I am 33 weeks pregnant and haven't enjoyed sex since I became pregnant. My fiance and I used to have sex every day... sometimes more than once a day, and I can't seem to enjoy sex anymore. It always feels uncomfortable...any tips on how to fix it? I feel terrible that I can't please my fiance...its been haunting my dreams that he will end up cheating on me because I can't please him. Thanks for your input!
2007-06-25 03:50:22 · 11 answers · asked by Tessa19 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
t can be uncomfy, especially if he isnt careful, or if he gets too deep and irritated your cervix, which is really sensitive the more pregnant you get. Not to mention the fact that as the uterus grows the shape of your birth canal changes a little.
For me personally, and for many other women, it works out best to be on top, and to be in control.
Some times just the right kind of pressure works for both of you just as much as all sorts of penetration. Tell him to be careful. You call the shots. He needs to be understanding. And you have to relax. Otherwise its just no fun for anyone.
And dont worry. Your libido will come back, and your body WILL be the same down there in a few months. It doesnt seem like it, but it will. Tell him to chill. A few months without sex is all worth it to have that perfect baby.
2007-06-25 03:57:10 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was pregnant being on top was the only position that wasn't uncomfortable probably because you have more control and can control the depth better. Guys love the woman on top position so he should be happy with that. And then substitute with lots of oral which they love ;) Your fiance loves you and isn't going to stray, remember it's his baby too. Talk with him about your worries and I'm sure he will reassure you. It isn't that much longer that you have to be pregnant. And remember the baby is not aware of what is going on so if perhaps that is a deep fear you may have in the back of your mind you can relax about that. Congratulations, enjoy this time with your fiance before the baby comes as you will be tired and super busy with baby in the coming months! Then it will seem like the baby has radar and starts to cry the minute you two try to get intimate!
2007-06-25 11:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are other ways to please your partner other than intercourse, if intercourse is uncomfortable for you. You only have approximately seven weeks before the baby is born, and about six weeks after that you can start enjoying sex the way you used to. Usually your Doctor will ask you to stop intercourse a month to six weeks before your due date. Enjoy the non intercourse methods of sex, and if you are still uncomfortable with that than you can please your partner. Your partner should be understanding at this time, I am sure the wait will be worth while. I found intercourse was uncomfortable for me from about six months pregnant on. Good luck
2007-06-25 11:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I was the same way as you and your fiance before I became pregnant. Once I became pregnant, I always spotted after sex so I don't bother to try it again. It's been 6 months since me and my had sex and I feel bad that I can't please him in that way...so I please him in other ways. If he loves you...im sure he won't cheat on you. Don't worry about it.
2007-06-25 13:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by bride2be 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not enjoy sex as much either but my husband and I try different positions and I do not let him go as deep as before because for some reason it is painful for me. We generally hit about 3-4 positions and it works. We do not have sex as often as before pregnancy but it somehow works for us.
Someone else stated using oral sex also....I do that also as It is a lot less work for me but I understand a lot fo people would rather not. If you do oral sex try using a warm or hot drink and it will go much quicker.
2007-06-25 11:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 26 weeks and I feel the same way. I just have to put in that extra effort to enjoy it and not think about how uncomfortable it is...sort of put myself outside of myself. It wasn't only physical discomfort, but also it was weird because there was this tiny little being inside me. Then I realized that she doesn't know what's going on, and won't have any memory of mommy and daddy doing the nasty.
2007-06-25 10:57:34 · answer #6 · answered by Mandiex 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow is funny how u just explained whats going on with me and my fiance only that im 22 weeks now but i havent enjoyed sex since i gotten pregnant either and sometimes i do believe when he goes out he is going to cheat on me because i dont please him like before but to tell you the truth if you know he loves you and your happy thats all that matters i see it as even though is not like before as long as he gets to "finish" then its ok cuz thats what they really need lol but seriously dont worry its not you its thats beautiful little thing growing inside of you and if he loves you he understands
2007-06-25 11:03:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try new postions . I am 7 mths pergant sometimes things get uncomfortable in the some postion . Change things up and see how that works for you .
2007-06-25 10:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand...one thing I found is substituting oral for the real thing..If that is not for you- have you tried changing positions? A lot of pregnant women find the "spoon" position is more comfortable..
2007-06-25 10:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by Momma to Kaeden Nicole 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try different positions, the easiest for me when i was pregnant was laying on my side, you can also try "other ways" of pleasuring him....IE: hand, mouth...good luck
2007-06-25 11:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by so-N-love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋