23:40:59 · 18 answers · asked by ladybird 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi
I think u should move on ,as if he really would have loved u would have understood u but as u say he is not understanding i think he is selfish fellow, so u should not waste ur life on such guy.
Try one last time to explain it to him ,try to make him have faith in u ,if u cant it means ur relationship is not strong & if it doesnt break now it will surely break in coming days.So think about what i said.
Take care
Best of luck
2007-06-27 06:32:29 · answer #1 · answered by EYES ON U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also very unhappy today for more or less a similar reason... so I can understand you, really...
But I think, that if you really love somebody, you should be able to accept the decisions your partner is taking and you should be happy for him or her if things go well...
Saying I love you isn´t enough and trying to attack your partner emotionally is absolutely unfair.
In my case, I think he is looking only for his advantage and doesn´t care a lot about my future or any future we both could have in common.
Many guys are unfortunately like that, emotionally immature and very selfish...
I go ahead with my career, because I know, that if he really loves me as he says, he will wait and find a solution to manage to be with me whenever it will be possible... if not, well it was the wrong guy for me and there was obviously no future for us.
It may hurt a lot, but time heals everything.
I really recommend you to move on and study hard. If he loves you and respects you, he will wait for you...
GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-06-26 08:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anita P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U r lucky u got admission in a prestigious institute,dont loose this opportunity,if this is what u wanted.Such opportunities come once in a while.In a relationship,one has to be there for their partner during his/her bad times but that does not mean they have to sacrifice.Even if u r away u can be with him during his rough times,being away does not mean that u dont luv him .u cud email him or phone him.If he luvs u then that means he should also want best for u.I think he needs professional counselling.
2007-06-26 09:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by coolblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Sister,
It is not at all due to his intense love that he prevents you joining but 1. He feels that if you go ahead of him he will loose you. 2. His ego cannot tolerate you to be forward than him. This is not love, but emotional black mailing. Don't fall on that. Go ahead with your course and prove that no material things can change your love to him. Later he will realise the things. Don't miss opportunity for a better future with study.
2007-06-26 07:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by Surettan S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is jealous of u that u got chance in the most prestigious institute..
if u want my suggestion do join th einstittion,,if he really loves u he will support u..otherwise he will leave you..
but wats the point in being with a person if he dosent love u,cant tolerate ur success...
2007-06-26 06:54:59 · answer #5 · answered by anamika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should join the institute and move on with your life,if he really loves you he will help you and if not tell him you can still see him during holidays.
2007-06-26 07:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by manjit grover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go ahead and join the institute......he must understand...if he doesnt then he is not a right guy for u
and believe me he will always be a problem in the rest of ur life....
i m a guy so i know that he is asking for too much, because i wud never expect that from my girl
its just his problem...he MUST support u if he loves u,
smile
2007-06-26 07:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by groovy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joine your Institute to day career is Impartant.
2007-06-27 03:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by ebpr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont throw this chnace away
you will always regret it
he is being selfish
if he truely cared he would force you to go and then get a job out there to be near you
2007-06-28 04:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go ahead and join ur institute... if ur bf loves u he will understand that there are many other things in life for u other than him.. just go ahead and pursue ur dream...if he leaves u that means he is just not "the one."
2007-06-26 06:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by Hotsummers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋