Well, I'm 16 I have been with him a year now, we both realy care about each other. He is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. We have a good relationship. His birthday is coming up a month after our year anniversary would that be a good time to do what we both want.
2007-06-25 17:40:56 · 41 answers · asked by reinaderaul 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't have sex until you're married. He may get you pregnant and both of you will regret it.
2007-06-25 17:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anne83 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You very well could have found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with at an early age (one of my closest friends did), but that doesn't mean you are ready to start having sex with him. Are you ready for the decisions that need to be made with regard to having sex? Are you ready to get on birth control and follow it to the letter? Can you talk to your parents or at least one about becoming intimate? Just because you are physically able to perform the act of love making doesn't mean you are ready for the emotional things that go with it. It is a big bond. And if that relationship doesn't work out...it can be devastating. I am not saying your relationship will not be a life time thing, but I would want to be more than sure. As it stands right now...you aren't old enough to even make that a reality if you two wanted to.
Does HE want to spend the rest of his life with you?
Think of one more thing...do you think your virginity would make a good birthday gift for your boyfriend or an amazing wedding gift for your husband?
2007-06-25 17:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand that it seems like a good idea right now but you HAVE to realize the consequences that could happen from this. You and you'r boyfriend are not ready if you can't talk about what would happen if afterwards. This includeds pregnancy, STD's, and even if these don't happen, think about how you would feel if you broke up, if someone else found out, and how he's gonna act towards you afterwards. Sex is not neccesarily a bad thing but it is a HUGE responsibility and you can't just HOPE that nothing bad will come of it.
2007-06-25 17:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by shevonne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is weird. I'm 16 and our 1 year anniversary is july 3rd. Also despite what people say I am confident we will be together for life. Even though we have all of this we havent had sex yet. My advice for you is to let things happen as they happen. You can't plan it. When the time is right and you feel ready, go for it. It doesnt have to be a special occasion. Just do what feels right.
2007-06-25 17:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not too young really as long as you feel mature about your relationship. I'm 23 and have had three relationships. One for a year from 15 to 16, one from 17 to 18 for a year also. I thought I would be with those girls forever and I did and still do care about them. I have been with my girlfriend now for 5 years and KNOW that we will be together forever. If you only want to have sex with the person you want to be with forever, then think long and hard about it. To hold out for a year, especially now days, I think you are probably mature enough to make the right decision.
2007-06-25 17:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if you have to question it in any way... on yahoo answers or in your head... if thre's any bit of hesitation then you shouldn't. If you're going to be with him forever... there is no rush. I'm not saying wait for marriage (eventhough i think you would REALLY feel great for waiting).... just wait.. until you're secure enough in everything going on. You both are young...
But if you chose so... be protected... and safe. Don't do something immature like get caught up in the heat of the moment and forget a condom. And don't do it if you think there's ANY chance you may regret it.
It can be something very very special if shared with the right person.. but you cannot get it back to give to someone else. Remember that. Promise you'll be safe, and smart.
2007-06-25 17:50:46 · answer #6 · answered by LoveisfirE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sixteen is too young. It's not love that is motivating the two of you but sexual glands running rampant. I am not denying the feelings you have for each other. I've been there and those feelings were the same as they are now. All those girls I felt so strongly for and vice versa are nothing buy memories now. Pleasant memories but memories none the less. And I never had sex with them. When your young you really don't need sex to bond your relationship. My advice is follow your mind not your emotions, but the final decision is yours. Don't forget what repercussions could occur if you break up.
2007-06-25 17:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by SgtMoto 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are too young if you have to ask the question. And at 16 you have not found the man you will spend the rest of your life with... it may seem that way... but most likely is not the case. Hold on to your virginity til you are sure and don't need approval to go ahead with it.
2007-06-25 17:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by nasar5@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't try to talk yourself into, and the first time is always intimidating. Don't expect fireworks to go off, and a violinist in the back ground, 1 times are awkward as hell! When the two of you are ready, then get protection before you do anything, and don't do it until you are completely confident in your relationship and 100% comfortable with him (you can measure this if you can talk to him about ANYthing openly). If the risks are acceptable to you (STD, pregnancy) then no on will be able to talk you out of it.
2007-06-25 17:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Inquisitive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me tell you, personally i think you are too young to be having sex.
what you like at 16 won't be the same that you need in a man at 25.
i would hope that you would save yourself until you are old enough to deal with the emotions and consequences that are involved with sex.
just be careful. there so many people hiv+ that is your age (i work at a hospital) it is sad and alarming. not only are girls coming into the hospital with aids, but other std's. not to mention teenage pregnancies and unwanted pregnancies. one night of passion leads to a lifetime of regrets.
if you decide to go and do this then take the proper precautions. use a condom ALWAYS. don't let him convince you with that bullshi+ that he can't feel you or he doesn't like it. NEVER,NEVER,NEVER have oral, anal, or vaginal intercourse with the proper protection.
like a said, i've seen many people with hiv who are younger than 25 and it is not the life you want to live
2007-06-25 18:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by karMA_DAME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you want to spend the rest of your life with him, then what is the rush of having sex, wait til you are both older , cause having sex has consequences, now you may be on the pill and he may wear a condom but neither one of them are 100% eeffective. if you come up pregnant it will forever change your life, your young and you have a long life ahead of you, don't waste it now, its just not worth it
2007-06-25 17:48:30 · answer #11 · answered by Sparky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋