Not Sure What to Do?

Question

My husband and I are separated and I just found out that he is having me followed and someone is spying on me. I am really freaked out, but i don't know what to do. I don't really want to get police involved, what options do i have?

he's the one who told me that his friend's are watching me. i don't know who his friend's are. i do have the phone number of whoever it is that is doing it. i also have ways of looking up that cell phone number too.

Answer 1

You have really answered your own question in a round about way:
You even said that you and your husband are separated, so there's nothing he "can" do.
Wonder if this is his way of intimidating you, thinking that if you are being followed you won't do some things. But actually you can do whatever you want, even if it's being with another man....if you are separated there really is nothing he can do about it and he probably knows that so he's just trying to force you not to be with anyone.

And if there isn't another man in your life, then so what. Sounds like your husband needs to get a life of his own instead of worrying about what you are doing.

Wave to the PI whenever you see them, then they know they have been spotted.
And just keep on with your plans and do whatever you want, so what, who cares, you have the freedom right now so enjoy it.

Unless you want back with your husband, then you will have to consider anything that you are doing will be found out by him and will affect whether you work things out or not.

Just keep smiling, keep your head up, and don't let anyone bother you :)

Answer 2

You already received some good advice, so I'll try to sum and add a little. Since states may vary on how PIs can operate, your divorce attorney should know the law on this issue. Also, your divorce attorney may have a legal way to determine whether it is a fact that he has hired someone. In other words, you want to be sure that this is not hearsay to avoid being freaked without reason. Sometimes disinformation is a good tool in a divorce battle, just to shake up the other person.

I think others are correct in saying that there is probably nothing you can do about being followed by a PI. So, the rule is to not do anything that can LOOK incriminating in the context of a divorce. Do what you normally do in daily life and smile often. Unless you do something criminal, neglect children, or have men over, you have nothing to worry about. Do not entertain any potential future partners (even by computer) until your divorce is done. Take care.
DP

Answer 3

1. Talk to an attorney.
2. Don't meet any men under suspicious circumstances. Don't go into any motel rooms, etc.
3. You can ignore them, or walk over and talk to them.

Does your husband suspect you of cheating? If you are cheating, and they take photos, that will hurt you some at the divorce. Again, talk to a divorce attorney.

By the way, call all the best divorce attorneys in town, talk to them each for a few minutes, and take notes. This may prevent your husband from getting any of the best attornies.

I don't think that you can legally stop a licensed private investigator from following you, so just be on your best behaviour. Its probably expensive for your husband, so that if you can be "good" for three weeks, he'll rack up a big bill and get nothing for it.

Be aware that if you are cheating, your phone bills may also come under review.

Just ignore it and be good until the divorce is final.

Answer 4

If it was me, I'd confront him and ask him exactly why he is having you followed. Of course he'll deny it, but then at least he'll know you're on to him. And in the meantime, why not involve the police? By having you be followed by someone is borderline stalking. You should not have to be looking over your should all the time. You're separated. You're allowed to go on with your life, unless your husband is a control freak and may be dangerous. I'd get to the bottom of it. Don't just walk around and be afraid. Be proactive about this.

Answer 5

If you dont want the police to get involved hire a private invastigater and let him spy on ur husband and see whats hes up to and at the same time let him try to find whos spying on u any why ..

Answer 6

Call the police on him and start a paper trial on him get a restraining order on him, do you have something to hide, I hope not keep your nose clean as the saying gos.
Now you need to get the police involved, you need to document what is going on, times, dates, description for this person, take this persons picture.
I'd be freaked out too, lock your doors and be careful.
Get some pepper spray, and a good watch dog. Tell your friends what is going on, they need to know, seems to be open season on women.

Answer 7

if it is freaking you out you need to either tell the police or hire a private detective and document it. it could wind up being VERY bad for you. What if the guy is waiting for an opportunity rather than just following you to see what you are doing? Were you married to a crazy?

Answer 8

Whew...he's a little on the deep in don't you think?

Wow, followed? Hmmmmm, that sounds really freakish to me.

I would get the authorities involved because you don't really know what type of sick things he's capable of. I just don't want anything bad to happen to you. We hear all the time of somebody hiring a hit man to take somebody they "use" to love out. I know it sounds like something out of the movies but true to life stories are becoming more and more blockbuster like. Sorry, I wouldn't take it lightly that he's hiring somebody to follow me. Try to draw as much attention to this as possible because you don't want anything drastic to take place when you least expect it.

Answer 9

If you're not doing anything wrong then you don't have anything to worry about. If this "spy" isn't harming you in any way then in a few days after seeing no suspicious behaviorr they will stop following you. There's always th police to intervene.

Answer 10

I think even though you don't want the police to get involved, wait for a while like a few weeks and if things get bad GET them involved. or sue him. lol but honestly i don't think what your ex husband is doing is right. think about it.