has anyone ever experienced an attempted suicide of a loved one?

Question

I cut him down and saved his life. He was hanging in my garage. I am tramatized. We see a conselor tomorrow. It happened 4 days ago. He said I nag him and things are unbearable at home.
I will add he drinks a 12 pack a day and refused recovery. They didnt even make him go to the mental ward. Any advise would be helpful.

all but one person on here has been kind. I think the words were "stop nagging him" thank you so much for the support you have given me. I know there is a love for mankind. Even for me.

Answer 1

His blaming of you is not the reason why he wanted to die. People commit suicide because they are mentally ill... not because they have a wife who "nags".
He doesn't want to tell you the real reason why he wants to die. He might not even know himself.

If you cannot get authorities to admit him to a mental hospital, you can talk him into admitting himself. Or you could try to commit him, with help from several Dr.'s who need to all sign papers to commit him to the hospital. He must be found to be a danger to himself and/or others.

I'm glad that you are taking this seriously. It is likely that he will try it again. He should not be left alone EVER, until he is trustworthy... and that is going to be a while.

Definately go to the counseling appointment. You also need to address yourself and the trauma that you have been through, and might think about individual counseling for yourself.

His alcohol use is symptomatic of a mentally ill person who is
self medicating to cope. He's not neccessarily a classic "alcoholic".

My loved one commited suicide. Looking back, we could see the warning signs....he'd say things like,"Someday when I'm gone, you'll miss me....", and,"If you don't do such-and-such with me, there might not be another chance", and he called most of the people he knew in the days before he did it. We found the calls on the phone bill, after....
He apologized to me, for what - he was not specific.
But because he'd been acting very odd for quite a long time, we didn't really pay it much mind. He also drank a lot in the months before...

I wish you the best of luck. It is hard to love someone who is ill. Your support can help, but also take good care of yourself!

Answer 2

I think you need to have councilling together but also just for yourself.To actually attempt suicide in this way he must be at an all time low. Help cant be forced on anyone they have to make their own decisions however you also need to ensure that you are getting the help you need to deal with your emotions also. Speak to your doctor and ask for advice they will have details of a lot of agencies willing to help. Is he working as this may have influcing factors as well, low self esteem etc...Can your families help...Only comment is try to get away from apportioning blame it really wont help

Answer 3

confident i've got attempted. I won't say how as i do no longer prefer to furnish you or all and sundry else interpreting this concepts yet as quickly as I did attempt it, it became into because of the fact i became into in an excellent rage and basically did no longer prefer to stay anymore ( i'm bipolar) yet whilst i became into interior the wellness facility after what I did I fainted and as quickly as I wakened i presumed i might fainted because of the fact i became into on the brink of dying...I begged the workers treating me to no longer enable me die. i became into so scared. dying is continuously you notice and how can any concern be taken care of in the adventure that your lifeless? Suicide is in no way good. If i might died my toddler nephew might have misplaced his auntie whos basically basically beginning as much as understand who i'm. i'm happy i did no longer die that nighttime. I even have had some very good instances considering that then. If i might died i does not havent experienced any of those. So please think of approximately all and sundry you like and safeguard. How poor for them in case you provide up now xx

Answer 4

Yes, although I was not there at the time. She got scared and messed it up. She just decided life was not worth living any longer. She decided 65 yrs. was long enough.That experience has affected me for years. I don't want to say who she was or any details beyond this..... It is very difficult to talk about it even now. So... let me just say I understand very well. Counseling is best, to find the underlying reason for the attempt.The alcohol is only a symptom of what is really going on with him. If you care for this person stand by him and be supportive. If you are his wife, you could possibly request they put in a inpatient situation, ie mental hosp. or alcohol program. Also please get help for yourself, you have been deeply affected by this. Bless you!

Answer 5

They didn't take him to the mental ward? Suicide attempts are attempted murder. It's supposed to be automatic (at least in the USA) to be sent in for extended psychological testing. I'm appalled that they didn't commit him on the spot. He needs help. Check into laws regarding involuntary commitment in your jurisdiction. He needs to be committed until that is dealt with. He needs help.

Involuntary treatment is generally undertaken at the behest of family members. Supporters of involuntary treatment include mainstream organizations such as the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) and the American Psychiatric Association. Involuntary treatment's biggest supporter in the United States is the Treatment Advocacy Center. You can get information and contact them here: http://www.psychlaws.org/

Answer 6

My son did at age 24. He took an overdose and went to hide. I was called in another state and knew exactly where he was. They found him, but it was a mandatory 48 hour holding in the psych ward. I can't believe that your state doesn't have a mandatory holding period as most states do. Talk to the psychiatrist. I'm sorry for all you are going through. You may have to leave him if he refuses treatment in order to save your own sanity.

Answer 7

I'm so sorry to hear of what has happened to you, this experience is clearly a distressing one and you will hopefully both benefit from seeing a therapist and talking through what it is that caused this. I am so saddened by this, I have not been in this situation but I have felt responsible for someone hurting themselves in the past and its a thought that stays with me and still makes me cry. You will get through it, seek help and if things need to change, then do everything you can to make the relationship you have a loving and caring one. You have saved someones life and he will forever be in debt to you for that, stick by him and stay strong. My thoughts are with you x

Answer 8

I'm so, sorry about this, problem is, if he will not get help about drinking problem, he will do this again. I just broke up 3 year relationship with same problem. All my life change, I even did not realize this. From the happy, professional woman, I become a Norse in mental institution. This is terrible daisies. Only professional help, you can't help him, and if you try you will destroy your life too.Good Luck!

Answer 9

I experienced a suicide of a dear friend. She was 17 years old and would be 27 now. I knew she had problems but never imagined she would kill herself. She was using meth and had been using for a week straight. I wish I could go back and see that she was really hurting and try to be there for her more.
You don't say who your family member is. Drinking so much sure is not going to help and he is being selfish in a way too just think about himself and not those who love him. Try your hardest to help this person through their hard time and tell him how much you love him and don't ever want to lose him. He does need lot's of counseling and attention, love right now. We don't know what his problems are but life is difficult and we all pass through these feelings sometimes. Men are just more apt to go through with it.

Answer 10

coming from someone who couldn't stop a suicide of a loved one, its really hard. Just be thankful hes alive, try to get him help. And if you talk to him just simple things will help him get through it. He might not want to stop or recover but mention that it will mean so much to you and if he really cares for you he will try to stop and get help. Take him out and have a really good sober night, take a road trip just the two of you and just really get to know whats troubling him. He also could have depression or be bi-polar. Thats what my good friend suffered from he was a young kid didnt even make it through high school, probally the most popular kid in school too, but because of his condition thats what did it. Your friend could easily have some type of problem.