I think it's because it's new, unexplored territory. We have a GREAT relationship but it's still kinda scary. Tell me how you feel/felt.
2007-06-25 05:42:55 · 9 answers · asked by naturegirlkole 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think most people are. Its just a new and big step in your life! Were you not also scared when you accepted your first real job offer? When you have your first child you'll be terrified. There is a difference though between being apprehensive/scared and not being ready or being upset by the possibility. If you are sure he is the one and you know that you love him and he loves you that dont let a few jitters get in the way.
2007-06-25 06:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES if you are paying attention you have to be, it is a life altering experience.
My wife and I (now married 25 years) say that the wedding is a test to see if you can work together -- if you can pull it off you pass the test.
And how about the added responsibility. Remember how you felt the first day of high school or when you bought your first car. Well this is ten times bigger -- of course you are going to be scared.
Personally, when I had doubts (I had been engaged before I met my wife) I sat down and made a list. One side was the things said get married the other were the things that said run away. It was a slam dunk, I never doubted it again.
ALSO -- start focusing on the Honeymoon -- that is a great personal reward for getting through this ordeal.
2007-06-25 12:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by Raster T 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was scared, nervous, and happy. But, I had been there before. It is natural o feel this way. The first time I got married I knew I was making a mistake. The last time, I knew it was right. I realized the only reason I was scared was because I had been through it and it didn't work out. I also knew that by looking at him, he took away all my fears. I have never looked back. Good Luck. Congratulations.
2007-06-25 12:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was very nervous when I got married. It was new and strange. I knew we had a great relationship and that everything would be fine, but it was still nerve racking. We have been married for 8yr this coming 9/11 and we are just as happy today as we were then. Good luck to the both of you! Congrats!!
2007-06-25 12:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by Drea Z 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it was a little scary! Marriage is a big change. I think everyone should be a little scared when taking a major life step. It's natural. Sixteen years later, I'm still glad I married him....good luck ;)
2007-06-25 12:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was afraid of the actual ceremony. i was convinced that i was going to say/do the wrong thing and feel embarrassed forever. but it went ok. after that the only thing i felt was a little weird at calling him husband instead of boyfriend. but that's over now, i've been married for over a year and it feels natural.
2007-06-25 12:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by raven 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you are marrying for the wrong reasons, then I think it is normal to feel scared. If you know without a doubt it's for all the right reasons then you should be rest assured.
2007-06-25 12:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by gypsey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of corse it is normal to feel those things we all do. It is a new adventure in our lives and unknown to us. We go from being independant people to sharing everything, that would freak anyone out. It is how you handle it that counts.
2007-06-25 12:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by caligal68 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I knew he was the guy for me and I was willing to do the work to make the relationship last.
2007-06-25 12:46:00 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋