What should I do?

Question

My BF of one year just lied to me. I am in Arkansas and he is in SF. He took a job with an airline and wants me to move. I was not totally for it, but since he was so excited about the idea I just didn't feel like I could say no. Our plan is that he go out to SF first and then when he gets set up, I will take a job out there and join him. But yesterday he lied saying he was just goofing off with some friends downtown. Later in the evening I called him back and he told me he was just laying and watching TV at the hotel he is staying at, but then I heard dogs barking. He told me that he was over a friends house that had just moved there too, but I had a funny feeling about it. This morning, he called to tell me he was lying and was really over at his ex's house in Orange County and that he felt bad for lying. He couldn't really explain why he just didn't tell me the truth in the first place. Now I am confused and unsure about moving out there. What should I do?

Answer 1

if you think that he is lying to you, you really should confront him about it then if the outcome is any less of undesirable take further action from there
A; break up
B; stick it out

Answer 2

He isn't over his ex yet.

While it would not hurt to talk with him, you do have to look very carefully at this relationship. You will never be able to know if and when he is telling you the truth. His ex probably told him to call you to admit he was lying (probably why he has an ex).

It may be best to dump him and move on.

Answer 3

Once a liar, always a liar. I wouldn't trust him. But I've been hurt before and my trust level is at rock bottom.

I think you need to talk seriously with him about this before you make a big decision like moving across the country.

Just my opinion, others will differ

Answer 4

You need to talk to him about it. If he's lied to you once, like Shy Lion said, there are chances he will do it again. Maybe you should reconsider this relationship right now.