where is the privacy line drawn between wife and husband?

Question

Can a Husband go through a wife's cell phone and question who she speak with?

Is there anything call privacy or individualism between marriad people? I mean Legally?

Answer 1

I think that's acceptable. The wife shouldn't care because she shouldn't have anything to hide in the first place.

Answer 2

Kind of a tough one...although it does seem like an invasion of privacy...when it comes to a spouse...there should be no need for secrecy, and as well....there should be a general sense of trust between them...unless there is reason given not to trust.

There is also the issue of who pays the bill....if the husband pays the cell phone bill and the phone is registered in his name...then he should be able to know what calls are being made...at least, under the law. But if it's under the wifes name only, ...then legally the husband has no right. But it still would not be a good idea to keep secrets within the marriage.

Answer 3

To be honest with you, yes. Think about it this way...

If a husband and wife are totally open with one another then they have a tight relationship that is "one" and unique. If the wife isn't doing anything wrong, then why should she care if the husband gets into her cell phone, computer or purse and checks something out. She shouldn't be worried because she has nothing to hide. Same goes for the man who has nothing to hide from his wife.

If the relationship is strong there shouldn't be any sort of doubt from either spouse and neither should even desire to do any sort of searching though. If there is a lot of snooping going around the relationship is probably in danger of some sort of argument regarding trust soon.

In my opinion, a good healthy relationship has no secrets. Of course it's okay to hide that you are lovingly purchasing a birthday gift or something - this sort of secret will be told whe the birthday arrives any how. Just remember, the truth will set you free! Lie's always come out in the end.

Hope this helps you. ;)

Answer 4

There is no fixed line. And it depends on the social group the couple is in. If they are professionals, say lawyers and accounts, their spouses must learn to stay away from their records and they hold similar regard for their spouses' privacy as well.

The next thing is track record. If a person has no history of conducts unbecoming and there are no signs of odd behaviors, then there is no reason for suspicion.

A spouse, husband or wife, that spends all his/her time wondering and suspecting about the other side cannot function normally and can only drive everything in a downward spiral.

Answer 5

Well you're suppose to allow your mate an amount of personal space. However, most intimate mates usually understand moments of insecurity. If your honest about how you are feeling, which is basically a moment of fear, and express it in a way that isn't a personal attack, she would probably just hand you the phone.

If she does it enough times, trust me, you will get bored with the idea and the fear will go away. I gave my husband my cell phone password three years ago, and I know for sure he's checked it maybe 5 times or less over the three years.

I don't condone it, but amongst mates I don't see where it is a huge deal. I know I'm going to get blasted for saying that.
I just don't get the drama around it, if you love your mate and they don't "abuse" your personal space, than letting them into peepholes of personal space, if it makes them feel secure, isn't such a bad thing. If it's persistant that something different. We've become involved with that mate, because we love them, and want to make them feel secure, and vice versa. I think the social propaganda of stringent personal space is a bit overrated.

Answer 6

If she isn't hiding anything she shouldn't care if you know who she talks to or where she goes. If you trust her you shouldn't have to check. Marriage is based on honesty and trust. If you and your wife can't be honest with each other and can't trust each other you have more serious problems than phone calls. You might want to discuss them with a counselor, mediator or other neutral 3rd party. You don't have to be at the brink of divorce to get help with your marriage.

As for the law, I seriously doubt that there exist any sort of privacy laws in marriage. If your living together it would be virtually impossible to set laws defining who can know what about who and how they're allowed to come to that knowledge.

Answer 7

Well I just got married and I was married in the past as well and I would go through his cell phone. To me it is all about trust I did not trust my ex husband. My husband now I would not do that to. So I think he is having a trust issue. But does it make it right no I don't think so. I think you should sit and talk to him about it.

Answer 8

Ideally, there should be no reason to want to access your spouse's phone records, postal mail or email. It's a matter of trust. If you feel otherwise, I would suggest that your relationship is on the rocks ~ big time.

Husbands and wives respect one another by allowing each other personal space and privacy.

I have absolutely no interest in my wife's phone conversations, email or postal mail.

Answer 9

If he is making a call on the phone and happens to see an unfamiliar number...alright no big deal. I do not think that checking your wife's phone as a way of "spying" on her is acceptable. If a husband does not trust his wife (or wife trust husband) maybe they shouldn't be married.

Answer 10

Thats silly! he should wait for the cell bill to show up and go through it to find out who you have been calling .. hahahaha
He should be more discreet, and not openly check on your activities unless he has very good, honest facts that you are running around on him.
If you are not doing so, why not let him look and get it over with?? "here you go honey, go through it and I will explain all the calls".. he shouldn't do it very often after that..

Answer 11

My husband and I are completely open with each others STUFF. We trade up cell phones sometimes and check each others email if the other is busy, ect. The day my husband wants to keep those things "private" is the day I will get suspicious!