What do you when you aren't part of the "click" at work? Being talked about/made fun of? To your face & not?

Answer 1

just smile and pretend it dosen't hurt your feelings, cause if you show weakness, they will tear you limb for limb

Answer 2

Let me ask you this, why do you want to be a part of the "click" at work? There are other more interesting people there I would venture to say. I have found in my years of working that the people who are in a "click" are very boring when they are just by themselves. They have nothing of value to say or do unless they are with the others in the "click" because they feed off of each other. The other people at work who are not in the "click" are the interesting and most warm of the bunch because they are individual not of a group that have to prove themselves worthy of being in a "click". Try to befriend these people one at a time and soon you will have your own little group of people that are interesting and friendly and also faithful to a friendship and who do not have to make fun of someone else to feel important. Believe me, I know all about this and that is what I did at each job I ever worked at and now I have a wealth of very good friends that have been friends for years and will do anything for me and I for them. Relax, you are a good person and I feel you will be successful.

Answer 3

Call 'em out. Seriously, confront them about it in a respectful, intelligent way. If they don't start respecting you after that, asked to be transfered to a different department. But, if you are unfortunate enough to work in too small a company for the above option, then all you can do is be yourself and hope that it grows old to them.

If you aren't trying to impress them, and you are just being yourself but still being made fun of, then they have a problem with their own self-image. Tearing someone else down to build yourself up is a common sign of an inferiority complex.

Hope this helps. Good luck man.

Answer 4

Mind my own business and just work. And learn to do what is called "rumor control" which is a way of managing such situations to my favor. I am a winner so I don't let this activity bother me to the point where I too cant see beyond the other person or person's ambitions. I keep my value focused and on the job and maintain an adult complimentary interchange no matter how far into the web of deceit and lies the rumor may go. Sooner or later it all subsides and looks for another victim.

Answer 5

make friends with other people at work that are not part of the clique eg the cleaners, people in other departments etc then ignore "the clique". It is important to realize that people that make fun of others have a problem of immaturity and low self esteem so that they have to put other people down to feel good. Rise above them and live life being yourself. Making friends around the office gives you some companionship and makes you feel like you belong somewhere that way you don't feel lonely at work. As far as them talking about you, no biggie. Hopefully they wouldn't act like 12 yr olds forever

Answer 6

Ignore them.The more you fight it the more you will get hurt. Trust me I have expereinced this numerous times. Just think of them as immature little teenagers and ignore them. People who form clicks at work are not the people you want to associate with. They will change your entire personality, and no click is worth that. Since I left my job, life has been awesome! No negative influence anymore, I am me all over again. I can go to church and pray and read the Bible, and focus on school. I can voice my opinion and it doesnt matter what others think. You want my freedom, dont let them influence you. Let God influence you instead, He is the higher power and He has all of the answers so ask Him!

Answer 7

Ignore them for the most part. You could make friends with individuals or you can confront individuals, but standing up to groups normally doesn't work. If you're being teased for no good reason, then they are just nasty people and they will probably continue (although eventually the charm of it all may die down in time). Then again, maybe you could slap them with a harassment lawsuit... but chances are you may just have to develop thick skin.

Answer 8

First of all one must realize that being at work means you're there to work, u go to work to work not socialize or fit in w/ anybody, one should always have friends outside of the work place, talk to the people that want to talk to u at work just to make the time pass, don't try to make them your friends or try to fit in, Keep your business to yourself unless u don't mind people repeating it, confide in your true friends not your coworkers, your life will be much simpler if u follow these rules!

Answer 9

I don't have the "need" to fit in. No one can make fun of me unless I allow it, and I don't. I am work for a pay check. I already have freinds.

Answer 10

Be cooler than the clique and you will soon be overrun by your own clique that will be better than the kissass original group. This has worked for me in the past. You have to have an eye for the odd person and welcome them. In other words, you have to be the leader.

Answer 11

talk to em about it and tell them to chill out, if they dont start lookin for a new job and punch one of em in the face