Okay I've never gone on a date.I'm as quiet as a mouse in class so I dont have any firends.I can talk fine with anyone and can even tell a joke now and then but while everyone gets in trouble in school talking in class getting dates I'm stuck bored at my house reading a stupid story over and over again until the weeks over.Now its summer and I dont know what i'm going to do all day and all night. Comsidering my mom works night and day my sisters with her boy friend and I have nothing.
2007-06-25 13:10:20 · 13 answers · asked by serendus g 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
What is normal? You have the the gift of expanding your mind.
Don't seek to loose things that will be hard to put back in the box, let the trouble makers make there trouble because the will eventually lie in something they can't get out of. Let the daters, date because soon some will get families too soon and there whole life will change dramatically. Yours will be one of great desire, a look at those we made fun of or laughed at because they weren't cool or a jock and realize now that they were preparing for a future which was out of sight for me and now while there making nice salaries and taking big vacation and I can't afford to go anywhere but on my couch, I regret not expanding my mind to receive as much good information as possible. Never to late to learn but if your foundation is wrong, it all crumbles. You are on the right track and I'm so proud to here there are still people like you in this world.
2007-06-25 13:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by Grateful Will 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. You're normal. There are lots of folks living great lives who were late social bloomers (you may not be... you may be average for your age, but I assume from what you are saying that you at least feel that way).
2. Get friends before getting dates. If you have no friends right now, you're going to need them before you start dating for lots of good reasons. How do you get friends....?
3. Get involved in groups outside of school. Volunteer organizations, sports, arts (acting maybe?), music or any interest you think you'd love to pick up. Try some out, some might fit.
4. By joining different groups, you'll find opportunites for social events, like bbqs, parties, dances, etc. When a good opportunity arises, take it. Get out there and meet people in those types of settings. You'll eventually meet people with similar interests and likes.
It sounds like you want to be more social and the only way to do so is to actually do it. You'll feel awkward at first, but you will gain social skills as you go.
Hopefully I'm not off mark here as to your situation... it just sounds quite a bit like me when I was much younger and I can tell you from experience that the longer you put off 'getting out there' the harder it gets.
Good luck, peace and best wishes.
2007-06-25 14:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by zingis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't really know what kind of environment your in, but if you're in a urban one, go for a walk in the city, find your way to a park or something. If you're in a suburban environment, go for a hike somewhere or a run, or also to a park and chill out and read a book. You can meet people there and get to know people them better. Getting a job if you're old enough is good too. Or pick up an instrument like a guitar or keyboard. It will cost you between $100 - $200 to get one, but it's worth it.
Yea you're normal. A lot of kids don't have a lot of friends and get mad bored over the summer.
2007-06-25 13:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude get out and skate or get a bike, tha helps kill some time plus you get to have fun. Other thing would be play xbox live, if you nerd it enought could even make a living out of it, but really get out the house, not healthy to be stuck there.
But my advise is get a skate board, fall a few times, get some bruises and enjoy it. Dont need to get all the cloths just enjoy it. This comes from graphic designer that is all day behind the monitor doing 3d graphics.
2007-06-25 13:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by uindxor craig 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're normal in that alot of kids are bored and at loose ends during the summer. Why don't you look into volunteering somewhere? the animal shelter, a sr. center, a hospital, the library. Find something to do with your time that would help others. Good luck!
2007-06-25 13:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by lady j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normality? what is normality? It is whatever you are comfortable with. If you feel insecure about not being like others, then get comfortable with your unique activities that are productive or meaningful, or join the others. If it isn't your cup of tea to be social, do not force it. Sometimes we need solitude to consider the important things in life...what you want to do with your life, how you want to live it.... What you consider are your OWN VALUES ... so that comparisons between your activities and others are no longer an issue to be concerned about! Freedom in choosing how to be is the freedom to be yourself and happy. Hope you find what works for you. You are in no way determined to be a certain way... like the way everyone around you seem to be.
2007-06-25 13:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by Pansy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess one answer would be to join a team or a club or something or go to the gym and you will make friends. But you might not be good enough friends with them to actually go to the movies and hang out and stuff.
My advice would be to find somebody, a neighbor, somebody you said hi to in class, and just invite them over. It couldn't be that hard to be just like "hey, let's hang out". If you never make the call and invite them, you will just be sitting at home, wondering what if they had said yes. It sounds to me like you have nothing left to lose.
2007-06-25 13:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody's normal.
If you don't like sitting at home, do something you can do alone, like a movie or something. Go clean your room. Just do something. If you wanna hang out with someone, go to the mall, look for someone your age, anyone, who's alone, and go say hi. See if it leads anywhere. Look for something organized to do over the summer. Join a team, try out for a play, anything. Just to keep you occupied.
2007-06-25 19:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by Born at an early age 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are very shy. Sounds like you have a bright, active mind. Time to start focusing on what you would like to do. You can't have friends unless you are one. Any journey starts with the first step. Start stepping. You have everything you need to make your life more intersting, you have you. No one can make you happy but you. Life is a banquet, stop starving, grab a big spoon and dig in. Blessings on you.
2007-06-25 14:42:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest getting involved with groups that interest you- church groups, take up a sport, volunteer for a charity-whatever. Or even getting a little part-time job or something. You can meet people in a smaller groups - which can be less intimdating; leading to more friends and more dates :)
2007-06-25 13:22:36 · answer #10 · answered by coffeeshopnat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋