My on and off bf of 10 years and I have officially broke up it has been bad the past 6 months though. Last yr we decided to be together for good we were finally done with school and ready to start our life together so I packed up left my family and friends and moved 1,000 miles away for him. Now we broke up and I feel awful, his life is going to be exactly the same but mines not, I'm moving back to florida and I have nothing there now, no job no apartment, I am going to live between friends and families house until I can get a place of my own. I'm so angry at him. I don't know if I should still talk to him and be friends when I have so much hatred towards him he lied and cheated on me but I still love him. I'm scared about starting all over again, I thought I was going to be with him forever. I feel like I'm never going to be happy again and most days I could care less if I wake up. I feel I changed alot within the past yr and I just want my old happy fun self back. Is that possible?
2007-06-25 03:01:27 · 8 answers · asked by Lily 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes it is possible and you ARE doing the right thing by walking away and getting yourself back into an environment where you have been happy before. dont be friends with him but at the same time remember that you have been together for 10 years. Learn from the experience. if he cheated on you he never had real feelings for you. he is a cheater and will always be a cheater. go home, find yourself someone who will really care about you.
2007-06-25 03:06:30 · answer #1 · answered by Yes I am here!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first. Take him off your cellphone, your IMs, your email. Why keep dredging up the past. If he lied and cheated on you why would you want to be friends. What could possibly be gained from someone like that being in your life. It was a life experience and you gaines something from it. Instead of putting those feelings of hate into being with him or talking with him, put it into finding a job, then finding a place to live. Reconnect with old friends in Florida. Get to know your family again. Time to move on without him
2007-06-25 03:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by dave n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for talking to him.. That all depends on the situation. What exactly happened? Why did you guys break up? Do you feel comfortable being friends with him? If it's going to hurt to much, don't deal with him for a while.
Starting over is never fun but, in time, things will get better. When you get back to Florida, find yourself a job and start saving money so you can get an apartment. You'll be ok, I promise. It'll be hard at first but, it'll get easier once you're back and you're moving forward with your life.
2007-06-25 03:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is...!
At home you have friends and family, lots of support there to talk to.
You also can rewind your life in a way...go out with your friends and to the old familiar places that you loved...but also create some new ones, new memories, new friends.
Don't talk to him. It's over. If you were meant to be friends, the two of you will pick up that friendship again sometime in the future, as in years from now, but chances are that you just need to stop having him in your life in anyway because that will just mess up your head with thoughts of him.
You can do it...you're just feeling low right now, but in the future you are going to be so glad that you didn't stay with a person that you couldn't trust.
2007-06-25 03:10:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In time you will be happy again. Right now you are still going through a "grieving " period. Your relationship lasted a long time and it will take time to heal. You will go through the "stages of grief" untill you have resolved your feelings. The stages are: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. We do not go through the stages in an orderly fashion and often flip-flop between them. It is natural for you to feel lonely, depressed and out of sorts. And your life is changing in major ways. This can also be a time of opportunity where you can reinvent yourself and become the strong, independent, self reliant woman God intended you to be.
2007-06-25 03:11:35 · answer #5 · answered by petra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible, once you get back on your feet. Most places have on-line applications. Start filling them out before you come back down. That way you'll possibly have a job waiting for you. Find one person who will let you use their phone number to do this. Sears.com,wal-mart.com,target.com all offer applications on-line. They also list the locations of the ones that are hiring near where you are. I would also see if maybe your friends would get you out once your home. Just remember that this is HIS loss not yours. Things for him won't be the same because YOU won't be there to be his "fall back"
2007-06-25 03:10:23 · answer #6 · answered by lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put the whole thing down to a bad experience and pick yourself up and move on.
We women do it all the time. I assure you that within a short time you will have your life back the way you want it.
2007-06-25 03:06:49 · answer #7 · answered by Afi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible, but first we need some help to get going, I was married for 30 years, and the divorce sucks, you need people you can talk to and lean on.
2007-06-25 04:10:44 · answer #8 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋