19..sex life is boring--HELP!?

Question

i am 19 and so is my boyfriend. we have lived together for a year and been together for over 2 years. or sex life is boring and so our we. i feel like im 50 and should be retiring soon we never go out -we never party -we dont go out to dinner unless i buy because he doesn't have the money--he is in alot of debt---we dont go to the movies. we really dont do anything. i dont like that we have the same routine everyday. 1wake up 2go to work 3eat dinner 4sleep and thats everyday!!! it so boring- i told him about how i feel and he doesnt change. i dont know what do to.. HELP

Answer 1

well, i'm free next weekend...whatever you want to do is alright with me! my treat!

Answer 2

Where did all the debt come from??? Stop listening to your nasty caddy friends. You have a good man. We are hard to find. What happened to your job to pay half the living expenses??? Hey--your playing husband and wife. I guess you used to get drunk and smoke weed and is that why your bored. I did not see church as an activity--why not??? Sex is a real strange animal to capture. In stead of being a prude --why don't you spice it up. Watch some XXX movies if ya don't know what to do. Being a good girl is not good for you -- try being his HO and behave like one. to get started,. Soon as you man hits the front door. Off come the clothes and demand $20 worth sexual pleasure. Oral and then Hard and fast... Or you can say--""""tired and bored we have no fun -- think I'll eat some worms...""""

Answer 3

Hi,

perhaps this is no longer the relationship for you....and maybe you're just putting up with it out of habit.....although I once left a boyfriend because I thought it was boring (I was 19 also) and regretted it....chasing excitement that didn't exist. Unfortunately, as you get older, you realise this world isn't all fun and laughter, your getting to an age now where you have to take a lot of responsibility and this can feel very tiresome.....try planning an activity with your boyfriend once a week, maybe something that doesn't cost money....a picnic in the park perhaps....then you have the whole week to look forward to it....also, go out with your own friends and spend time with them.....doing girlie stuff...this will help you feel less suffocated by your relationship.....give yourselves a break from each other occasionally.

As far as the sex life goes....this happens to a lot of couples. Why not try to spice things up a bit.....maybe one day when he comes home from work, you could have dinner ready for him....wear some sexy underwear and try some different positions.....maybe watch a porn movie together?! try something out of the ordinary. Me and my (ex) long-term boyfriend used to try different things....look at porn online, have sex in a different room to normal, try dressing up, role-play, massage, blind-folds, food incorporation....there's lots of possibilities....(me and my ex used to sometimes pretend we'd just met....sounds stupid, but you really get into it and it brought back the excitement of the early days for a few hours.)

Goodluck xx

Answer 4

Well the reason you are here, first of all is that you chose to live together so early and neither of you are fully establish so obviously you will suffer.

What you need to do is go your separate ways and live real lives, instead of digging holes. When I was 19, I thought I knew it all and that everything was going to be a certain way. Was I ever wrong!

Wait until you are in your mid-20s. Life is so different. If you keep going this way, you will try to break out when you are in your 30s and you will have a rough time.

Answer 5

why do you need to party or go to dinner or the movies to have an exciting life? why don't you try going outside or take some classes together or do something new?
you don't need money to go to the park and play frizbee or have a lil romantic picnic. :) also hanging out with friends and doing stuff like having a bbq can be fun and cheap. maybe you like to rollersk8 or bowl? think about the stuff you used to have fun doing when you were a kid and try doing that stuff.

Answer 6

Hunny,...look at what you just asked. Your life isnt going to just magically change! You need to make it change. If you cant afford to go out...then do something like going to the park, or going fishing, or the beach if able. Take it upon yourself to make your life more exciting. Dont wait for someone to do it for you. Go bike riding...or jogging...or for a walk even....Enjoy it being just the 2 of you because if you decide to have children you wont be able to enjoy alon time for a very long time....trust me I have 2 children and we barely get to do anything together either...so take the time to find something to do...dont just complain about it...and the sex part...try something different....men are usually up for anything...bring in some toys ...watch some porn...let loose! good luckl

Answer 7

First of all I am sorry you are going through this, because I know how that feels, it sucks!

I would suggest to take a good look around you and think about where you are heading, then think about where you would want to be and start shaking things up to make it happen. It's up to you to get what you want, it's not just gonna come to you.

At 19 you have plenty of time to admit your mistakes and start over, don't be afraid, you probably have more strenght than you realize. Good luck

Answer 8

welcome to life. sometimes boring is good. you just have to pick the good things in life to look at rather than all of the bad. sounds to me like the problem is not that your sex life is boring, but that your boring. why not try to spice it up some, read some great books on the subject, learn to do things like crafts and painting at home. Talk about books. walk around the block. hell if the sex is that boring, then invite some other trusted people to join you. don't be foolish, your going to regret all of the time you spent wallowing in misery when you do get to be 50.

Answer 9

You're 19 and been with guy for two years and your bored. You said boy friend, not husband.

Dump the bankrupt dude and find a real man!

Life is too short--go for the gusto Babe.

Answer 10

Maybe you and him need a picnic they are cheap and it changes things. Maybe while on the picnic have sex on the blanket, or in the woods. Do in on the hood of hte car. Do in at hte drive in theater.

Answer 11

u dont have to go out everyday just to be sexually satisfied. try something like.... have sex after dinner or while having dinner, before u go to work, when u come home, while watching tv, before u go to sleep........ geezz... ya'll 19?! what the hell. try to make it exciting!!!