I have always been "daddy's little girl" or daddy's "princess"...But the past couple of years we've fought nonstop. We always make things up, but the fights are really bad. We scream at each other for hours, and it usually ends up with one of us really hurting the other. Or with me getting thrown out of the house.
The last argument we had he told me that he thought I was crazy and that he wanted to take me to see "somebody". That really upset me.
What should I do? I really just want to be daddy's perfect little girl.
2007-06-25 09:31:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Trust me, will always be daddy's little girl. That could be part of the problem. I understand were you are coming from me and my dad went through the same thing and it took me moving out of state to grow up and understand what we going one. One major thing I learned was that my dad and I were just the same hard headed and stubborn, we both thought we were right and the other was wrong. I learned one this from all that yell, that when we started to yell at each other, I would tell him that I didn't want to fight, that I was going to go to my room or out for a walk and calm down and then we would come back a hour or two later and try again but this time without the yelling. You dad doesn't think your crazy he was most likely up set and wanted to hurt you with his words. Sit down with him and talk to him, don't yell. Tell him how that made you feel and ask him why he thinks you need to see "someone" and then think about it from his point of view. See where he is coming from. Good luck, give it time all will work out.
2007-06-25 09:39:24 · answer #1 · answered by Midnight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that you're growing up and your father is having trouble letting go.This is a very typical situation that should eventually calm down. Your father feels like he's losing you and doesn't know how to handle it. I know it's hard to believe but the separation you are experiencing now is necessary. Your relationship needs to change in order to remain a healthy relationship as you become an independent adult. You shouldn't strive to stay daddy's little girl but rather just try to understand what's happening and what he's going through. It will help you both in the long run. In the meantime, try talking to him when things are calm. Tell him that you love him , tell him that the things he says are hurting you and that you miss the close relationship you've always had with him. Be honest , try to keep the anger to a minimum . I know it gets very frustrating . Most of all don't keep these things bottled up inside.All of these feelings will pass. The relationship with your father will change and become more on an adult level where you can be close again but in a different way. Be patient and just try to make the right choices in the moment ..... it will get better : )
Take care and good luck to you !!!
2007-06-25 09:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No parent want's to be back talked. Even if you thing he's wrong just don't say anything that would upset him. You know your own father better than anyone else so you know what sets him off so just stop saying those things. When you move out and you want to give him a piece of your mind that's up to you but for now don't raise your voice to him and try to get your point across as best as you can without yelling at him.
2007-06-25 09:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by Caramel1227 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem.., you are growing up and dad is having a hard time letting go. The best thing to do is include your dad in your life and make time for just him. My dad and I would go out to lunch once a week. When I moved out I would usually invite him for dinner every week.
2007-06-25 09:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by Ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone goes through this. i am a daddys little girl, and when i was in my teens we fought a lot. dads dont seem to realize that there perfect little angel is growing up and sometimes he doesnt realize that you will make mistakes. he will get over it. you just need to be understanding
2007-06-25 09:36:29 · answer #5 · answered by awesome_girl435 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like he wnts to start something with you everytime mabye you arent seeing eye to eye about something if you over 18 i would just move out if not than mabye you and your dad could sit and takl things out but remember NOONE can be perfect..
hope all works out!
2007-06-25 09:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by *~*ME*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is just worrying about you. But making things up is no good. Just confront him nicely (if thats a possibility) and try and tell him and make him understand.
2007-06-25 09:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by songofthesea_jewel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will get better. Just sit down and explain to him that his comment was uncalled for. But you must speak to him calmly.
2007-06-25 09:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by doeymeister 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then start acting like it and stop arguing with your father.
2007-06-25 09:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is your bestfriend, you just don`t notice it yet.
2007-06-25 09:36:16 · answer #10 · answered by lilasiangirl81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋