My 15 year old daughter just added me as a friend on her new facebook page which is good. She is getting closer to forgiving me. I do feel sad for any pain that I may have caused her.
Her Dad has sole physical and legal custody of her. He moved due to job reasons and is now going to take her with him.
I guess that I don't have any say in the matter because when I gave him custody, I lost any say in my daughter's life.
I do think that he should send a letter to the courts notifying them that he is changing the child's legal address.
I won't be able to contact my daughter by phone though. He does not have a home phone and she does not have a cell phone.
I feel removed from the decision, but I guess I have to give up hope that he would even consult me or send her to me. I live in another state and am willing to have her come live with me.
I have to learn to accept life as it is.
2007-06-25 14:23:43 · 13 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You may not have any say in whether or not he moves, and takes your daughter with him, since he has sole, legal custody. But your daughter is of an age that she might have a say in the matter.
I'm guessing, based on your explanation, that you are trying to repair a somewhat broken relationship, which is good. Teenage daughters need their moms, but it is a very difficult time as well.
I'd say just be as supportive as you can. Perhaps talk to your ex-husband about getting your daughter a cell phone, if you can afford it, so that you can stay in touch.
Good luck.
2007-06-25 14:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Sammie's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have custody but you have some right here also. As long as you did not sign over your rights you can ask the court to intervene here. I know that it is a fact (Oklahoma) that the custodial parent has to get permission from the court if they are moving over 75 miles away! Even you should have to give notice when you are planning to move even though you don't have the child!
Contact your local D.A. and see what they have to say!
You do have right and you should exercise it. You can fight or lie down and by your answer you sound like you have done enough lying down . Fight for your daughter.
2007-06-25 14:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by Kathrine B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How far is he moving? Do you have visitation rights? How does your daughter feel about this? In MI you cannot move your child more than 100 miles without going to court first.
What kind of pain did you cause?? Are your problems over?
You may want to seek legal advice. But I would say talk to your daughter to see how she feels. No matter how far they move, you can always call and even visit here and there. But if you broke trust with your child, you will need to re-establish trust with her. Why was trust broken? Because you left? Or was it something else? Talk to her then get legal advice and pray on it.
2007-06-25 14:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow and easy. IF things were going badly for you at the time you gave up custody then I commend you for loving your daughter enough to make that type of decision. You need to see if you x husband has a cell phone that you will be able to call, and speak to her...if not then leave her kind messages through email. I feel that in time, and showing her that you have and are changing, then they will both being to share her life with you again. Be understanding, and loving and by doing this I think that he will allow the 2 of you to visit, and for her to spend time with you.
2007-06-25 14:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is try to file for joint custody in the court. Get a rulling for Joint custody and then he can't leave the state without your consent.
Otherwise, you will just have to live with his decision. Your relationship with your daughter will last a lifetime, please just know that you may be apart for awhile, but that doesn't mean you have lost her forever. You never know what life will bring.
2007-06-25 14:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a horrible and diffucult time in your life. But try and stay in touch with your daughter through facebook. Maybe talk to her father and make some arrangements to have her over the summer with his permission. If that dosn't work let her know that you tried to get her to see you but i didn't work. Keep telling her you love her and everythong will be ok. Never lose contact and never lose hope. God Bless<3
2007-06-25 14:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have custody but if you have visitation rights he can not move out of the state without your permission, you can take him to court over it and prevent him from moving with her.
If you don't have visitation rights then your right you can't do anything.
Good Luck!
2007-06-25 14:28:03 · answer #7 · answered by unknown friend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you don't have a say in the matter. you gave up custody for a reason and i bet that you did some bad things. now you are paying the price for it. if you really love your daughter pack up and move to the same town and be available. other than that you are just talking out of your azz.
2007-06-25 18:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can petition the courts for either joint custody or talk to the father and establish that you would like to see her and possibily work out visits. You might be able to talk to her about it through facebook also.
2007-06-25 14:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by S_Gnat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not cause she is with him that it means that you wont exist anymore the fact that she added you in facebook is a step. for the rest yeah he should notify the court that he moved with her away from you but still i am sure you will work things out. we all make mistakes believing is the best thing for our kids but unfortunately we are not perfect be strong you'll see everything will get better
2007-06-26 04:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋