Recently, my bf has been asking a lot about getting married. He asked at what age I wanted to get married and I can't seem to give an answer... After some thinking I realized that with marriage, you can never be really ready because you don't really know what will happen. You just hope that the person you chose to marry will love you and will work with you to make the marriage fruitful and happy... The single life is also hard to leave behind unless you have some ulterior motives behind marrying eg. money, etc... agree or disagree?
2007-06-25 02:07:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not saying that all married people marry for money, please read the question well to avoid misunderstanding. What i'm saying is that there are some people who get married for money... some and all are not the same...
2007-06-25 03:17:31 · update #1
The reason to marry needs to be that you want to show your bethrothed your dedication and devotion, and that you are done looking now that you have found this person.
It's like giving yourself as a present, and they giving themself in return.
All the other reasons are less valid, I think. However nothing about marriage is a guaranttee. We want it to be a guaranttee though, and hopefully enter a marriage with the highest of hopes.
2007-06-25 02:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
disagree. Even in a single relationship you are hoping for the best. Nobody knows what is going to happen from day to day. I'm sure some marry for money, but most marry because they want to spend the rest of their lives with someone and they want to build a life together. Maybe have some kids get a house, or whatever, but they are totally committed to each other. You actually have to be an unselfish person to help make a marriage work. I didn't think leaving the single life behind was hard at all. I didn't stop living because I got married. We still go out occasionally with friends and that may be at a bar or a night club. The only difference now is we know who we are going home with at the end of the night, and we don't have to worry about catching some disease.
2007-06-25 09:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
disagree. You know when you are ready to get married and there is no magic age at which you become ready. It is a personal decision / choice within the individual and relationship they are in. The single life is only hard to leave behind when you arent ready to do so and implying that all married people are co-dependant gold diggers with no other way to survive is insulting.
**EDIT -- I did read the question well and had no trouble understanding, maybe you wrote it incorrectly if that isnt the message you wanted to convey.
"The single life is also hard to leave behind unless you have some ulterior motives" is taken exactly how its written. If you dont want it to be taken as such then Id change the wording around a bit.
2007-06-25 09:20:25 · answer #3 · answered by mrsNO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know if you are ready to be married. If you are ready get married if you are not ready dont get married. So many people just get married to get married. Only do it if you are really ready.
For myself it was easy God sent me my husband we have been married for almost 3 years now and i dont regret getting married i love him now more than i did when we first got married. But i also did not like the single life at all. I was ready to get married and have a family. Some people are ready some are not.
2007-06-25 09:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about love...perfectly good reason to marry. Not all people marry for any reason other than love and wanting to spend the rest of your life with that person. So I'd have to disagree.
2007-06-25 09:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy your life while you can. Do not rush into marriage. You really have to have the mind set to settle down. You will be ready one day. Be free and happy for now. Believe me, I've been through 2 marriages. good luck
2007-06-25 09:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by kim d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right about the never knowing what might happen. If you truly love this person and feel that they truly love you, then marriage seems like the next step to me.
2007-06-25 09:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by fruit bat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
disagree. i have been married for 3 yrs and we are in our early twentys and it is great. we didn't marry for convieniance we married because we truely love each other. if you are against marriage and you bf is ready than maybe you should stop being selfish and leave him so that he can find his true love that is for marriage.
2007-06-25 09:33:59 · answer #8 · answered by stt143 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I disagree. I don't miss a thing about being single. I'm happier than I ever thought was possible.
2007-06-25 12:03:25 · answer #9 · answered by smt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally agree with you hon,and it is exactly true what you said,,,xxxx
2007-06-25 09:12:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋