Him and I had a lil' fun! He got me pregnant and he doesn't know bout it. We barley knew eachother and I like him but I don't know how to tell him that I'm pregnant. I need some advice NOW I am freaked out and I don't know what to do!!!
2007-06-25 22:01:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well as a general rule I don't have sex with anyone I can't stand on a long term basis. You never know. This sounds a LOT like the movie Knocked Up just so you know. People are gonna say that. Hm.....if you can't say it in person, might I suggest a postcard?
Btw, are you sure he was clean? Might wanna check that out too.
2007-06-25 22:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by The Bride 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay hun listen.
Im not going to be your mom and tell you what u did wrong sooo...
Dont tell him your pregnant right away, that will just scare him off. Get his number or email and tell him how much fun you had and you would like to get together again. NOT AS A SEX DATE. make this a get to know him at a restuarant FIRST and then back at your place thing date. After yall have gotten to know each other a little bit over the next couple of dates you should have then tell him you are pregnant. Good luck
2007-06-25 22:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by twentyalready?! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my, question is why have a baby by someone you had a fling with, the real problem is going to arise once your baby becomes a child and start asking questions about there father. I mean what can you really say about the father, nothing because you don't yourself. I mean it would nice to like have a real thought on how it going to effect the baby in the long run. I mean why sell yourself and the baby short. This is just a thought. Your going to do what you want because your an adult. I hope the next time you decide to have a fling you will use protection so you don't have another issue like this one!
2007-06-25 22:17:56 · answer #3 · answered by Brooklynbombshell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I thought I was the only dork in the world. If you must have this child with such complicated curcumstances, then tell yourself what you intend to do with this person whom you do not know that is the father of this unborn child. If he turns out to be someone that you really just are not compatible with, then what (this is a good possibility, one night stands are like this)? If you see yourself not being able to work this issue out then dont tell him and raise this kid yourself. Oh, and use birthcontrol for prevention the next time.
Otherwise, just tell him you are pregnant and he is the father. Then take it from there. Oh, and still use birthcontrol as a form of prevention. You were just looking to get laid, not have a child, right?
2007-06-25 22:17:19 · answer #4 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he has every right to know, and you won't know his reaction till you tell him. He needs to know now not later. Give him a chance and if things aren't going to work for the two of you maybe he can still be a decent father. Don't freak out even if he ain't a part of this you will be strong enough to handle it. Good Luck
2007-06-25 22:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by tinytot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be worried about telling him. He willingly had sex with you. That makes him has responsible as you. If he didn't want children he should have worn a condom. Tell him in a sort of a matter of fact way. Like we had sex and now I'm pregnant. Don't let him make you feel like it's your fault. It's as much his as yours. We females can't get pregnant alone. Remember that when you go talk to him. As to what to do. Talk it over with him. Decide together something both can live with.
2007-06-25 22:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by Sunset 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. You decide what you want to do with your life. Do you want to have a relationship with this guy?
2. Just tell him. He is responsible for the pregnancy as much as you are.
3. Don't let him influence you into having an abortion. It is your baby and your body. Even if he doesn't want to be part in its life, he has no right to kill it. But he is responsible to help financially to raise it, at least in my country, since there are DNA tests and court orders now.
2007-06-25 22:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
remember the old saying "honesty is the best policy". Just tell the truth, clear concise to the point, don't sugar coat anything just deliver the facts. How he reacts may upset you but at least he knows and you can continue to make decisions knowing you have done the right thing! Good luck.
2007-06-25 22:28:17 · answer #8 · answered by martinecherie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you have a friend or anyone you can talk to about this?
You're going to get 50 different answers from people who don't know you from a bar of soap and have no chance to ask you any questions.
This is a serious issue that needs to be taken seriously - if you haven't got anyone in real life that you can talk to then seek out an impartial counsellor at a pregnancy clinic who has lots of experirnce in helping young women through this type of thing, without judgement, and help you sort out your options.
2007-06-25 22:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by TaniaP 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
firstly, you should have taken your precautions, when having an intercourse with a man you don't know! secondly, if you want to have your baby, of course you should tell this guy and ask him if he promises to take care of your baby with you, if he doesn't, then it will be quite a hell for you, raising a child without a dad. you wouldn't like to tell him that he was a mistake, that's quite heartbreaking, innit? thus, i'd say have an abortion when you still can.
2007-06-25 22:20:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋