2007-06-25 11:37:55 · 14 answers · asked by Tyler V 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
It is very simple. The context for being nice requires an atmosphere or a larger environment that allows people to feel safe.
Everyone is competing to make ends meet, thus good sportsmanship is not top of mind.
In this day and time, it continues to be about survival of the fittest.
When these factors are pre-eminent "putting differences aside and being friendly" are like oil and water.
The concept of Capitalism does not facilitate unity, it makes money on differences. People bet on the odds.
For example, think of a football game, and visualize the team rivalry. Think of the participating teams and their history. It is always set up by one team being the villain, the other the savior. Think of the crowd that thrives on the rivalry. Think of the bettors that promote the game, and the odds they put their money on to win. This is a microcosm of modern capitalistic society. Money first, Cause second. Bet on the differences between the two. Win or Lose. It is that simple....cold, but simple.
2007-06-25 12:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by mark_hensley@sbcglobal.net 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just argumentative and they don't necessarily like being friendly all the time, instead they like to argue and stick to their guns. I've grown up in a family filled with them (Mom, Uncle, Grandpa, Brother, etc.) and all I see when I look at them anymore is a bunch of five-year-olds on a playground having a fight because that's what it is. It's immature to argue your point when there are so much more productive things you could be fighting for. It's selfish, too, to think that your loved ones will not be affected by it, because they are. When someone yells in an argument and their child hears it, they immediately think that something is terribly wrong when in reality the child's parents were just arguing about something stupid and insignificant. There's nothing we can do about it though, really. Because argument for the sake of argument is often reinforced by reaction (even negative reactions count as a victory for the agressor). A healthy debate is one thing but arguing for arguments sake just causes frustration.
2007-06-25 18:49:25 · answer #2 · answered by <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being friendly these days can be viewed as a sign of weakness. Others are so aggressive that if they identify someone who is overly friendly, they naturally assume that they can take advantage of that person. After a while, people get tired of being stepped on. The result: everyone putting up a tough exterior and the friendly face taking a backseat to the poker face.
2007-06-25 18:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by tooblessed2doubt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The difference between a Type A personality who has to control everything and Type B personality that is more laid back and accepting.
And the difference between people who think and act like an adult and those who act like children.
The difference between the know-it-all who thinks he is smart and has all the answers and those who know better and let the know-it-all make a fool of themselves *wink*
2007-06-25 23:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Differences or none, I simply don't like every person that I meet and I don't expect to be liked by every person that meets me.
I will only submit myself to so much crap from other people. I am always a friendly person until someone proves that they are going to treat me mean. Then I give up on them.
2007-06-25 20:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by getusedtoit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes at least two to get along. It only takes one person to bring down the whole group.
People have a hard time accepting people who have different views. It's sad but it's not a new phenomena.
2007-06-25 18:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by Cherry Darling 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to say that but when u actually put it into practice, it's hard. U might keep ur differences aside and try to talk but when u talk more, those differences will keep popping up and it's really hard to hide them.
2007-06-25 20:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by K.P. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
cause damn... sometimes you just have too many problems with someone to be able to just sit back with a smile like nothings wrong....
but thats when its something personal...
when your around all kinds of strangers and have issues with some of them, well , some people just dont give a damn to be all friendly towards strangers .. some people don't care, and you know what thats fine with me, its not like im going to see them every day for the rest of my life....
... but you'll be happy to know that i am a nice person
sometimes probably too nice to everyone i meet....
2007-06-25 18:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes their ego gets in the way ,other times it's just the history people have
2007-06-25 19:55:22 · answer #9 · answered by Inahzi13 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree.
I think it is a problem because many people are not open-minded enough to realize we can be different from each other and still get along.
2007-06-25 18:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by christine_ 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋