Evaluate this argument. What did I do wrong? Me arguing with a woman. Can you please help me?

Question

Me: I did not want to take the dog to the park.
Her: I have a thought but I will keep it to myself.
Me: What is your thought?
Her: I think you worry about that dog too much.
Me: Its not that I am worried about the dog, I just did not want to be bothered with him.
Her: I should have just kept my mouth shut. You are too defensive.
Me: How am I defensive? Your opinion was based on me being worried about the dog.
Her: It doesn’t matter; there is no talking to you.
Me: ??????????????????????????

Answer 1

It doesn't matter what you say, you're still going to lose. I suggest dumping her and flying solo for a while, brah.

Answer 2

She is passive-aggressive. It wasn't really an argument. It was her complaining in argument form. She wanted you to take the dog, but instead of just coming out and saying that like a normal person, she had to hint around at it in a combative way. I personally don't understand why some women (and even a few men!) do this. I find it very annoying. Next time she says she'll keep a thought to herself, take her up on it and say nothing. Don't feed into her "talking in circles" thing. Then if she wants to come right out and say what she means, she can.

Answer 3

OH neocoon, aside from ask her what her thought was, I don't think you did anything wrong.
It sounds as though the two of you are in a no-win situation no matter what you say or do.
It also sounds as though the communication between the two of you has totally broken down, leaving you scratching your head and leaving her angry and frustrated (hence HER defensiveness!)
This has been building up for some time. When communication breaks down to this point, frustration has been there for awhile.
A third party intervention (ie couples' counselling) is probably warranted to try to find out the underlying issues that lead to this breakdown.
Best of luck to you in this uncomfortable situation! :)

Answer 4

She is projecting. She created an impossible situation, and she herself is the one who is impossible to talk to (at this time).

I do not see how you are being defensive, but then again I can't see your facial reactions. If this woman is sensitive to that, maybe candycoat your responses.

I also think that calling her thought an "opinion" is a mistake. Meaning it's something you can disagree with and put on the table. Seasoned arguers do this and it IS very frustrating when you just want to speak normally and the other person has an issue with your opinion.

Also-Is it that time of the month for her?

Answer 5

Women do not argue or debate. They form an opinion and manipulate the conversation to make any differing opinion sound like a personal attack thereby giving themselves an excuse to avoid looking bad.

The correct response to her would have been to abandon facts and reply using her strategy. You should have turned the tables and accused her of being too worried about the dog.

Answer 6

Sounds like it is something more deep than an argument about a dog. Sounds like she wanted to start a fight with you for some reason. You should have just ignored her and not said anything back to her.. Hope that all is well with you and her.

Answer 7

Dude,
Women get like this sometimes. My advice? Find a nice cozy spot on the wall and put your head through it. Good luck.

Answer 8

sounds like shes ducking the questions or trying to evade the issue. but general rule number one applies...a wise man don't argue with a woman cause it never gets you anywhere but in more trouble

Answer 9

I don't think she understands the point of arguements; to defend whatever side you're on. My advice is stop talking with her because she's messing with your head and using her gender as an advantage.

Answer 10

After your first comment, you should have stopped.