I'm 29 yrs old, healthy with a good job and nice car but I'm bored and don't know where my life is headed. I know I want change in my life, a new challenge to get my out of this rut. I trust my feelings but my feelings aren't providing the answers. All my mates are settling down and i feel isolated. They just seem to accept things, and i'm kinda envious of that. I seem to crave for something but what it is I'm not exactly sure. I want to find myself and get passionate about something. Anybody felt the same way and how did you make it through?
2007-06-25 10:22:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Firstly Id suggest you don't measure yourself against other people - family , friends , etc. simply because no one has the "perfect" life. Have you ever noticed when you connect and talk to them and you learn of what worries them deeply no one on the journey of life has been free of upset doubt worry and so on - the trick I learnt a long time ago was to try out something I felt passionate about. It concerned some folks who were dis-empowered - this turned out a jewel in my life and gave a real sense of purpose but be careful that it does not consume your every minute - the trick was to take the first step on that journey and treat every day as precious and new and mine - your unique - your seeking - try something new that brings a spark to your life - However don't try climbing Everest before you've got a map , are kitted out and walked a hill ! Enjoy life your thinking !
2007-06-25 11:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people turn to religion for an answer. That is always an option. Not necessarily Christian, but something to fill a void.
But also, I like to learn and try new things. Recently I have undertaken writing a fiction book. It occupies a lot of time, and I get a sense of satisfaction in creating a world that is solely of my own creation.
Just jump out there and try something new. Or, find a significant other and starting working towards creating a family. That may be what you really want when you look at your friends.
2007-06-25 17:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by Harken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do understand. First, you must reflect and think. The answers come in time. The way I got out of this rut was to help others. I financially adopted a kid about a year ago, and continue to support him along with other charities that help defeat global poverty. It makes you feel like you made a difference. Another option is to find someone you love. Perhaps you want a legacy... something to feel like you left on this planet? That is what charity has given for me. Sound cleshay and corny, but I think it could really help you out.
2007-06-25 17:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by WarmthintheCold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, maybe you should let yourself find a nice girl to settle down with. But, only do this when you feel ready or you may regret it and feel trapped. If you can, go travel a little, see the world maybe this will give you time to find yourself and discover what you are passionate about. Possibilities are endless for you! All the best to you! = )
2007-06-25 17:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by Eternalsilence 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your just going through a crisis and will come out of this in time...
Lots of people l have moments in our life feeling like that but you just have to get on with it or give up.
Maybe you need to lead yourself along another path.. a more exciting path? What are your interests? If your a little envious of your friends settling down do you want that? I think you just seem to have lost your way a little.. Focus
2007-06-25 17:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by confused 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read the book "power of focus" it will really help you set a mission/vision that you could align all your efforts towards reaching them.
Do you love your job? a lot of people do a job just because it provides a good pay...but unless you love your job, you will never be stimulated, and will not excel...thus boredom crawls into your life.
I honestly suggest that you read the book, its really very good.
BTW, I am 29 years old as well, and was in exactly similar situation as you are (except that I am married and have a daughter), the book was literally a point of change in my life; to the best
2007-06-25 17:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by hani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I learnt about 6 years ago, that your life is yours & you can do anything you want!
So i went travelling. Infact i have'nt stopped yet! 've been all over the world, lived in most countrys in the E.U. & next month im moving to Poland with my fiance. & we are now trying for a baby!
If you had told me my future 7 years ago, i would of laughed at you!
2007-06-25 17:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel stuck in a dead end job,no car,but luckily have family around me. I know it's up to me to make the changes becuse no one is gonna fight for me,i just have to remain positive and try harder.
2007-06-25 17:25:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
im almost fifty and i learned something about computers and ran with it. i dont have much but what i have is mine. grandma moses learned painting at eighty. my point here is your never too old. just learn it. become curious and feed your curiosity. thatl stop all the fuss. good luck.
2007-06-25 17:25:35 · answer #9 · answered by koalatcomics 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try new things and try doing thats that scare you. That is the key to finding yourself and being happy with who that person is
2007-06-25 17:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by uz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋