Cross dressers - Why do you do it?

Question

Ok this is a serious question and it did actually happen.

I'm an Avon lady and I once knocked on a door of a house where I had left a brochure and a man answered and gave me my brochure back together with an order. Nothing wrong with that, so I told him when I would come back with his stuff an didn't think anything of it.

2 weeks later I returned with his order and this time when I knocked he opened the door in a robe that was wide open showing off his full kit and kaboodle, stockings, suspenders, bra and thong (or could have been knickers as I didn't know where to put my face).

Now I'm not being funny, but I'm a woman and I wouldn't answer the door in my underwear.

His only excuse was 'I'm a cross dresser you see". Like I needed to be told that.

I could understand it if he was in the middle of getting ready to go out, but I was expected and even then he had a robe on why didn't he fasten it?

So can anyone explain to me what it is that makes you do that?

I don't mean why do they cross dress. I think I get that.

I mean why do they feel the need to shock.?

Tony BinEye - I was a little flustered and I did want to leggit, but in my haste I managed to give him change of a 10 instead of a 20 pound note and he called me back.

I did eventually get used to his strange habit and used to have a bit of a laugh with him like when he came to the door in jeans and T shirt one time and I pretended to be totally shocked. Funnily he then stopped doing it.

Never did understand why he behaved like that in the first place though.

Pasty face - You wanna try going out knocking door to door trying to recruit other Avon ladies.

That's a real eye opener!

Having peddled the good godly cause some time ago too the similarities are remarkable. (Avon is an American company too)

Being a JW is a bit like being gay in some respects. You can change but the urge to knock on doors never quite leaves you :-)

Answer 1

I've explored that side of me in a minor lingerie role with a female friend (because I chose to), but I have never really liked her. I like both parts of me, but my conscience says the male me is the me I have to be. I guess that is part of my upbringing. It has taken me quite a long time to understand her and try and find the real me I want to be.

By exploring her in the past, I can now say to myself I've done it and don't need to do it any more. That has worked quite well.

She was activated partly by a one day release in college and I look back at those days and see me as a bit nerdy in glasses. Most of the class were female in their hose and uniforms and they used to enjoy embarrassing me. Now if someone asked me what a condom is I'd be wry, sarcastic and confident, but then I'd be shy and turn red probably. Eventually I worked out the prior.

Anyway this one girl Vanessa (if you're reading this) used to rub her hose on my leg under the table to embarrass me. She wouldn't stop when told to or when I told her to, so one day I regretfully kicked her damn hard because it made me uncomfortable. No dignity in the schoolplace then. I liked it really, probably fancied her a bit and I guess it went from there. I wanted to know what that felt like; I hadn't wanted to kick her and she never did it again after.

But it's more than that (has taken many years of soul searching to work it out). I wasn't confident with women in the same way other people are and I have issues with letting down my guard (due to something else) and I explored I now realise because I felt I'd let myself down as a guy and so wanted to enact sex I guess and instead the fantasy became being the girl. It also didn't help that when I were a bit wussy then, mum would refer to me on occasions as, "a big girl".

I think all this is why some people partly like being humiliated because they like it, but feel guilty about it and so the humiliation makes it justified somehow - then it also gives them a massive kick at being discovered and trapped possibly - till that actually happens! That has never worked for me, I just liked the feel, the escape but I didn't like being that person (I can't pretend I haven't that side in me) because she is an escape outlet. It has meant I can switch the responsible side of me off and be someone else. Only that side of me is quite scary, I wonder how different she is to me.

Of late I have addressed that side of me and stopped the dressing because I explain it to myself via another incident and it isn't who I want to become, but that doesn't stop her being there and she can be a sod when I feel her there. That probably doesn't make sense. But it is better because the male me rules, she is a fantasy and staying that way for now anyway. If I say forever, she gains control. So I have to accept she *could* beat me.

The woman that take control in this situation are great in fantasy, but not in reality. It isn't what they want fully, I think they want me in control which is why that side of me can be acknowledged but not let out. Once you give up control, you're finished so I think that is why I'm part single, I don't want her in my life. I want to play some other games as well. I also don't like it because giving up that side of me to someone else means I can be manipulated and also make her stronger because I can blame the dresser and not myself for going further than I would. I don't want to explore her (yet I do too) because then I have her to miss.

The bottom line is I don't want her (but she's there) and if anyone can tell me how, let me know...cos she doesn't shut up. But the male me owns the body and she is just imitation and there for the ride. And that is what I tell her. I prefer her in my mind, but that doesn't make me feel wonderful always.

Good to know some women are open-minded about it, but I don't think that always helps me.

Answer 2

It takes all sorts to make the world. Some TV's like anyone else are exhibitionists and don't mind flaunting themselves. No doubt you have dealt with some other transvestites and did not know that they were as either they were not "dressed" when they answered the door or appeared as women. Personally I these days I always wear maid or cleaner's uniforms and only when I am working as a maid. Dressed like this I do meet callers and be seen by passersby but only as much as any other domestic servant would do

Answer 3

Cross dressers are as various as non cross dressers.
I was going to ask a similar question myself to what I thought your question was.
Some cross dressers only dress in the underwear, others try harder to be like us, and would wear all clothes, and cover themselves up if they had to answer a door. But if they covered themselves up, it would be with something we would cover up with in those circumstances.
Transvestites do not do it to shock, they want to be accepted in their adopted role. From what you said, I don't think you would be offended if you saw a transvestite fully dressed shopping, but many people would be shocked by that.
A tranvestite who only enjoys wearing the underwear, also wants to be accepted, so they want to be seen.
Regarding the Avon order, he/she may well have dressed for your benefit, and treating him normally, as you tried to do, would make him feel accepted by you, and that would make him feel good.
It might also excite him as he recalls what he did.

Believe me, you screaming was the last thing he would have wanted.
I'm sure he wouldn't mind talking to you about that occasion, now you have some suggestions as to why he did it.

Answer 4

Why do people keep going on about cross dressers?

Just look through the ages and in all parts of the world, there is no set cloths for males or females.

When you look at the world of birds, it is always the male bird who has the bright plumage and the hen is always dull brown

Answer 5

I think that they need to have someone else see them dressed as a woman. Just getting into a womans gear and then sitting on the sofa watching TV is not always good enough. However, I would loved to have seen your face! It must have been a picture! Me, I would have burst out laughing, and then apologised profusely. I would then have legged it out of there lickity-split!

Answer 6

There are some that do the door-to-door work for a good godly cause and then there are others who sell cheap makeup.

I'm not sure but sometimes to each his own and people bring garbage upon themselves and it is well deserved. You know what I mean? I'm not being funny here, just appropriate.

Great question. Gads..

Answer 7

I do it because it turns me on and I get to dress-up and be the girl that I always wanted to meet and date, since I could never get the girl, I would dress-up and become that girl, plus I love the clothes, make-up, wigs, jewelry and the sexy feeling I get when I've finished changing from a boy to a girl.

Answer 8

Right - you encountered ONE cross-dresser who behaved in a wholly inappropriate manner and you assume ALL cross-dressers are the same? That's pretty bigoted of you, wouldn't you say? His being a cross-dresser was secondary to his being an exhibitionist, and I would have called the police. Now, I'm no expert on this subject, but I have read enough to know that men who choose to wear women's clothes have many reasons for doing so, but they are generally NOT to frighten the Avon Lady. Whether we approve or not, it's their choice, they're not hurting anyone and, as far as I'm concerned, we don't have the right to judge.

Answer 9

Only time I've ever done anything like that.
Was one time getting out of bed to go to the toilet.
Couldn't find any of my clothes in the dark. Grabbed the first thing i found.
And ran to the toilet in my girlfriends French knickers!
Snug!

Answer 10

Because he sounds very straight,..but very much into womens clothing. So he is looking for potential "female" kind who might be interested in having sex with him while he is dressed that way.

No other explaination, the market for women who want a crossdressing man is very small I imagine