My bfs dad beats him up and I don't know what to do to help him?

Question

He's 15 and his dad has been knocking him around since he was about 9/10. I can't tell the police or anyone because he trusted me to tell me and if i tell anyone i'm scared he will hate me. He's come to stay with me a few times but his dad always comes and gets him or his mum guilts him into coming home.
What can i do to help without telling anyone?

Answer 1

emotional support is a BIG thing. He needs to know that you're there for him. try calling any of these numbers:

General Teen Help (any subject/crisis)

National Teen Emergency Hotline: [phone]

The Helpline USA: 1-561-659-6900 (long distance charges may apply on this one)

Covenant House Nineline: 1-800-999-9999
Abuse / Violence Child Protective Services: 1-810-412-6109

Family Violence Helpline: 1-800-996-6228

National Domestic Violence Hotline: [phone]

National Referral Network for Kids In Crisis: 1-800-543-7283

Answer 2

Do you love your boyfriend? Would you be upset if he was seriously injured and put in the hospital, or worse...killed? Tell your parents and have them call the authorities (Social Services, Child Protective Services, Police). Your boyfriend's father is an abuser...I wonder what he does to his wife when your boyfriend isn't around? Save your boyfriend and his entire family, get him help out of the situation before it escalates any further. He might be upset with you at first, but once he calms down and realizes it was for the best it will probably make you even closer.

Answer 3

Which would you rather have, him hating you for awhile, or your bf permanently injured or killed because you chose to say nothing.

Sorry, but you can't help him without sharing this with a responsible adult. There are lots of ways an adult can take care of this situation & make it appear that you weren't the one who said anything.
Tell your parents or a teacher or councellor at your school.

Besides, it's unfair of your bf to burden you with this & then try to control how you handle the situation. If he really didn't want you to tell someone about this, then he would have kept it from you as well.

There's something else you need to know. If he continues to be abused by his dad, then one day he will start to abuse you, & he is VERY likely to grow up to abuse HIS children as well if somebody doesn't intervene NOW!

Answer 4

Nothing
The only way that you could help you be if you could make it stop and you cant without talking to someone about it

My bf is 16 and his dad is bi-polar. when his dad doesnt take his meds he can be realluy violent and abusive. Once he made my bf stand naked under burning hot water to teach him not to flush the toilet while he was in the shower. It was horrible. My bf was fead up and scared to go home so he told the councler at our school. The school called his dad and he denided it. His dad was pissed and called him a p*ssy but he never did ne thing to hurt him again cuz he was afraid of people finding out and him being in trouble.

Answer 5

A good friend will tell somebody. If you don't tell anybody, then your friend will get seriously injured, or possibly even die. It's better your friend hates you than if you can never ever talk to him again. Because if your friend hates you, he can't hold a grudge forever. Do the right thing and tell at least your mom or dad. If you have enough courage, tell the police. Your friend, deep down is reling on you to help him.

Answer 6

You can tell someone, you're just more concerned about what your boyfriend will think of you if you did. More than helping your boyfriend, obviously, which sounds cold of me to say but true nonetheless.

You aren't bound by any promise you may have made if you made that promise when you didn't know all of the facts beforehand, and if those facts are about something that is harmful to someone. Tell the police, your parents, anyone who can actually help him.

Answer 7

If you do care about him you should report his dad for his own good. When one is a victim from another family member it hard for them to face the problem. That why we have friends we could count on. Trust your instinct and go talk to him at once and tell him to report his dad or you'll report his dad for him. His dad might only hit him now but you don't know what he'll do later on in the future. Maybe he'll kill him one day. And you might regret it for the rest of your life for not reporting his dad.

Answer 8

You are obligated to tell the police. The law states that you cannot withhold knowledge of abuse from the police.

The best way to help him is to report the abuse to the police.

The longer that boy is abused the less likely he will be to able to survive in society. He needs you to do the right thing rather than just be his listener. His life could easily be on the line and his social skills are being destroyed.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 9

Report to the police. Don't do the whole social worker thing cause they don't really give a crap. He might hate you but at least you helped him get rid of his dad. And you mentioned that his mom is living with them. His mom could take care of him and stuff if and when his dad goes to jail so he won't be completely alone and have to rely on a social worker cause they suck.

Answer 10

Okay, I know you said you dont want to tell anyone... but think of it this way, true love for another human is helping them out even if it means hurting yourself. Sure, he might hate you, but in the long run, you'll be helping him. That is selfless love and the bravest thing a person can do for another person.
HOWEVER, if you still are unwilling to do that for him, then find a safe house for him where he can't have contact with either of his mother or father.