my ex broke up with me 2 1/2 months ago after i got violent i didnt hit her. i dont condon wat i done i hate myself for it. the thing is tho she used 2 beat the me up when we 1st started going out. i want to appologise to her and just get everything off my chestbut she has changed her number. i cant get over her i love her with all my heart. and she said she loved me please give me some advice on gettin her back thanks
2007-06-25 11:57:23 · 10 answers · asked by craig j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
From the tone of your question, I assume that you had a violent relationship with this person. Do yourself and her/him a favor and stay away from each other. When you atarted going together, you should have set boundaries as to what you would tolerate or not. Violence is not the way to solve ANY problems private, or public. Shame on you and shame on her. Remember one 'hit' given to someone, means you will do it again, maybe next time it will be worse. Get help for yourself and let her get her own help. You do not need her nor does she need you in her life.
2007-06-29 23:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just may be best to let her go. What is in the past should stay there. If you try to contact her (it's apparent she doesn't want that since she changed her number), she might hit you with a TRO, and you probably don't want that.
If her heart isn't with you, why would you want her back anyhow? I think you should get some counseling to work out issues you have (since you get violent, there are definately issues there) and then work on starting a better life for youself, without her. If you don't have insurance, check within your community to find out what sliding fee places there are to get counseling.
I know that's probably not what you want to hear, but we sometimes just need to let the ones we love go.......
2007-07-03 02:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you're not telling the truth and nothing but the truth.let me suggest that you give this relationship a chance to cool off.she has changed her number,and you have no other way of contacting her.in girl talk,this means she (wants nothing else to do with you).and we have a code (the first time he raises his hand at you,make it his last).It does not matter how she used to beat you up,when you guy's first started your relationship.obviously the feelings then,were mutual. the point is you went to far.she just like you knows that love brings joy not pain! once an abuser,always an abuser. subconciously, you're acting out a situation that occured during your childhood. and unless you grow up, and be man enough to seek the counciling that you so obviously need,to nip this situation in the bud b-4 someone ends up seroiusly injured. or during time for the crime,you may as well kiss this relationship goodby. or chalk this one up as, the one that got away. you see sweetie,as human's .we always hurt the ones we love.the ones we shouldn't hurt at all. and if she wanted you back,there'd be no need for this conversation.now would there?
2007-07-02 07:32:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just expect relationships have to be a roller coaster ride. They might be boring if they weren't, right? It is the feeling of abandoment thats making you hurt for this bad relationship. Our fear of abandoment makes us put up with the wrong people for way too long. Try deciding on what you don't want to happen in your next relationship, like, a girl who doesn't beat you up, and doesn't make you want to hit her. Counseling is a luxury if you can get it, do so. This problem isn't new. They won't have to re-invent the wheel for you to help you. Good luck.
2007-07-02 22:34:50 · answer #4 · answered by clevnow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should have thought of that before you got violent with her. She is right to have changed her number.
2007-07-03 01:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope - not going to happen. Move on, live with the regrets, and get some help with your temper so the next woman you get close to doesn't get scared of you
2007-06-25 12:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by John R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u might have scared her dude. Give her time to cool off and maybe you should get some counseling about that
2007-06-25 12:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by wa8n4her 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the exact same situation. Email me when you get a good answer.
2007-07-02 14:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i think u should apalogise give her or send her flowers or chocolate and if she really loves u she would acept ur apology
2007-07-02 11:43:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long were you dating for? sounds like a creepy relationship to me that was perfect for ending...honestly...abuse is not normal. get over it. she did
2007-07-02 10:27:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋