I got into a fight with my friend and it ended with her telling me the reason why so many people push me away. I was told I'm too clingy and I get annoying really fast. My friend also explained to me that I need to chill out and go with the flow, and I know everything she's telling me is right because I really need that. But the question is...How do I do this?? If you could give me tips to change myself I want to "transform" this summer and become a new person
2007-06-25 17:05:15 · 4 answers · asked by sugar pie honey bunch 34 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The trick is learning to like yourself, and being secure about the person that you are. Most people that are insecure are very annoying, because they demand so much attention and reassurance. If someone is not giving them attention, they get their feelings hurt. It's the things like that that can be unnerving. Just relax and enjoy yourself. You do not have to be the center of attention. Don't get upset just because people have friends other than you. Don't constantly whine about your problems, or boyfriends.
Enjoy your summer, and just chill out!!
By the way, don't expect people to notice the change, and treat you differently right away. It takes awhile to change your reputation, but people will eventually notice.
2007-06-25 17:16:42 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's always Bounce for static...or you can lube your friends so they can escape your grasp...all (really) bad jokes aside, it sounds more like you're trying too hard to be liked . First off, shut your pie hole when you can. You're probably jumping at any chance to speak or attempt to be funny so that you feel part of the group. Do alot of listening and absorbing from now on. Try and always look interested in what other peeps are saying (and encourage the other (gut spiller)with the "you're shitting me"s and "omg"s , etc..". Be the confidant for as many friends as you can handle. Feel and look confident about yourself, smile and laugh alot, and they will come. Stcking up for yourself is a plus - don't be shy.
2007-06-25 17:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by The one with a tail... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay a real friend wouldnt be trying to change you or your personality. If you think your too clingy then change it. But dont change just because your friend tells you to.
2007-06-25 17:17:14 · answer #3 · answered by andrea lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEFINE 'CHILL OUT AND GO WITH THE FLOW' AND YOU WILL HAVE AN IDEA WHERE TO START. ARE YOU THE TYPE TO ''TAKE CHARGE'', HAVE TO HAVE THINGS YOUR WAY, YOUR IDEA?
YOU SAID YOU KNEW IT WAS RIGHT, SO DO THE OPPOSITE....NO MATTER HOW HARD YOU HAVE TO BITE YOUR LIP OR SMACK YOUR HANDS! GOOD LUCK
2007-06-25 17:17:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋