hey everyone i have a little problem and i need help. i love my girlfriend to death and she tells me that she loves me to. over this past weekend, she told me that she wants to take a little break but she still loves me. she claims that she just wants to make sure that she really loves me. she just wants to try it out for the summer. she also told me that i am holding her back a little. by that i mean, when she goes out w/ her friends, she want to meet new people but she feels guilty b/c i am alway on her mind. wat should i do, i have never been in this situtation. and i dont want to lose her. one other thing, she lives 5 hrs away rite now b/c she is in school. if anyone can help that would be great.
2007-06-25 07:34:29 · 27 answers · asked by gteeters44 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
every one ^^^ is being so negative. if she really loves you. and you take a break, and if you get back together she may realize she loves you so much. you need to be understanding. you should fight a little for no break, but if she doesnt give up you should cave and say ok. then well take a break. but make the break shorter so she doesnt forget about you. compromise. you need to be stable though. be prepared cause there is a chance she might not wanna get back together. but HINT (and i only know this cause ive been through this) dont badger her while your on your break. give her her space. i mean still talk to her. maybe text her or give her a call everyonce in a while to see how things are goin but dont obcesse over it. you need to also try and be an amazing boyfriend/guy while your apart. shell realize how lucky she is to have a guy like you waiting for you and hopefully come back to you. hope this helps. good luck! make sure you tell her you love her before the break
2007-06-25 07:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My best advice would be to sit down and talk with her. Why does she need time away when she already lives 5 hours away? Feeling guilty is good and bad. I would feel guilty if I was flirting with a guy( I would never do as I am engaged!_, but just meeting new people should not make her feel guilty. I understand the young and want to be free during summer bit, but if you both truly love each other you should want to enjoy the summer together! I think if you can both agree to being honest with each other and give each other space (which it sounds like you do by letting her go out with her friends... alot of guys don't even let their girlfriends do that!) I think it should work out... everyone goes through their ups and downs but if you both honestly love each other it will work out. Girlfriend also needs to be honest with you.... saying you are holding her back sounds like she is hiding something... the only way you can hold some one back is by not allowing them to be themself... If you really love her then you have to let her be herself... even if that means indulging her wild side and letting her have a girls night out (without calling every 15 mins to check up on her or showing up with your boys to keep an eye on her!) TRUST is a huge issue in most relationships.... keep things trustworhty and honest and I hope for the best for you guys! Remember if you love something set it free if it comes back to you it was meant to be!
2007-06-25 14:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. I don't understand how she can tell you that she wants to make sure she loves you by not being with you and trying to meet other people. It sounds like she doesn't have the guts to break it off completely and hopes by doing it this way, it will be easier. Like at the end of the summer you two will have grown too far apart and she won't have to "break up" with you completely. I think she is looking for someone else.
2007-06-25 14:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are on the verge of losing her, but it is also part of life. To me it sounds like she went off to college and she wants to be free of your relationship, have fun with her friends when they go out and party, and live with no guilt if she finds another guy. Sucks but that is the reality of it and typically long distance relationships do not work in the long run. Only thing you can do at this point is to do as she wishes and hope that she does truly love you and realizes it as time goes by. Being 5 hours away, there is not much you can do ....let her grow her wings and hope she flies back to your nest.
GL
2007-06-25 14:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by eric f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why you can't go out and meet new friends together!
(When you are at arms length, not 5 hours away!) Tell her you think you should see each other through the summer,
at least a few times! She might be so devoted to getting
ahead in her education, that she is making friends that study only the same subjects! (Good luck, please take time to have a heart to heart chat with her, if not you might marry someone else, and break her heart completely!!)
2007-06-25 14:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by V B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go.. She obviuosly has met someone else and needs to see who the better man is. Live your life without her. If she says she needs space and she lives 5 hours a way thats a sign something is on her burner besides you. Find someone who enjoys being with you and does not need a break for the summer. Summer is time for fun and romance not time to take breaks from relationships.. Good luck
2007-06-25 14:39:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that she is on the fence and can't decide if she still wants to be with you or if she wants to be single. She may feel she is missing out on something by staying in a relationship. Unfortunately there is not much you can do. You can't make someone stay with you that doesn't want to be there to begin with. Let her go and be classy about it. if it is meant to be then the "space" will make her realize it and if you still want her then you can go back. Otherwise try to enjoy your time apart and see other girls.
2007-06-25 14:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by karenlanea2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy in my life lives about 18 hours from me...we aren't officially a couple because of the distance he tells me to go out but when I do I feel guilty because of him...he says we aren't in a relationship but he isn't going out with anyone else...we talk constantly so I really don't think he is but if I were to go out and I met someone I would talk to them if we're not in a relationship and he says he doesn't want to hold me back...even if I feel guilty because I love him...we are not serious rt now...that is not my choice so I am not going to sit around waiting for who knows what....this is her choice in your situation and to me I would think she wants to date others. or at least meet others and possibly date. You can't hold her in a relationship she doesn't want to be in even if she does love you if she doesn't want to be in it then it isn't going to survive so maybe the best thing you can do is let her go...you know the saying if you let it go and it comes back then it was meant to be....if it doesn't then you needed to go through it to grow
2007-06-25 14:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by flysosodefhoney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go. Don't be in the position where she is in total control over you. If she is the one then she'll be back. It sounds like she is trying to play you. She wants to go out and have fun with whomever she wants but, wants to know you will be there waiting for her. Tell her bye!
2007-06-25 14:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by Windy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do what she wants... she may want to move on, or she may just want a break -- you'll never know for sure. but if you try to keep her with you, it will be the quickest way to freak her out and break up with you permanently. Give her some space and she may come back to you. it has happened to me.
2007-06-25 14:38:39 · answer #10 · answered by novajr17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋