Where does confidence come from?

Question

How do I generate true self-confidence.

Answer 1

it comes from not being afraid to make mistakes, then making them, and learning from them.

Answer 2

Confidence is defined as the belief in oneself and one's powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance;assurance.

This definition clearly says that it is ones own belief that creates the confidence.

As for how can you generate "true" self confidence. True being defined as real; genuine and authentic. It is a complicated question that has been debated over for many years. There are many ways in which you can increase your personal self confidence, such as writing a list of all the thing you are great at etc, the idea being you recognize that you are worthwhile and valuable.

What self confidence boils down to is "self love". As this is the starting point for all confidence. A simple technique for getting more self love is to look at yourself in a mirror, look into your eyes and say "i love you". After doing this several times a day for a week or two. You may find self confidence has increased by your self love.

Being real about what is going on for you in your communications is also very beneficial in helping build self confidence. To be able to express yourself in such a way that you feel empowered is also a great way to gain more self confidence.

Also practicing simple self care exercises like talking a 30min walk in the morning through the bush would help create confidence and inner tranquility. Meditation is also a proven way of increasing self confidence.

Recommended Reading Includes
"The Power Is Within You"
By Louise Hay

Audio Book
"Emotional Genius"
By Karla Mclaren

"The Beginner's Guide to Meditation"
by Shinzen Young

Courses
'The Landmark Forum"
http://www.landmarkeducation.com/

Great Little Online Self Confidence course
http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/confidence/learn/

Hope This Helped

Answer 3

By applying your self honesty that is true only to you and once its applied to the world around you and if its worthiness is accepted by those that , only you feel are worthy of giving you the answers or feedback that qualify your understanding of confidence. Reckon, you would have to know the motive of what it is your wanting to be confident about and you and the acceptance of the
ones that can validate it , which are are peers and social circles that will show you by their reactions and responses , whether or not it is real confidence or just another attempt to over come the lack of self esteem and wanting to just feel like you fit in and this might be considered false confidence and not necessarily healthy for you or the ones around you.

Answer 4

People here have given you good advice, action to take, and information. I would add that in addition to their good advice that practicing what confidence looks like, even if you don't feel it at all, over time creates the feeling. How? When others perceive you as confident, they respond to you in a certain positive way. That certain way reinforces your behavior, making it more likely that you will repeat it. Start with easier things, then add to your repetoir. Over a year or two, you will be amazed at how confidence grows. I base this advice on my experience which is based on an inspiring quote from a Persian sage: "So practice nobility that you become noble." Go for it!

Answer 5

Building Confidence DON’T think that you are worse than anybody else, more inadequate, or slower on the uptake, or bound to fail, or of no importance. DO recognize that over people accept you are your face value and the value you put on yourself. Be positive and constructive in the way you think about yourself. DON’T think you are unimportant because people do not make a fuss over you. DO recognize that this desire to be noticed and fussed over is a hangover from your childhood. Forget yourself and the wish to be important and you will find yourself taking a bigger part in life and enjoy it. DON’T think that a failure or series of setbacks means that is useless to try. DO recognize the importance of looking for the cause rather than blaming yourself or outside circumstances. Build your self-confidence by doing a succession of small things rather than attempting the big splash. DON’T think you are always wrong when people criticize. DO recognize how impossible it is to please everybody. Be fair. Be reasonable. Do your best. Then stop worrying. DON’T think that other people can make you different. DO recognize that it depends on you. You have to be tough and refuse to be discouraged. DON’T think nothing can be done about inferiority feelings. DO recognize how it helps to think back and discover how they started, how they developed, and how they are affecting you now. This makes it easier to keep on reminding yourself that is up to you to alter yourself.

Answer 6

It comes from within. You are not a follower but able to make decisions own your own. You will take a chance on the unknown. You feel you are capable and sure of your self. Parents and teachers play a very big role in self confidence.It is taught and nurtured at a very young age and develops all though your younger and teen years.

Answer 7

Confidence comes from no other person but yourself. Confidence doesn't happen overnight, it takes time to build. Confidence is what you get when you try something and get knocked down, but you get back up again and keep trying. When you get knocked down enough, you'll adventually find what it takes to get it right. Then you'll know you've tried your best and it's a reason to be happy and proud of yourself. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't do something or shoot down your dreams.

Answer 8

confidence comes from knowing your worth. the definition of worth, to me has little to do with looks, but more with ability.
read a lot, learn a lot, become good at something. you will develop confidence that way. it comes more from the inside rather than out.
it wont hurt to be hygenic and comb your hair either.
but u know what i mean.

Answer 9

confidence comes from you. nobody gives confidence but yourself. you develop self confidence by trusting yourself, believing in your ability to do something. and standing firm on your words and action.

Answer 10

~You don't generate confidence. You develope talent, ability and knowledge. Confidence flows naturally from your success in doing so.

Answer 11

from your parents....when they encourage and praise you often you get a sense that you are a capable human being. If your parents were more into judging and criticizing then you grow up second geussing yourself and end up with low self-esteem......you can repair low self esteem by re-parenting your self and acknolwledging your positive qualities and praising yourself