A few months ago, I would try to call my husband when it was well after when he should have been home, like 7:30 or 8:00 just to see if he was okay and working late. However, I would keep getting his voice mail on his cell. I found out from his sister that he was ignoring my phone calls and lying about where he was. He's traveled out of town (about 100 miles) a few times to finish up at his old job. Every time he has said he'd be home by dinner, but when I call to see if he is okay (because of the long commute) his voice mail immediately comes on each time from around 6:00 to 8:00. He finally calls me after 8 to say he's just started on the way home. The last time he said he was finished and didn't have to go back, but then all the sudden he had to go back today. I can't help but think he's lying to me again. Really, I keep trying to trust him but it just keep happening over and over. Am I a fool?
2007-06-25 04:01:30 · 11 answers · asked by StormyC 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It definitely seems suspicious. If you can't afford a PI then follow him or have a friend to. It's unlikely that he will fess up to his game.
BUT if he has a demanding job and is overly ambitious then you two should be able to discuss this and come to a solution.
2007-06-25 04:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by gabeymac♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the trust phase is over ...if this is a constant thing, then your husband is probably having a affair...I know that is a cruel thing to say but look at the stats...9 times out of 10 if a man is constantly away from home and always has an excuse about where he's been or where he's going, he has a mistress...think this is wierd coming from a guy? trust me...been there and done that!
Peace.
-------Duane
2007-06-25 11:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by duane b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you're a fool. You have instincts for a reason and right now every red flag in you is telling you something is wrong. It's always a sign of guilt if a guy acts like you're crazy when you confront him with his lying. He's definitely up to something. If he weren't, he wouldn't be hiding anything or being so sneaky in his ways. The fact is, even if he weren't doing anything (which I highly doubt), he should be sensitive to your feelings and your needs. He isn't - instead of being flattered that you're worried when he drives that far away, he gets upset that you're checking up on him.
2007-06-25 11:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never be so harsh and call you a fool. I know you want to trust him. He's the one person you should be able to trust, but it sounds like he may not be worthy of that trust. "Working late" seems to be the oldest lie in the book. If he isn't cheating, then he is keeping something else from you. You have every right to feel the way you do. You also have every right to know what's going on.
2007-06-25 11:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by Rae Ray 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Act like you dont care. Stop calling him and go about your life as you would weither he was there or not. He might notice and think something is wrong, maybe you are cheeting, maybe you stoped caring about him, put him in a situation where he is worried about losing you. Try going away without telling him where you are and keep your cell phone off. Just drive around for a bit or sit in a parking lot and read a book. give him a taste of his own medicine.
2007-06-25 11:12:32 · answer #5 · answered by mable3691214 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wife has to do what a wife has to do... follow him. Find out first hand what is really going on before you jump to conclusions. The way you make it seem here, I would assume the obvious, as everyone else did: You're married to a cheater.
It's unfortunate but you'll never believe it unless you see it first hand. All of the signs in the world could not make a wife leave her husband w/o proof.
2007-06-25 11:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by Patty R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Da man is hiding something girlfriend. Why would he purposely not answer your phone calls? What an ****! When he says he will be home at a certain time and can't make dinner, the very least he should do is call to say he will be late.
2007-06-25 11:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say he's hiding something or someone. If you confront him, he'll turn it around and blame you for accusing him of being unfaithful when all he's doing is working hard. The best way to really find out what's going on, and I hate to say it, but follow him. You'll never know the truth. If he's lying now, he won't hesitate to lie again and again and again.
good luck.
2007-06-25 11:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by ron-D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all trust has to be earned. Not just given.
So has he earned your trust?
I don't think you are being "crazy". I think maybe you are having some instinct that something is wrong (and I hate to say it but usually your instincts are right).
If your husband doesn't like the way your are acting then maybe he needs to change the way he is acting.
2007-06-25 11:11:22 · answer #9 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of whether he's being unfaithful or not...if YOU can't trust someone are they really worth all the extra aggravation?
Seriously people, why spend your life worrying!!!!
2007-06-25 11:09:55 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋