I don't trust people easily and make friends. Because of this, wherever i go, i upset people, especially girls, because they wish to talk and make friends but i don't make friends easily because my experiences tell me that noone appreciates me for what i am - a honest, no-hurt-nobody and helpful person - people think of it as a weakness. I do help strangers, and speak to people - i'm not anti social, but i cannot make friends unless they come to me and accept me for what i am. I used to have the max. no of friends when i was small. Now i try to avoid all my friends or i hardly have any true ones.
2007-06-25 01:57:09 · 7 answers · asked by bornonaplatein1988 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Lighten up.
2007-06-25 01:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by Afi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same for you. I think it just a matter of distrust about friendship and the genuiness of it amongst people. There are different people in this world. Some people are genuine and make good friends. Others just use people and treat them like marketable merchandise. I had a friend like that who just only wanted to do business dealings but never in-depth friendship such as caring and supporting each other. Just make money by selling goods and getting us to join in marketing stuff. don't worry about what others think. You're there because like any human being you have a valuable contribution to make and no matter how there is some value be it some knowledge to share, experiences, etc. Also, being friends to people and having others as friends, one of the guiding principles is having a respect for others, other peoples property, their feelings and before you can start being able to mingle and have friends you must ensure that you don't step on other people's toes. Mutual respect starts first as a guiding principal in how you conduct yourself. If your attitude is that others have to accept you and your ways, then there's the problem.
2007-06-25 09:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by Ken 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, i would say that you gotta lighten up. I mean, face it your being too hard on your friends and yourself. A person NEEDS friends, especially when their growing up. And it helps to have a best friend. You dont need alot of friends but at least 2 or 3 to lighten you up so you can make more and more. I used to be like you. I had only 3 friends, but then someone told me what i told you and i have dozons. Just be yourself, not the side your afraid of, but open up a new side, one that is easy going and gets you friends. Good luck!
2007-06-25 09:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by <3 aili-marie <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you are asking. If you are happy with the way things are, do nothing. If you want more friends, talk to people, be a little more open, take a risk. Its up to you.
I don't have a whole lot of friends, and I understand your perspective. Pick someone and try to get to know them. One step at a time....
2007-06-25 09:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by hottotrot1_usa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing wrong with you wanting people to accept you.Give them time they will learn to accept you for who you are. Finding good friends takes alot of work and time. Keep getting out to find new friends you'll find some that will grow on you.
2007-06-25 09:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by jack 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest counselling to help get over your past experiences.
2007-06-25 09:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
someday u will find someone like u and someone who will understand you ;till then just be yourself
2007-06-25 09:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by t m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋