What is the nicest way I can tell my GF it is over. So we can stay on speaking terms at least.?

Answer 1

well its difficult
but try this tell her wht u exactly feel
good luck

Answer 2

There really is no easy way to do it but don't expect it to be an easy thing to do

Expect a variety of responses if it was a long time relationship but also prepare yourself for the fact that she may not want to be friends after bieng dumped

Or at least not for a while

Some can't handle bieng freinds with there ex's cause of feelings there

I feel for you been there

on both sides


I might be able to help with a bit more details if you want you can message me

Be Totally Honest about your Feelings do It in person

Answer 3

Just be honest, tell her your reason for ending it....maybe that you just don't have those kind of feelings for her anymore or that you think you just like her as a friend or something like that and then tell her that she still means an awful lot to you and that you would love to still be a part of her life but as just a friend. Then you have to prove it, text her and ring her and meet up with her but be careful that you aren't leading her on...like no flirting, pet names, touching or anything like that. Just beware things normally get worse before they get better. As the dumpee of a few relationships with friends the dumpee gets angry and feels really rejected, especially when you can still get on as a friend it just makes her feel like she is unattractive. As the dumper it is up to you to maintain a friendship and work through these problems with her...it will be tough but it will be worth it in the end! Oh and one other bit of advice, don't kiss anyone else in front of her for a bit anyway and if you want to stay really good friends then it may be an idea to decide what you should do if either of you start seeing someone else, like do you talk about it and tell one another or what?!...Ok I think that is everything....good luck with it!x

Answer 4

Hun, take it from someone who has been dumped in the past, doing it through text or letter is a very bad idea!! you'll only hurt her more so do it face to face and be as open and honest as possible.Before you do it, think carefully what you will say and be absolutley sure about the right place and time. Trust me, she'll respect you for being sincere which is what all women want really (she might even recommend you!!)

Answer 5

You want to just control EVERYTHING don't you? Listen, you can tell her you've grown apart, it's not her, it's you, etc., etc. In the long run she is going to evaluate your relationship and decide whether or not you were a good or bad guy. Breaking up tends to lead to that sort of reflection in women. If she decides you were a good enough friend during the realtionship, once she is over you she may wish to keep talking to you.
You only get to control deciding to split, NOT being a good guy or getting spoken to; that's up to her.

*Personally, guys that stomp on your heart and then say, "let's be friends" make me sick!*

Answer 6

Whatever you do, do not tell her over e-mail, texting or phone. IN PERSON!!!! I can not stress this enough. At least she wont think you are a coward, and atleast came to her in person. Sit her down, while you two are alone, and explain to her your feelings, why you dont think the relationship is working...possibly you two could work something out to make it better. Just be nice...and do not insult her. Hopefully everything will work out for the best!
Good luck!! =]

Answer 7

Just tell her that you aren't feeling as close to her as you once were, and you think it's only being fair to her to be honest about your feelings. Don't let her pressure you into staying by letting her promise to do things differently or make changes... stand firm. But make sure you tell her that you would hate to lose her as a friend, you "hope your honesty hasn't completely ruined any chances at friendship that you could have had".

Answer 8

Are you kidding she is gonna kick your ... when you tell her. She is going to hate your guts and wish that every possible bad and inhumane thing in the world would happen to you and then she is going date guys that she knows you hate and then after about 6 or 7 months then maybe she will say hello in passing that is about the best you can hope for.

Unless of course she wants the breakup to then you will be just fine.

Good luck and remember to duck.

Answer 9

you can never be sure of staying on speaking terms really...
be honest with her about wanting to break up - but not brutally so!!!

if you want to stay friends let her know that but understand you have had time to come to terms with wanting to break up and she hasn't so expect at least a bit of turbulence before you can be mates again...and some people can't don't like to be friends with ex's...

Answer 10

first it must be in person cause if you dont its just the chicken way out....if you guys have been together for a long time then she probally wont want to be friends at lest not right away....make sure you find time when its just you too together and dont really warn her ahead of time. what i mean is dont say we need to talk...alone cause then she will know something is up and get all nervous. lastly i would just explain to her your lives are headed in diffrent directions, you dont have that connection with her anymore.
good luck!

Answer 11

Don't guarantee that she'll want to stay friends after you dump her!
The simplest way is to be honest, and just tell her kindly that it's over. If she has strong feelings for you, be prepared for a variety of responses!