He is a Momma's boy and went to his mother's. We own a house and I am currently living in without him. Kids are missing him and so am I.
2007-06-25 03:05:26 · 5 answers · asked by momma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We do have issues and I want to work them out through therapy. I feel there is something worth saving. He hasn't told other people that we aren't together, that make me believe he is not comfortable with this decision. He continues to tell the kids when he sees them that he is still thinking about things and hasn't decided if he is coming back. He comes here everyday to see the kids and took them on the weekend. The kids call everynight to say goodnight to him and that they love him.
2007-06-25 03:12:27 · update #1
There is defantly No other woman. He is not a cheater. Never has and I believe he wouldn't. Yes, it is ONE INTRUSIVE ,OVER BEARING, CONTROLING MOTHER IN LAW!!! What to do because he feels that I am saying pick her or me and THAT ISN'T the case. That's his mom and I would never imply that.
2007-06-25 03:20:58 · update #2
He continues to come everyday, joke around with me. Very minimal relationship topics. Attends activities for the kids and sits with my family. Very confusing!!!
2007-06-27 05:17:11 · update #3
Unfortunately eight years and three kids can really take the fun and sparkle out of a marriage. I think you can only control so much, he has to want to come back home and try again and you have to decide how much you can change to keep him there.
I don't know your resources but if you can get someone to watch the kids, do your hair pack a picnic lunch and invite him to the park to talk.
In simple direct language tell him you would like him to come home and could the two of you make a plan to be a couple a again and not just roomies in the same house raising kids and doing chores.
Find a night when you can be just with him, make sure there is dinner and some type of physical contact. Sometime we are great mothers and housekeepers but remember, men like it when we pay attention to them.
If there is someone Else, or he tells you he can't try again, be there for the kids and have him write down when the kids can expect him to come and spend time with them. Get some counseling or a good girlfriend to talk to so the kids don't have to hear it and be strong.
Good Luck.
2007-06-25 03:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by donny_mollysmom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This can be a tough situation for everyone in your family, but most impotant you need to consider how often does this happen? If this is a continual routine with arguing and him leaving to go to his mothers for a few days this can be a very devastating situation for the children. Children need stability, their emotions can not be jerked back and forth, daddy is here one day and then he isn't here the next. I say this because i went thought the same thing finally i had to leave him because when i thought what was more important i realized my children would eventually understand a divorce or separation but how could i allow them to see fighting all the time, i didn't want them to inherit those traits in their relationships.
Good luck and keep strong!
2007-06-25 03:20:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
* why did he leave? Maybe you can patch things up with him. Give him time to think this through.
If it's about another woman, forget about him and live your life with the kids.
If it's family sticking their nose where it doesn't belong, nip it in the bud now and let them know it's your marriage, not theirs. Sure take their advice, and proceed with caution.
good luck :)
2007-06-25 03:14:38 · answer #3 · answered by kimono momo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be grateful that he still there for the kids you will be able to go on without him but the kids need him
2007-06-25 03:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep on trying.
have patience.
things will surely sort out.
2007-06-25 03:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by hsarora47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋