I am a 25 yr old married women who has been bi for about 3 yrs now. I have been married almost 7 yrs and I am still trying to find the best way to tell my husband that I am bi and I also like bdsm.
2007-06-25 11:17:55 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I was bi coursie through out High School if that clears things up.
2007-06-26 02:53:50 · update #1
well the definition is that you like males as well as females so that might make the news not as bad. not that i am saying that it is bad i think that it is great. anyways you could try to tell him by starting with "you have to promise to hear me out and then you will tell me what you think " also you could say that the news you will give probably wont be that bad. by the way since you are married to a guy the only time that you really have to worry is if you happen to get a divorce. and if you two have any kides then you may want to wait tlll they know about being biwhen they are like 13.
you know i dont see why there is such a big and dramati reaction when people are rold these sort of things. i mean if a family member told me i would be somewhat suprised but ultimatly my reaction and response would be "and so whats your point" i would not care as long as they were happy. and if he loves you he will not make that big of a deal out of it.
2007-06-25 11:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by darkfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't seen any signs by now he must be blind or you must hide it very well ... now are you trying to tell him you're bi or are you trying to experiment with him ... big difference ... first step is communicating - my man can get jealous of another female just as bad as if I was checking out another guy ... so not all men will be ok with it and say - hell yeah lets bring another chick in the bedroom ... he sees it as cheating - girl or guy it's still a sexual act ... it's a hard subject to open up about with your partner - I'm stuck with strip clubs and pornos for my fix ... lol ... good luck ... start talking ... !
2007-06-25 11:45:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF you are married and true to your vows, then what does it matter if you are bi or not? As for liking bdsm, just tell him you like it, you may get a nice surprise.
2007-06-25 11:22:18 · answer #3 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well start off by asking him about some of his sexual fantasies (people like to talk about themselves)...that way you can kind of feel him out, see how he'd react and proceed from there.
2007-06-25 11:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could rent a movie with those themes and see how he reacts. "Exit to Eden" is kinda crappy, but it does have some scenes that could start a conversation.
2007-06-25 11:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by Robin W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bring him another chick! I doubt he'll argue much. (May be bad advice but it'd work on me :P )
2007-06-25 11:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by KidCuervo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So your saying that you turned bi while being married?? Please get a bible and repent!!! It wasn't meant for women to be with women anyway!!!!
2007-06-25 11:24:06 · answer #7 · answered by Alisha 3 · 0⤊ 6⤋