How can i help my partner overcome sexual problems?

Question

My partner and I have not had sexual intercourse for 15 months now. He says its all in his head but wont see some one about about. How can i help to overcome his fear of sex or his fear of drs! I love him and dont want to leave him so please dont advise me to do that

Answer 1

Try browsing the sexualhealth.com website. It's thanks to this site that I found out that my medication lowers my libido. I was under the impression that it's aimed at the disabled but looking at it now, I'm not so sure. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 2

15 months is a long time. Best advice would be to look at some books on foreplay. Find ways of turning your partner on to bring out the 'natural' instinct in him. Or get him to start asking questions via NHS websites and other websites were no physical contact is needed. His fear of doctors is will be originating from something that has happened in the past. Approach this incident which has caused the fear by talking about it. Failing these have you considered that one main reason someone does not have sex with a partner is due to the fact they are having sex with someone else?

Answer 3

He is right as most sexual problem are all "in the head" so to speak but at times this can also be down to nerves, stress and other things going on in his life.

Why don't you ask him to open up and speak to you about these issues instead of a Dr. Ok a doctor would probably be more qualified but you know him better than anyone so it would be a good start for him.

Good luck.

Answer 4

It might be a bit out of your league to help him. The best advice would be for him to see a therapist. There could be lots of underlying problems going on which even he may not be aware of. I don't think it would be in yours/his best interest for you to try and diagnose the problems without consulting a specialist in this field. You want him to get better and I'm sure he does as well, so you don't have many alternatives. Unless of course there is someone that he trusts implicitly that he might talk with and try to explain whats going on. Good luck.

Answer 5

Make a doctor's appointment for him and then go along for moral support. Most men find it hard to talk about sexual dysfunctions but what he may not realize is it is your problem too. So that makes it something he should take seriously for the sake of the relationship. Discuss how it is affecting you and maybe he will go for your sake.

Answer 6

You need to spice things up for him babe.

Sounds very much to me like you ain't doing your bit to get him going. It's a two way thing you know, you can't lie back and let him do all the work.

You want to learn some skills, maybe get a girlfriend in to help you out, know what I mean?



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Answer 7

to be perfectly honest if he loved you he would get this problem sorted not just for his sake for yours as well give him an ultimatum-say a month to seek professional help and if he does,nt then I'm sorry he cant think that much of you so perhaps it would be time to cut your losses

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Answer 9

maybe he is gay. If he is not, I think it reasonable that he gets some help, Otherwise are you going to not have sex for the rest of your life. If he cares about you and you threaten to leave unless he get's help, he will, but if you let him get away with not getting any help then he will never get help.

Answer 10

foreplay as this breaks the barrier between the two, and make it interesting,do things which you a'int done before,dont start with the same thing,always afterplay as well which tells eachother that u care and love eachother.