We don't have much in common. We fight verbally and physically. We've been together 6 years, and I'm thinking I don't want to waste anymore time w/ someone like that. Why is it that I can't go through w/ it? Sorry, I know this question sounds stupid, but come on, haven't we all been in a bad relationship?!!!!!!!
2007-06-25 04:26:23 · 24 answers · asked by Johnny's Girl 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
old habits are hard to break.
2007-06-25 04:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by frenchy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because even though he's a shmuck-ball, you have been with him for so long and you still don't want to hurt him. And you may realize that you won't just be hurting him, that you in a way will suffer too. 6 years is a long time and it's scary to think that after you break-up you will be sent back out into the wide world of being a single person in the dating scene. And you are probably so increadably comforable around that person that it sucks to think that your going to lose that. You just have to keep telling your self that you deserve better than that. You shouldn't be treated like that by anyone, let alone the one person that is supposed to love and respect you. Would you let any of your good friends deal with this type of person as their boyfriend? If not, than why should you put up with it?
2007-06-25 11:38:36 · answer #2 · answered by kirfie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are scared. You have been with the same person for that long, starting a new relationship will be scary, dating will be scary, and kissing someone else will be weird. But if you have to do it, that dont waste anymore time, the more time you think about it, the more you will convinve yourself not to do it even though it may be the best thing for you.
2007-06-25 11:29:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you've been together 6 years and you're not married and arguing all the time, then maybe you're used to his abuses and kind of like the excitement. He's not the last guy out there, so there's obviously something that keeps you holding on to nothing.
2007-06-25 11:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know why you can't walk away! Think about what has kept you there for 6 years and then think about all the bad things he's done and keep that in mind while walking out on him. And cut him off! If you keep playing around, he will know he has a fool, and keep doing the same things to you.
2007-06-25 11:30:21 · answer #5 · answered by Janice Dickinsons' Shrink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Comfort. We all seek comfort in our lives and maybe hanging onto this "shmuck" is more comfortable to you than sending him on his way. After six years though, I would think the incentive for ditching him would be building pretty steadily in your life. You can do better...give it a try!
2007-06-25 11:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by Dr_M_VanNostrand 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend ever fights you physically, he hasn't got any respect for you. That should be enough of a reason for you. Yes, darn near everyone, myself included, have been in bad relationships. Try to be strong and remember, if your partner hits you, you can ALWAYS do better.
2007-06-25 11:30:12 · answer #7 · answered by Brett M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation, only it's been 7 years! I think that for all of the BS we have to go through in our relationships, that we won't leave because we're comfortable. That's the only reason I can think of for staying so long. In spite of all the fighting, there is an element of security in the relationship.
If you find out how to let go, please share your secret!
2007-06-25 11:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IT'S NOT STUPID AT ALL! REMEMBER, EVEN MISERY IS A COMFORTABLE FEELING.. YOU ARE USED TO IT. If it is verbal, and especially, if it is PHYSICAL, you need to get out and get out fast!!
don't make it SEVEN YEARS of misery. fear of the unknown and change is what is keeping you stuck in a bad situation. god will carry you through the changes and bring you to better happiness.
the question is not stupid; because, alot of us have been there..
a year from now, should you get out, you will be glad and then say, "I should have gotten out sooner!" Be brave and face the change ~~! it will be for your own best interest! good luck
2007-06-25 11:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by 100% ♥Creole♥ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have not taken all you can take yet and your not ready. Believe me that day will come it happened to me! Your question is not stupid as women we have all been through this. When he crosses the final line you will know it! Chin up love its only a matter of time.
2007-06-25 11:32:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're in a rut. They can be hard to get out of because even though it's bad, you get used to it. If he is physically abusive (hits you) you need to break it off right away and talk to the police if he desn't stop. Only cowards hit their GF's.
2007-06-25 11:30:10 · answer #11 · answered by JeffyB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋