Is any one else depressed???

Question

I am so happy for all the TTC couples out there that get positives right away but, it just makes me feel like I'm no good. that all these women out here are becoming pregnant so why can't I. I am sure others feel this way it just gets so disheartening I feel like crying and then I feel even worse cause I should be so happy for all those who did conceive. it feels like a viscous cycle to me. :shrugs: just want to know what some other women out there in TTC land are feeling

Thank everyone so much it really does help to know you are not alone.

Also jsut wannted to add A/F came late last night so here i go again!! Thank you all Sooooo Much!!!

Answer 1

I truly understand how you feel....I'm in the same boat as you.

I have thought that being pregnant wasn't hard because everyone around me hit it the first time. So I thought I would too, but find myself disappointed cycle after cycle. Every cycle I'd start out feeling confident but then when I feel no symptoms and then even worse when I see AF come I really feel BAD.....

I get really stressed out on being pregnant or not. When pregnant women walk by I'd envy them, and think why can't I do it?

Preparing for ovulation each cycle is a really tiring thing. Last time when my AF came I was very depressed and broke down in tears talking to my hubby about it. And then my doctor talked to me about it, I felt better. They tell me not to be so stressed out or else it wouldn't happen.

I try to relax and think more positively. If this cycle doesn't happen, be optimistic and try again next cycle (but hope we don't have to try for too long).

Have you visited http://www.twoweekwait.com/ ? It's a good website and has a forum for people with different needs. Go there and join the forum. You'd feel better if you have someone to talk to and support.

Good luck and don't lose hope (talking to myself too)!

Answer 2

I know how you are feeling. I have ttc for over 18 months now and still not pregnant. We found out that my husband has a very low sperm count and will need to do IVF to have a child. It is very hard to see people with babies and me still nothing. I always wanted a child and thought that by the time I would turn 30 I would have at least one. Now I am 30 and don't have a child and planning for IVF at the end of the year.

Live throws you many curve balls you just have to be ready to catch them. I try to think of the positive things I do have right now and keep planning for the future and hope for the best. We try every month just in case one swimmer makes it and then we don't have to do IVF but every month I get my period I just want to cry. After a few days I try and move on and plan for the next month.

I would recommend taking up a hobby to try and keep your mind off it as much. It will never go away but it might help. Try talking to your partner or close friend and disusing how you feel that might help with your depression. Getting the feelings out will take a load off your chest and give you some release.

Best wishes to all ttc and Baby Dust.

Answer 3

I completely feel your pain. I think that one of the best things to think about while you and your partner are making this baby is to think about the phrase "Practice makes Perfect". Your baby is not something that should be rushed but something that comes from the love you and your partner have for each other. Take your time, have patience and try and relax. Sometimes couples become so fixed on "making a baby" as an outcome that they forget to enjoy the moment and just relax and let nature take its course.

If it's been more than 6 months and still no baby then maybe take a trip to the doctor to make sure everything is in order. Don't give up hope and like I said...just relax.

Good Luck.

Answer 4

Your feelings are so normal dear, there is a difference between asking yourself why it's not me..! and between feeling bad and not wanting others to get pregnant,and I'm sure you don't feel that way...I'm TTC for 3 years now and I find it very nice and relaxing when I can help others even with an info or by just making them feel better, this doesn't mean that I don't have my bad times as well..!! but I usually find someone to cheer me up...The time will come and you'll be pregnant and others will say how did she do it?? or why not me? But they will never know that you suffered and had your share, keep your faith in God and put in your mind that there is a time for everything and God will choose the best for us...Best of luck and baby dust too

P.S You are not alone xxx

Answer 5

At least knowing you're not alone in this depression makes you feel a little better. Sad i know, but that's how i feel too.

Sometimes i feel jealous of pregnant women. Happy for them, but jealous at the same time. And sometimes i hate them, because they can get pregnant really fast while I, on the other hand, have been trying for a year and a half and still not pregnant. Which makes hate myself for hating them and makes me feel even more depressed. Like you said, it's a cycle, never ending.

So i know how you feel. That's why i decided and that i wont try anymore. I QUIT, yes you ream me correctly "I QUIT". If it happens, it happens. If not, sure I'll be sand but i wont let it depress me. Not anymore.

Take a break for a month or so and maybe then it you'll get pregnant.

I feel for you. Good luck to you. Good luck to every woman trying to conceive.

Answer 6

I hear you. It makes me wonder what is wrong with me and it seems so unfair. I know several women who got pregnant by accident and it makes me want to scream. I always thought that getting pregnant would be so easy. It's almost funny when I think of the scares I had before I got married (like a broken condom) and how terrified I was of pregnancy. It was more unlikely than I had thought!!! Anyways, you are certainly not alone...I guess I have to say what everyone tells me and what I don't want to hear which is:

When it's right, it'll happen.

Not much comfort but probably true in the long run. Keep us posted on your situation. Good luck and tons of baby dust to you!

Answer 7

I feel your pain. 10 yrs. ago, when I wasn't trying, all I would have to do is think about missing a pill and I would have been preg. Now that I'm trying it has been 4 months and nothing. I spend each month looking for early preg. signs, getting excited and then to be let down every month like something is wrong with me. I'm trying not to get discouraged too early b/c I know the average is 4-6 mo. the conceive. How long have you been ttc? Email me if you'd like. [e-mail] Good Luck!

Answer 8

I feel the exact same way! I get very happy when I hear news of other pregnancies, but I feel sad later. I blame myself too and come up with reasons in my head why it isn't working out yet for me. But I also realize that stressing out or crying it out often aren't the best things either. Both cause our bodies to release stress hormones in order to compensate and maintain us. But maybe thats whats preventing me from conceiving since my body is too much of a hostile area for a baby to be born? Who knows!

I was at my worst when last month when after I got my period, a close friend of mine became pregnant (i tried for almost 2 yrs, she tried just 2 or 3 months). I had just about had it! Things could not get worse for me!! She doesn't know I am sad and I proformed an academy award winning happy reaction so she doesn't feel bad. Still do since all she does is TALK ABOUT HER PREGNANCY!!! Fun, eh? LOL

But after the tears dried, I started to change my thoughts. I tell myself things like:
this is not a race,
God has willed this,
maybe I am being tested-so remain patient (like last month!!),
I AM NO LESS THAN ANYONE for not getting pregnant,
I still love myself regardless,
I can always adopt,
there are people out there who have been trying for more years and have it worse

I have also avoided the negative people in my life, try to find reasons to laugh often (watch funny movies), and through much practice, smile for no reason sometimes, and honestly, I feel better. Maybe its good biofeedback? But if i need to cry, I cry, then get right back up again and find reasons to stay positive.

Sorry to have rambled on so much.

I wish you all the best and patience. Good luck, and we are here for you :)

Answer 9

Everyday! My brother's girlfriend just had twins. I now have three nephews and a niece and I'm the oldest of my siblings and I don't have any kids. My hubby and I have been trying for a year and 3 months. We are going to the fertility doctor this week but I have been very discouraged and I get really depressed everytime someone has a baby or tells me they are pg. I know it is wrong but I can't help how I feel. I don't visit my friends too much because seeing their children upsets me more. So please don't feel alone. Too many of us feel the same way you do.

Answer 10

I totally feel your pain. Today of all days I'm feeling really depressed about the whole thing. I thought I was getting over it but it just sneaks up on you and now the feeling won't leave. All my married friends are mothers and it's so hard to be happy for them 100% of the time b/c I still don't know if one day I'll be on the other side. I'm sorry I should be encouraging you I guess I needed to vent as well. Ihope it gets better and there are more success stories. I'll pray for you as you pray for me.

God Bless!