I adopted my ex husbands daughter. He left me and she is living with his mother. Can I sign my rights to his mother? She has lived with his mother since she was atleast 8 months old except for the 3 years she lived with us while we were married. He has custody of her, but she does not live with him and he does not support her.
2007-06-25 15:16:56 · 13 answers · asked by cloudlady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you adopted this child you have rights too why is she living with the grandmother? Does he not want her? If not she could be living with you if you don`t want her then why did you adopt her ?
2007-06-25 15:22:25 · answer #1 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This poor child has been abandoned enough,don't you abandon her to. Nothing in the world is her fault because of her parents.......she did not ask to be born and she needs a mother. Be her mother because you have a right to her and she needs someone to give her stability. If you thought to adopt her think to stand up to continue a motherly relationship with her. She has been let down by the two most important people she should have meant the most to in life. She will not always be a child and one day she could be there for you as a friend and someone that thinks highly of you. She needs your love and and the feeling that she matters to someone like you. Be the bigger person and be there and it will come back to you ten fold by the man upstairs. Her father needs to be made responsible for her care and as her legal mother I would take every legal action to make him pay for her. Her grandmother should have her own life and be able to do things for herself. If you feel that you could do better for your daughter then take her home and be what everyone else failed to live up to. Let grandma take her every other weekend and one day a week. Work with the grandmother and share this child and make a difference in her life. Don't allow your ex to take advantage of using his mother to pick up what he is responsible for. Take him to court and make him accountable for his child. What a lousy parent he is!! Look at her life as an investment of all the love you will earn inside of your daughters heart. Children need love and acceptance in their lives to be the best they can be and become...you may make that difference and that may be your reason in life. It is not about your ex anymore it is about you and your daughter now. It's about what you can mean to each other in both of your lives!! Stay involved because it would be the right thing to do don't let her go through being given up again. Good luck sweetie I really wish you the best.
2007-06-25 16:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to Void it? You adopted the child, she is YOUR child. Just because she is not your biological child doesn't change anything. She should be living with you and you should be receiving child support from him. You are well within your legal rights to do this if the adoption is final. Go get your daughter!
2007-06-25 15:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can waive your parental rights so the (other) ex wife can have her rights back. She likely waived or lost her parental rights in order for you to adopt in the first place.
I would have the other ex consult with an attorney before you make any decisions (unless you don't care what happens). If you waive your rights, the husband may be the only one with rights left and could keep his ex away from her children indefinitely.
Good Luck.
2007-06-25 15:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by JJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not a RETURN policy for children. You don't get to change your mind and un-adopt.
Good Grief lady.
Maybe the ex-mother in law would be willing to adopt her. Hopefully she will be a STABLE person in her life so that she won't have to worry about being UNWANTED>
You should NEVER have adopted her if you didn't want to love her for a lifetime!
2007-06-25 15:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. You adopted out of love for that child and became the parent. You have visitation rights. That is your child!
2007-06-25 15:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by Bobby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that would be wrong ... I mean you should have never adopted her just because you married her dad you should have waited until you loved her like your own.. I mean if you had a child would you just sign them over??
2007-06-25 15:30:56 · answer #7 · answered by shortone22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't give her up, but if you don't want to pay child support you can sign your rights over. I think (i'm not 100% sure) that in order for his mother to get full guardianship you BOTH have to sign rights over.
2007-06-25 15:39:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Adoption is forever. How cruel it would be if it weren't.
2007-06-25 15:19:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
no,adoption is a permanent deal....
2007-06-25 15:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋