my friends dating a guy thats 16 years older than her. i am happy for them as i know she is very happy and although this is a large gap they are very in love. they are thinking about having kids and she asked me yesterday if i approved. im not sureas i think this is a large gap to bring kids up in but at the same time i know them both very well and think they would make great parents :) im just wondering what other people think. is this a suitable age gap to bring up kids in?? thanks and please no nasty answers!! xxx
2007-06-25 23:22:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
sorry i should have said
shes 20 and hes 36
2007-06-25 23:29:36 · update #1
shes not worried about it she just asked me what i think!! we ten to run things by each other all the time and everything!! we have known each other since we were 2!!!
2007-06-26 00:37:21 · update #2
There are 14 years between my parents - my mother being the oldest and there have never been any issues for us as a family . There are four children in our family we are all very happy and my parents have been married for 28 years now
2007-06-25 23:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by jvhh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really find that the age gap matters.
It's more a ... "how long have they been together?" and "are they certain they are both ready for this?" question.
Only they can say what they can handle. So if they both say their ready... I don't see why there would be a problem. If you... or they really thought there would be problems, then they should talk to each other more about how exactly they both want to raise the child. But those differences come up between my husband and I and we're only 6 months apart.
2007-06-26 02:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by Arneb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are their ages?
Is he 40 or 50...etc??? I think its more how old he is rather than the age gap. I mean if she's 20 and he's 36 then that strikes me as being fine?? But if she's 40 and he's 56 that seems a little too old?
But hey I wouldn't worry about what any thing us lot put in these answers, as long as they're in love - good for them!
2007-06-25 23:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by Simon C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your friend's age.
Younger, say if she's 23 and he's 39 is better than if she is 30 and he's 46, for instance.
My concern would be more for their relationship than their ability to parent successfully due to their age differences. They are almost a generation apart. Hopefully they have enough in common to bridge the gap for the long run and it's not just about the passion.
2007-06-25 23:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by NinaFromNewEngland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you cares what the next person thinks! Its al up to your friend and her partner, if they feel its time for them to start a family I am quite sure they know what best for them both. Yeah other people can put in their say but at the end of the day its your friend living the situation. Age aint nothin but a number! Whats important is that they love each other dearly and wanting to start a family is awesome!So look beyond the age gap and give them your blessings, I am sure they are mature adults and know better!!!!
2007-06-25 23:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by ♠♥Mi$$vỜnDutch♪♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they get on and will provide a loving environment for the kid I think it is fine. You don't mention ages but I'm sure one of them will be fit enough to play outside with the kids, and that is the only possible problem I can see with it. As long as they are well suited, they should be great parents. I had a boyfriend 20 years older than me and in the end I realised we just had nothing in common, but I know that it isn't the same for everyone.
2007-06-25 23:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it matters really as long as they love and respect each other. I have friends with the same age gap that got married last year. What's funny is that he is the same age as me and she's much younger, but mostly behaves and dresses more like an older woman than I do!
They're planning on having kids, but haven't got pregnant yet. I don't think the age gap between them will have any bearing on how they raise their kids.
2007-06-26 01:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 to 3 years is suitable. Any more would be somewhat strange. For adults, age is but a number.
2016-04-01 04:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Raising a child isn't about how old you are, it's about how much you love them. If you think they would both make great parents, then the age gap shouldn't make a difference.
2007-06-25 23:27:33 · answer #9 · answered by jingles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age gap matters at a later stage only.Woman grow old faster.After one or two child births women loose interest .As far as man is concerned sexual capacity declines after 50 .So big age gap is not advisable.An age gap of 5 or 6 years is ideal.A long happy and healthy sex life demands small age gap.16 is too much.
2007-06-25 23:37:25 · answer #10 · answered by leowin1948 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋