Do you think this is fair...?

Question

I just got a temporary positon at my mother's company. We work at different times and we have different schedules. She has a 8-5 shift. I have a 10-3 shift. The problem is my sister, who is 17, and I share a car. My sister dislikes waking up in the morning and taking me to work. However, she does it because she wants the car. Since I get off at 3, I think shw should pick me up and take me home. My sister thinks that I should take my mom's car...do whatever I want then come back to pick my mom up at 5. I don't think this is very fair. I can't do anything for myself for those 2 hours because of traffic; therefore I have to remain at work for 2 extra hours and they don't pay overtime. We can't afford to by my sister a car so we still have to shore. What do you think?

I told my sister how I felt and she told me thats its not fair for her because its cuts in the middle of the day where she could be doing something. I think its a bunch of bs because last summer she would have physical therapy in the middle of the day that would last 2 hours and when I had something to say, it was not noted.

Answer 1

I think the person with the job should be given priority. If you both have a job, work it out until you can afford another car.

Answer 2

I think you should take your concerns to your mother and let her know you are being responsible by holding down a job but don't feel it's right for you to have to sit at work when your sister could easily pick you up nor would be feasible for you to take her car and run back later. You essentially don't have the ability to have any down time and feel you need it after work. Ask her to intervene on your behalf and ask your sister to pick you up. You mom has the power to tell her that if she's not going to do this they you get the car while your at work.

Answer 3

well...in my family the non-working person would get last access to the car. so in your case you sister shouldnt even be driving...if she has a job too that she need to get to and from then you need just buy your own car. work and save every penny for 6 months and you should be able to afford something used.

Answer 4

This looks like a job for "FamilyDiscussionTime Man". In other words, it doesn't matter what any of us think. You, your mother and your sister have to come to some sort of agreement. Sounds like it's going to be difficult to work anything out that everyone will like, so you'll have to figure out a way to bargain - what can you offer? what will you accept? It's good practice for life and eventually marriage...