OK, my husband and I met under very unusual circumstances. And people often ask us"how did you guys meet" (which in my country is considered a very private question but that here in America it seems very common). And for us to explain how we meet we have to explain some stuffs that we don't really want to get into, because it involves children, divorce, a mess. So, we try to simply answer as " in a bar" which is half true. Thing is they push for details and we end up going through the whole story which really annoys me.
So, my question is: how do I dismiss the question when people ask how we met?
Should I simply say " it's a long story we don't want to get into that right now?". I tried that but it seems people get even more curious.
" It's private we don't like to talk about it". Is it rude to say that?
Any suggestions?
2007-06-25 01:21:00 · 18 answers · asked by ♥ Karen ♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my country, to ask somebody where did you meet your husband is equivalent to ask what's the color of you underwear.....
2007-06-25 01:35:54 · update #1
The issue here it is not only the cultural difference but the details involved.
2007-06-25 02:03:12 · update #2
The details are complicated and i would prefer not to go into them, but in short it was in a bar.
2007-06-25 01:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by Edward M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Answer with "In my country, to ask somebody where did you meet your husband is equivalent to ask what's the color of you underwear so I am uncomfortable talking about it."
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Just keep it simple. Tell them you met at a bar through a mutual friend. Easy, done. The closest to the truth the better. They don't need to know anything more then that unless you are willing to tell them.
2007-06-25 01:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just make up some really crazy story (I was test-driving my new flying carpet and I noticed him dangling from the top of a tall tower, so I flew by, saved his life, and enchanted him into falling in love with me) or something equally silly, and tell that story with a completely straight face. People will either laugh and let it go at that, and if they are rude enough to persist in wanting to know the real story, simply say: "If I had wanted to tell you the real story, I wouldn't have made up this elaborate fairytale."
2007-06-25 02:06:16 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if you are ashamed of how u met than just make up a simple new story like you met in a bar like you said and when people ask for more say there wasn't much more you talked for a bit and exchanged numbers and have been together every since.
2007-06-25 02:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by stt143 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My now ex-husband and I met in a mental institution. LOL Sad, but true.....we used to just tell people that we were set up by mutual friends, which is halfway true.
I think your answer of "in a bar" is more than adequate. If they keep pushing the issue, just keep saying "in a bar" over and over.
2007-06-25 01:31:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Goodness, it's hard to believe that merely asking how two people met could be so terrible but if this is troubling to you then make a story to tell that works. In the States people ask because they love to hear how others got together and the romance of it all. If your story is embarassing then make one up that you can share and stick with it.
2007-06-25 01:48:12 · answer #6 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
And what country are you from? Why is asking someone how you meet so private? Seems strange, but i would just say it was in a bar and we are together and it really isn't important, i don't understand why they keep on asking anyway. Maybe you are being to secretive and it is peaking their interest more.
2007-06-25 01:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't say you don't want to talk about it because it sounds like it was a bad thing. Just tell them it was the usual overseas courtship and you both fell in love and sacrificed many things to be with each other. Then say you're very happy with him and maybe say something nice about him. That redirects the attention to him and maybe they'll start talking about him and how good he is or whatever. Sounds like it'd work if you ask me.
2007-06-25 01:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Give the " In a bar with friends" answer. If they keep asking for more details just ask "anything in particular you'd like to know?"
2007-06-25 02:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell them you met in prison then change the subject. If you don't want people to know then don't tell. Its nobodies business but yours so don't worry if these people are really your friends they will just leave it alone.
2007-06-25 01:39:14 · answer #10 · answered by snapdragon 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋