Since i had my daughter 13 weeks ago we have seen them every weekend and its getting on my nerves. its mainly his mum and when shes around she wont leave my daughter alone even if shes asleep. me and my boyfriend dont really spend any time together during the week as he works late so the weekend is are only chance to get time as a family.
i have tried to talk to him but he just takes it the wrong way, as if im trying to be horrible towards his parents. Im not it would just be nice to have some weekends to our self. PLEASE HELP!
2007-06-25 21:47:21 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Think about it - it's their grand daughter. They are just happy to see her and spend time with her. Don't you see they love your daughter.
You are lucky my in - laws did not set eyes on my child until she was 11 months old. Though we lived just a few hours away from them. I took the child to see them, they weren't quite excited, even now after 15 1/2 years there is no bonding between them. We live in the same city.
Your's is one lucky kid.
2007-06-25 21:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by mamamia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Peggy has a good idea there! You could also try having a relaxing talk with her, heart to heart. Tell her you'll be glad when all the 'fuss' about the new baby dies down a little, because you never get time to see your partner and you are so sick of the baby not being able to settle because of getting picked up all the time.
Tell her what you'd mainly like to do is just have a weekend to yourself without anyone, and you hope your friends will get the message soon. Say it when she and hubby areboth in the room. Then, when they are leaving give them big hugs and tell them how much you love them and how glad you are they are there to support you.
They should get the message then if they have any sensitivity at all. If not, next time they come, you could say 'I am so glad you are here ... time for me to have a nap', then vanish and have a good lie down and rest. If anyone says anything, just repeat how you have so many people and the only time you can really rest is when there is nobody there, or 'just family'.
Of course ~ you could also have a weekend away! :-)
Hope it works out for you :-)
2007-06-25 21:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by thing55000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go talk to his mom and in a round about way tell her the situation that you two dont see each other during the week and you just cant wait for the weekend so you two can have some alone time with your daughter.... or plan something special and make her think all of you are going to be pretty busy even for visitors this weekend and see if she gets the hint....
2007-06-25 21:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God I know exactly how you feel apart from the fact that I dont have a baby!!
Maybe you could try booking something one weekend day for the both of you and your daughter and just say that you wont be in this weekend!! I know its so hard coz lets face it those mummy boys out there hate it when your a little off with their mums!! Even if your polite about it they annoyed!!! My boyfriend was trying to get me and him to move in with his mum and we moved into our own house over a year ago!! Im sorry but thats something I could never do!!
Anyway book something- anything!! Maybe some tickets for a zoo, a fair etc!!
Good luck!!
2007-06-25 21:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by Blush 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could explain to them that you need their help in the week, when you're on your own, rather than at the weekend - you could say that you're so tired during the week that you'd love them to take your daughter for a short walk a couple of times during the week, so you could get some sleep!
Bless them, they are just trying to be nice, and to see their granddaughter, but I completely understand that you and your partner need to spend time together. Perhaps you could suggest that you and your partner have some 'special' time at the weekends (he'll probably appreciate that!) and to do this you need to be on your own!
Try not to alienate them, though, as, when your daughter gets bigger, his parents will be your allies - just think about weekends when she can stay with them and you and your partner can be together without interruptions! Best of luck.
2007-06-25 21:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by Roxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to look at this a different way, now the summer is here with the light nights you and your family could go for walks in the park or visit places through the week, and on weekends go places with his parents and I'm sure your in laws would be over the moon to babysit for you and your husband to have a night out together some weekends, think of all the families who would love their children to have so involved grand parents, and think of times ahead when some times you just want time to go shopping on your own and you know your in laws are at your house keeping a loving eye on your daughter...enjoy your family
2007-06-25 22:01:47 · answer #6 · answered by angie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll always try to make a joke out of a bad situation but get the message across, like 'how come your mum see's more of you than I do, any chance of going out as a two rather than a three'
My Mrs was very much coverted by her mother, I just sat Mumsy down and told her that I would look after her and we could make the decisions together, we didn't always need her advice to make our own minds up
2007-06-25 22:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by ditzynomates 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest that they come round during the week as you;d like to keep the weekends free for travelling on days out to the park etc
2007-06-25 21:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by Tiger01204 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly appreciate the fact that they adore your precious bundle. They are overacting could be cos this is their first grandchild, and having a little one after years in the family alsways direct more attention. What you could try saying "listen honey, I planned a day at the park, or can we just have a weekend to ourselves" It should be simple! If he refuses and insist on going to his parents them you be a little firm and ,make him know that you dont think its fair every weekend you being dragged of to his parents, you are human and need time to unwind and relax. Also hey. who knows they also need to do stuff in the weekend!!!!!!!
2007-06-25 22:02:15 · answer #9 · answered by ♠♥Mi$$vỜnDutch♪♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seeing that he gets upset with you, why don't you talk to his mother, make an arrangement for every second weekend, tell her that you love them and that you are happy that they want to spend so much time with the baby but, that you also need some alone time for the two of you and if you think that it will upset her then maybe talk to your bf father, explain to them that you don't want to hurt any ones feelings but the two of you also need some alone time. Good luck
2007-06-25 21:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋