Wedding Question (While being pregnant!)?

Question

I'm 8 weeks pregnant. Me and my boyfriend want to do this right & get married before the birth of our child. He wants to elope to Gatlinsburg,TN (his favorite place in the world) & then come back and a have a good size reception for family & friends. Everyone else said we should have a traditional wedding in my church with a small reception afterwards. What is your guy's opinion? Small & in our hometown or Elope & come back for a big celebration?

Answer 1

The first thing you need to do is figure out how much $$$ each option will cost you. That will help you decide.

If money isn't an issue, then talk it over with your family(s) and see if any of them would be willing to make the trip to Gatlinburg with you. That is a good compromise since he wants to go there to get married (it is beautiful, by the way), and you want to have your friends and family there.

Congrats on the baby and the engagement! Best of luck!

Answer 2

You'll need to check with your pastor and church. Many churches refuse to perform marriage ceremonies if the bride has conceived out of wedlock. If your church refuses to marry pregnant brides, there's your answer -- elope to Gatlinsburg. Then head north to Pigeon Forge for dinner at the Dixie Stampede! ;)

Actually, if it were MY choice (and it isn't) I would elope and then have the big party. It's ridiculous how much weddings cost these days, with major pocket burning expenses with the dress, veil, shoes, flowers, church rental, minister's fees, tuxedo, musicians, aisle runner, programs, photographer, videographer, etc., etc., etc. Instead of pouring money into something like that, why not have a sweet little intimate ceremony with your boyfriend in one of those adorable mountain chapels in Gatlinsburg, then use some of the money that would have gone for an expensive traditional wedding and celebrate your union in a reception for family and friends (a nice casual one, like a barbecue or picnic, would be fun). PLUS... a Gatlinsburg ceremony would allow you to put aside a good chunk of the money you'd spend on a traditional wedding towards that baby, and those are expenses you can't opt out of or ignore.

Good luck and congrats!

Answer 3

Well, it's your day so do what you want to do. There is a lot of stress involved in planning a wedding so from that angle it wouldn't hurt to elope then have your reception like your bf wants. Don't listen to "everyone else" though because that is going to confuse and stress you out even more. What kind of wedding is it that you have dreamed about? The weird part is that I know a few women in your situation who have done both, they eloped, had their baby, then came back to have the big wedding.

Answer 4

This is so weird because I am 8 weeks too and in the same boat. We have lived together for the past 4 yrs and already own a home together. When we found out we were pregnant we figured we would just go to the court house and save the $$ for the baby. When we told our family though they were so excited that they are paying for a full blown wedding in 2 months. We tried to reason with them saying it wasn't needed but they want us to have some great wedding memories as well as babies. How could we say no. I say do whatever you guys want. It is how you will always remember your wedding. Congrats on both!

Answer 5

This is YOUR day. It's for you and your man. If you want to elope, don't bow down to the pressures of family. You have to remember this day for the rest of your life so make it what you want. If you yourself aren't comfortable with eloping, then talk to him. There may be a compromise you two can agree on. Maybe you could allow your parents or something to attend, even if you elope. It's completely up to you and your hubby to be.

p.s. I don't know your history, but if you are getting married JUST because you are pregnant, I would like to ask you to reconsider. If you've talked about it before you got pregnant though, and wanted to anyway, then that's perfectly ok. Just make sure you'll be happy.

Answer 6

I'm not sure if this makes a difference, but now that you are expecting a baby, finances should considered. How much do you want to spend on the wedding? Eloping might be the cheaper way of getting married.

Answer 7

It all depends on your income and budget. Since there is a baby on the way. A small wedding is still going to be a little costly because you are going to have to get a dress, if you decide to elope, you can at least only worry about attire for the two of you.

Answer 8

Been here, we tried to get pregnant even though we were not married but we found out in july we were expecting and had a wonderful wedding Nov. 13th. So if you can do it I would have a nice church wedding. We had our friends pitch in wedding decor for the rented community center 200bucks and had everyone pitch in money for the beer and hard liquor that was there. (I didnt even get a sip) The food was all cooked from my mom and her friend, we all did our own serving, no caters. You can make a very nice wedding happen for a cheap price. My dress was normally 600bucks at davids bridel I got it for 99 on there sale they have like 5 times a year. Good Luck girl! Get Married now with all your friends. Every woman deserves a nice wedding, not a court house wedding. If you need more ideas send me an email.

Answer 9

After planning my own wedding, I would elope if I were you. My husband and I talked after the wedding and decided that If we could go back in time, we would have. It becomes a huge problem and I ended up losing a lot of friends after our wedding.

Answer 10

Your wedding day is something you will remember for the rest of your life. Just a little advice, try to make it as wonderful as possible. Take as many pictures as you can. The place shouldn't matter so much, but the people who are with you when it happens make the event all that more special!