how to deal with religious college roomates?

Answer 1

Dear Danielle L,
I’m going to make an assumption here… That you are in this forum because YOU are lesbian or bi, and you are asking how to deal with the attempts of your roommate to “Save you sole” and turn you from “your sinful ways”?
Tell her you are already saved… You have accepted Christ as your personal redeemer, and follow his teachings. You TRY to love others… even when they try to turn you from the truth of who God made you.
If that doesn’t work… Time to get a new roomy?
Hugs,
PennyAnn

"Those who use religion to advocate an anti-gay agenda, I believe, are blaspheming God's name,"
- Rabbi Sharon Kleinbaum - Beth Simchat Torah - Sunday June 24th 2oo7 To the NYC Gay pride parade.

Answer 2

The most important thing - AND I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH - talk to them about the problem.

Tell them that while you respect their point of veiw, it isn't one that you share.

Remind them that, for the most part, religion (as well as politics and money) are not discussed between friends and polite company.

Let them know that you want to get along and be a good roommate - ask them if there is anything that you do that makes them uncomfortable, then tell them what makes you uncomfortable. Come to an agreement that you will try and not do/say those things around each other.

Answer 3

Give them space and respect, don't belittle their religion and give them a chance as a person.
Hopefully they will do the same to you.
If they are being rude and extremist then perhaps you can seek help with an RA or somebody who deals with conflicts between roomates.

Answer 4

When dealing with the SEVERELY religious-ly raised college room mates(which, being that this is what it sounds like), be civil and polite. Never, ever reduce yourself to their level and begin to spout accusations and insinuations about heaven or hell. Just be nice. Yes, it IS harder than it sounds, yet it IS the Higher Road if you will. And, if they really start to get uppity about it all, then just ask them rather non-chalauntly like where exactly in the New Testament where The Messiah said (remember to ask for book[s], chapter and verse's too) to "judge not, least you be judged as well." If that doesn't put a stopper in the works, well then report them to campus security for sexual harassment and sexual discrimination too.

Answer 5

in what respect?! it really depends.... do they preach to you & you don't like it? do they bring back people to the room for religious studies & you're uncomfortable?! treat them as you want to be treated - with respect and consideration. if they don't get it or need help.... remind them that the bible says....(Romans 13:8-10) namely, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. Love worketh no ill to his neighbor: therefore love is the fulfilling of the law."
Matthew 22.36-40) "Teacher, which is the great commandment in the law?" Jesus said to him, "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it, You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments depend all the law and the prophets."

Answer 6

Create a list of the irregularities and nonsense phrases in the Bible, give it to them and demand explanations as a possible convert.

If that doesn't work, just commit those nonsense phrases daily, and ask why they aren't saying anything about it, that's how I get the RRR (radical religious right) off my back.

e.g. shave, get a haircut, wear poly-cotton blends, eat shrimp or pork. You get the deal.

Answer 7

Go to a diversity class and seek help to deal with your bigotry.

Answer 8

Try for mutual respect. Agree to disagree, and you might even become friends. It is easy.

Answer 9

I don't think you should TALK about homosexuality with them because they will never agree with you. Talk about whatever you want but don't talk about homosexuality.

You'll have to deal with it

Answer 10

Let them know that you respect their beliefs but that you need your space and for them to respect the way you feel without trying to convert you.

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