Why do Army wives act so mean to me!?

Question

I am no new person to the military. i am a military brat...But anyway I got married (husband in Army) and when we finally moved on post none of the wives wanted anything to do with me..they make remarks behind my back and are completley rude to me when I just try to say hi or make a friendly conversation...Iam 21 yrs old 5'3 105 lbs with long redhair I dont know if being pretty has something to do with the hatered, but maybe it does? My husband is now deployed for the second time to Iraq for a year and I am so lonely. no one wants anything to do with me...Anyone know what to do in this situation?

Answer 1

Hey baby want me to come round and comfort you wink wink !!!!! ...........lol......no serious it must be a hard time for you...try getting a little further than the Camp gates you may find a better class of person out there...join the local community....see what they have to offer....you may find people you mesh with there.......my wife had that problem when i got promoted and posted to a new camp.....she just said bugger it...... and got a life outside.....it payed off now she has smashing friends!!!!

Answer 2

I have been a army wife for 13 years and I have seen this happen it is sad. If it isn't because your your and thin it's because your old and fat.... You just need to find a group of friends that don't look at what is on the out side. If this is happens in your FRG than that is a real problem and you should talk to your leader. If she is any good at all she can help you find ways to find friends and talk to the girl about how to act.
One thing I want to say... and please don't take it the wrong way but if you are putting out a vibe saying you are better because you a cute than that maybe why they are acting like that. So maybe you should work on it..... if that is the case.

I hope this helps and that everything works out for you.

Answer 3

As a retired 20 3 hundred and sixty 5 days VET... i've got faith your discomfort. First shall we take a robust investigate you, 21 at 5'3" & a hundred lbs (wow!). the different better halves I wager are fat, out-of-shape, etc... etc... Am I top? maximum militia better halves are no longer something yet a set of no-good busy our bodies who've no longer something to do all day different than undesirable mouth those they do unlike and spend their husband's paycheck on the PX/Commissary. you do no longer choose those women human beings as acquaintances. in case you initiate dazzling out with those women human beings, you will finally end up being in simple terms like them. those women human beings are no longer basically grotesque on the outdoors, yet they're much extra grotesque interior. i'm going to wager that some husband made a remark approximately how lovable you're and that's what began the entire mess. overlook approximately those b!tches.

Answer 4

You need to get involved with groups on base You need a strong support system right now Do not worry what these women think you will make friends it takes time Volenteer on base or work at the px Your husband unit should have family support meeting Please keep in close contact with your family I have a son and a daughter in the military Deployments are not time to stress look in to base educational programs for college stay involved due the right thing and you will be okay My prayers are with you i have been though 4 deployments Two for each child That is nothing compared to what some families have gone through

Answer 5

My fiance is joining the military in a month and I really cant say I know from experience about the military life but the general population is wrapped with jealousy. They may feel intimadated by your beauty. Think back to highschool and middleschool...who were all the popular people? Not the prettiest but the meanest...Most of the time people bring other people down to make themselves feel better. This form of behavior is called piggy-backing self esteem. Just try to hold yourself up high and try not to let them bother you. The worst thing you could do is give them the satisfaction of letting them know it bothers you.

Answer 6

They sound like a bunch of bitches to me. Try catching flies (the bitches) with honey. Do something nice for them, like offer to babysit one afternoon or maybe even invite a few of them over for iced tea. If they refuse, then you know they're not worth dealing with and you can move on. You can always leave the base and find friends in other places: the mall, the library, a coffee place. Good luck!

Answer 7

I am sorry, but if you are that lonely we can email? Not that you want to talk to a 17 yearold about life. The closest thing I know about your life is from that show "Army Wives" on lifetime, don't know how accurate it is, but sounds like the gossip/drama is the same. Good Luck and I hope all is well with your husband. If you need to talk, just email me.

Answer 8

I really don't know what to say about this but my prayers are will your husband's platoon and the rest of the troops over there I hope he comes home in one piece and God Bless our Troops. Next time you talk or write him tell him I said thank you for all they do.

Answer 9

It's high school all over again... you're not in the clique yet... give it time. Jealousy over your being young and pretty might well have a lot to do with it. Try to make friends off-base and depend on your family in the meantime and eventually you won't be the "new kid" any more... and remember this experience when new wives move on base... be kind and welcoming to them!

Answer 10

my sister was treated this way as well..they feel threatened to say the least...sad to say but its like high school all over again...its a time when you all should be helping each other cope through these matter rather then making them worse. as time passes it will get better for you. with my sister once she made friends with one person it seemed like the others followed. no worries hun i know you may be lonely..but in all reality would you want to be around people who treat others as they treat you. i think not you seem like a well rounded person look for people who are more down to earth and not so full of themselves. good luck.