I mean what are people trying to prove? Why can't they just be themselves? Does it have to do with ego? Foolish pride? Serious answer plz, I don't feel like ready BS.
2007-06-25 15:08:42 · 10 answers · asked by jennifo! the nympho 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
*I don't feel like reading BS* my bad
2007-06-25 15:09:23 · update #1
oh my god, i know what you mean. when i first met my boyfriend, he was so appealing: charming ,funny, and very attractive! but as i got to know him more, i started to realize that he was a total womanizer! he went after every single girl he was introduced to. i really hope the next girl can take all of that.
p.s. he's still hot though . he he
thanks for asking
2007-06-25 15:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by ipodlady231 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are 2 faced and they can put on a good act to. You will believe how they are and then down the line when something comes up you see a different side. I think a lot is ego and they just want everyone to like them and think there lives are perfect. Well we know nobodies life is perfect. I always tell people this is me and I don't change so if you don't like this you won't like me. One of my very close relatives are like this big house with 2 people, expensive purses and so on. If you have a beer budget and you try to live on a champagne budget in the long run you will have problems.
2007-06-25 22:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by young granny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always am who I am. Maybe that's why I wasn't popular kid #1 in school, but it did ensure that I made really good friends that are lasting me a good long time.
Also, I never felt like I had anything to prove, because I was who I was.
Lots of people do not feel secure or confident enough that they will be liked or appreciated if they are "just themselves", so they go out of their way to make themselves out to be what they are not. They hope it will make them look like a more desirable friend/employee/wife/husband/employer.... etc. But in the end, it's themselves that they're sending off into the deep end, because what happens to them when they realise that everything they have is fake.
When you're old the only thing that matters is your life so far, and who's still alongside you, and Who you Are.
If who you are is fake, then what do you have to feel complete about in your life?
Ok, the use of "you" wasn't pointed at ... you... .but at the people out there that are fake. anyways... yeah. (could you tell this is something I really get annoyed with too? haha)
2007-06-25 22:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by good gollum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are two side of answer for this question,
1. When we meet someone the first time we judge that person subconsiously with our ruler of values(what we learn about certain type of smile/clothing/ basically what we learn about human when we grow up). That means the way he/she smiles, what perfume she/he wore, the type of clothing, how he/she talk to you. That moment you met someone, your brain will automatically translate all the superficial part of that person and categorise them as what you perceived them to be, gentlement, sweet or arrogant. That is purely physical and one sided, when you actually communicate with that particular person, one bit by one bit the facade fell down in your brain revealing the true layer of that person. Then you feel disappointed, (like how you have a crush on someone and fabricated all those good quality then you realised he/she is a jerk when you get to know them?)
2. everyone have a need to protect themself especially if they learn it the hard way of giving themself out too fast, we grew up knowing nothing about how petty,cruel, jealous some human are, and get betrayed,hurt etc then we will have our own defence mechanism, mask. One mask for family, another for business, another for good friends and another for not too close friends. This may sound sad and twisted but this is what some people hiding behind, several layer of mask.
2007-06-25 22:52:06 · answer #4 · answered by dreamymoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an interesting question in that it always reminds me of a social psychology lesson. In the class we learned that when one person meets another, in the brief half of second before they shake hands each person has evaluated the other person almost completely and then in the act of shaking hands they agree to forget all that and let the person present himself as he would like to be seen. People find it safe to be behind a facade with most people and keep them at a distance. You and I only want a select few to real know who we are, and those are the people we love and trust and feel safe with.
2007-06-25 22:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by cavassi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people WILL ALWAYS TRY TO BE SOMEONE THEY'RE NOT !!
Many people try to prove they're "more exciting" to others than they actually are.
To be yourself would not add "spice to life" for themselves, thus, they must always try being someone they're not.
A big minus for people growing up nowadays has to do with Peer Pressure.
Someone, who's "somebody" must make the qualifications for doing something to "be somebody," thereby putting less thought of people in an ackward position of proving themselves.
A big minus for people who bend and give in to Peer Pressure is that when time moves on, the people who force Peer Pressure on the "lesser people" have also moved on. Thus, the people bending to the pressure will never see these people again.
In short, the people who give Peer Pressure are only in it for the "cheap thrills" of degrading other people.
2007-06-25 22:43:35 · answer #6 · answered by Living In Korea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like to try to reinvent themselves because they go through certain emotions that make them feel this way.
Example: A preppy female, could easily transition to a emo girl or a scene girl because of events that may happen in her life and they change her emotions, therefore, changing the way she acts, dresses, and possibly who she hangs out with.
2007-06-25 22:35:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem clearly lie not with them, but squarely with you. your conceit is beguiling. Is it really up to you to judge a person by thier appearence? You'll always be wrong you know. Not all men are Paul Bunyon, and not all women are Mother Theresa. Some ppl are shy and act differently in groups than when alone with others. so, lighten up.
2007-06-25 22:15:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, seriously, cynical as I may be, if we are to assume that is NEVER, then it is simply due to OUR interpretation of the physical qualities of these people that they always appear changed when we get to know them.
2007-06-25 22:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by London 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean when i meet my boyfriend he was real nice and stuff but he broke up with me for a 10th grader
2007-06-25 22:34:48 · answer #10 · answered by sexi can i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋